I did a blind date last week. But need to know how to proceed now, as the date says she may be interested in meeting again. Which beats a rejection. Any advice? Should i contact her back sooner than later or try to play it cool? Is she playing hard to get with her vague answer? Do women do that? What should i do on second date to attract her ? Really like her and want to make a good impression.
2007-01-21 05:39:03 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Basically - no one likes to be rejected! So, if a girl is interested... (and I would say she is based on her comment about getting together) call her when you feel like it.
I was set up on a blind date with a man... and I really like him... we talked about getting together the following weekend during the date... which we did.... we did not talk during the week we were apart which was good - it gave both of us time to think about the time we spent together...
We met the next weekend... and continued to make plans...
Now, we are married!
I think calling her - especially since it has been a week is NOT out of line!
Good luck!
2007-01-21 05:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by Glory 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "may be interested" could be her playing coy - you know, not wanting to sound too eagar or acting sort of mysterious to keep your interest. The only way to know for sure is to call her and ask her out again, perhaps wait until 24 hours passes since you spoke to her last and preferably speak to her in person as opposed to leaving a message.
As for a second date, did you gather any information from your first date discussions to know what she likes/dislikes? (If not, you're going to have to work on your conversational/listening skills). Is she a dinner and a movie type? (if so, let her pick the movie). Does she like any sporting events that you could get tickets to? Is there a trade show or event coming up in your city? There's only two things that I'd avoid - places that take either of you out of your comfort zone (not time for new experiences just yet) and places where you cannot talk for long spans of time.
The two things that impress me most about a guy is:
1. Consideration of his appearances. (If you have trouble in this area ask a girl friend to help you groom for the next big date)
2. Consideration of others - which includes not just how you treat her but those around you.
2007-01-21 06:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by Shorty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's already been a week? What are you waiting for? Call her. If you talked much on the first date, that was a good sign. Did you have things in common? Did she mention anything she was interested in? If you had a good time together on the first date, do something similar. When you do meet her, maybe a small bunch of flowers? Freasias smell beautiful and are inexpensive and small.
When you do meet her again, you can show you are interested by listening and making mental notes on what she likes and finding something else that you will enjoy doing together.
Good Luck!
2007-01-21 05:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would give it a day or so in contacting her, dont mess around playing games, they are really annoying and pretty pathetic!! Maybe she's being vague cos she doesn't know how you feel and she was worried about making a tit out of herself!? Just take a leap and be honest, tell her you would like to meet up again!
Good luck, if she's into playing games with people then dump her now, she's not worth the hassle! Just be yourself, relax, have fun
2007-01-21 06:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by keeley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could call her up now since it's already been a week.... Just be yourself. Ask questions about her so you seem interested in her. Take her on a really nice date to impress her. I take it you went for dinner on the first date??? Maybe take her for a picnic... movies are for later cos you don't really get to talk much during a movie... Good luck! Oh yes, and her answer that she wants to see you again is a really good sign!!!
2007-01-21 05:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by Me! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say contact her sooner than later! Why is dating so complicated nowadays, "best not to seem too keen", "wait 3 days to text", "play it cool" as you say. Aaaaaargh, why can't it be straightforward, if you are attracted to her then tell her now, what is waiting going to change? Hopefully she likes you and if she does, why make her wait a few days to hear from you?
As for the second date, be enthusisatic, but mainly be yourself, you have nothing to prove! She will like you (or not) for who you are and that's it
And yes, women can play hard to get as well, we don't want to seem too keen, it's a game played both ways, unfortunately...silly isn't it!
2007-01-21 06:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by sbro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be full on, but dont make her wait! keep it pretty cool, because I'm guessin with the first date being blind it would have been kinda tense. If i was her and I thought the date went ok, n Id want to try n see you in a more relaxed environment..i'd say forget the fancy dinner..too formal! u need to make her feel relaxed..so think back to what she said on the date and give her a call askin her if shed like to go out with u again. and try to take her somewhere where she'll feel more comfortable.
2007-01-21 06:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd contact her once and ask her for a date. Don't play games by waiting a certain amount of time. Just call her and see if she wants to do something--make sure you give her enough notice and if she says she is busy, ask her what other day might work for her. If she is vague, I'd assume she is not interested.
2007-01-21 05:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems like she's not sure about you. The date may have went well, but it almost seems as if she wasn't as impressed as she would've liked to have been. Don't contact her too soon, she clearly needs time to think. (Two weeks max!) On the flip side, sometimes women do that kind of thing (vague answers) to see how interested you are in them. She may be wondering about what impression she made also. I say after a couple weeks, give her a call, (if you haven't already!) if she seems hesitant, leave the chic alone.
2007-01-21 05:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by miss understood 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not juvenile at all. But if it was such a great time, why shouldn't he be the one calling you, either the day after or to you anytime in the future? He should be the one intiating the contact normally if he's interested in you. Unless you really think a lot of this guy and are afraid he may not have been overly stricken by you and you need some reassurance by intiating contact.
2016-03-29 07:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋