How do you tell a girl you love her if she is your best friend?

Question

I have known this girl for 2 years and i want to know how to express my feelings for her.

Answer 1

Friends can last forever. Girlfriends, not so long. Check your horny feelings at the door and picture her as your little sister.

Answer 2

This is exactly how i ended up in my current relationship (engaged to be married to my best friend) At first we had nothing more than a platonic friendship I was married-although it was a terrible marriage I kept that to myself for the sake of our young kids, he was recently divorced and also had kids. Over a period of years we were very close friends, our friendship grew as did our trust, loyalty and other things. I could tell that we both had stronger feelings for each other but I just assumed it would never go anywhere. I did finally confide in him about my troubled marriage. We remained best friends for over ten years, working together and being neighbors made it so that we were constantly together.

He finally told me why he first divulged to me his true feelings. He was on an airplane returning from a distant wedding when the plane had some terrible troubles , first with weather then mechanical difficulties. They had to make an emergency landing and fortuantely it was a safe landing and no one was hurt. Prior to landing he sent me an e-mail , not mentioning the plane trouble, he just told me that he loved me. Since we had often told each otjher we love the other, he wote "I don't mean than I love you as a friend, i want you to know that I am in love with you and i have been for a long time, it is o.k if you do not return the feelings, but i just wanted you to know. I did not do anythign for a while, i did feel a little akward at first, but it passed. Later that year I moved (same city but 15 miles aways) it was then , when I could not look out my window and see his house or car, for some reason just knowing that he was two doors down gave me comfort and made me feel safe at night) when i realized he was not just right there, i began to explore my own feelings. we talked one night & i did not want to hang up the phone. we went out the following weekend and that was three years ago. It has been the happiest three years of my life so far. I only wish we had not wasted so much time, but on the other hand i did have this nagging doubt, fear, for the first year. If we were making a mistake and the relatiosnhip did not work out I would be losing not only my boyfriend/lover, but also my best friend. That is a scary feeling. Who do you cry to, when the one who always catches your tears is the one you are now crying over?

I say, don't waste anymore time, just tell her and then the ball is in her court. Chances are the both of you have been flirting and leading up to this moment anyway. An emotional effair, relatonship etc. is far more intense than we relaize. The best part of being in love with your best friend is that you already know each other so well, you have seen each other at your best & your worst. Ther is no need to put on any aires, no need for that begining akward stage of being on your best behavior, it was the best decison i ever made/.

Good luck

Answer 3

Find a time when you're alone with her and just tell her you need to talk. If she's your friend, she'll listen. Start by saying how much you value your friendship with her, and what a great girl she is for you. Explain to her that you're starting to develop feelings for her in a more romantic way. Make sure to tell her how special she is. Ask her if she has feelings for you, and make a promise not to let it affect your friendship. If she reciprocates, she'll want you as more than just a friend. If she doesn't, it'll add an aspect of honesty to your relationship and she'll know your true feelings.

Answer 4

You two have been friends for two years, so you probably have a good idea of what she likes. Maybe she loves dancing, or horseback riding. You also need to know, is she shy? How does she act around you. If you are really serious about her, then sit her down, and explain. Tell her that you have been seeing her differently. Say that it would be nice if the two of you tryed dating. But make sure that you include "If it doesn't work out, then i still want to be friends" I really hope this works out for you. :)-Lime

Answer 5

I was talking to one of my friends younger sister for awhile, then things between me and the younger sister went south. so i started to hang out with the older sister and now she is my best friend. I have openly told her that i like her a lot. the older sister has told me plenty of times that she likes me and loves me. She has now been ignoring me, and her parents really dont like me now.They dont want her around me anymore, this girl and i ave a lot of love for each other. but her parents wont let us make it official. I think the older sister, the one i like is scared to get nto a relationship because she see's a future with me. she has never had feelings for a guy like she as towards me. can anybody help me with my situation and what i should do?

Answer 6

Be hangin out with her, kicking back just talkin & enjoying time and ask her if there is anyone she likes alot or has feelings for... I'm sure she'll ask you the same... Just tell her yes and she's right next/infront or whatever of you. And smile and be all sweet and see how she takes it.------If you do this let me know how it turns out~! :)

Answer 7

Flat out tell her. When you think the time is right. You might suprise her... but let her know. She can then decide to do what ever she wants with the information.

Answer 8

Make sure it is love and not lust. friendships can last forever. I would make sure your feelings are true. If they're then tell her. she might feel the same way as you do, but afraid to say it as well.

Answer 9

If you feel you love her, just come out with it and ask her if her feelings for you are growing too.

Answer 10

Shes your friend right? I think you know what will happen.. Friends know what friends think, so i think you know what she will say. will she end your friendship?Na