I resently hooked up with this guy, I like him and he really likes me, but the other day when I was talking to him on the phone he was telling me what other girls have let him do with them, don't get me wrong I know that he has done things with other girls and I don't care, but he went into pretty good detail and I am scared that he might expect me to do the same things, I don't know what to do. Should I just push the thought out of my mind? He tells me that if I'm not comferable doing something to tell him and he'll stop. Or should I tell him how I feel, I don't want to get to gitty on feeling though. Any advice on what to do? Please help!!!
2007-01-21 05:34:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it helps any we are 17.
2007-01-21 05:45:10 · update #1
It is not about sex.
2007-01-21 05:56:52 · update #2
Don't do it, any of it.
2007-01-21 05:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that there are certain things you just wouldn't feel comfortable with, and if he's a nice, understanding guy who really cares about you (and not just the physical part of a relationship), then he should be ok w/that.
If you only "recently" got together w/him, there should be time before you have to be concerned about this ,'tho, right? Being upfront and honest seems like the right way to handle it. But you also need to consider just how long you need to know him before doing anything physical w/him at all. I mean, it's not smart to rush into anything (in my opinion).
2007-01-21 05:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't do what he would like you to do, then someday, he might get tired of you. It's not your fault; he's just got high expectations from his past experiences. I guess you can say he's spoiled in that regard. I would suggest that you communicate with him honestly and ask him if he's going to be ok with you not doing something. If he isn't ok with it then you should probably break off the relationship now before you get too involved.
2007-01-21 05:42:00 · answer #3 · answered by Russell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like what hes doing let him do it.im sure some of the things my husband does to me he has done before but i still enjoy it because its something we are doing together now.look at it this way if you dont let him do what he likes doing he might look further for someone who will.dont get me wrong,if he is hurting you tell him to stop,but if it feels good go for it.if you dont try it how will you know whether you like it?
2007-01-21 05:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by starr67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's telling you about what he supposedly did to other girls, what makes you think that after he's used you he won't talk about you the same way?
Take it from an older woman, the guy is a loser.
2007-01-21 05:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably just wants to do dirty things with you as well. If that's the kind of relationship you want then stay with him. If you're looking for a gentleman then stop talking to him. Whatever your decision is, Don't be stupid with choices. Don't do anything that you don't want at all!!!!!
2007-01-21 05:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by Yvette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and let him know how you feel. If he cares for you he will understand and stop so that you are comfortable
2007-01-21 05:37:31 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ylou should always have an open mind when it comes to sex. it may not sound that great but try and if you dont like it tell him. you need to be honest and open with your partner.
2007-01-21 05:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by Candy H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel.I mean that's what he said.I think he wants to knkow you more.So by telling him how you feel he will learn more about you.
2007-01-21 05:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by Hotti_Hot_Hotti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your an old fashion girl and you like nice sex, not wild sex.also you don,t feel right doing wild sex your not that type of stuff.
2007-01-21 05:42:23 · answer #10 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your bf is pushing u in to doing IT and u don't want to than...
just don't tell him your not ready,and if he is still pushing u ..dump him
but if he understands u you should stay with him
2007-01-21 05:44:31 · answer #11 · answered by sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋