Me & my GF are going for quite a long time but the thing is now i wana leave my GF.
Wana leave her coz she seems to be having problems with me getting physical (Not talking abt sex).
She doesnt react properly when she gets close, while kissing etc.. i can clearly see tht she is not comfortable in getting physical contact with me.
Rest, she is good & caring and most of all i really luv her.
But, i think is physical closeness is equally important & i am sure i can never get this from her.
So shall i leave her & save ourselves from future hurt?
Talked with her abt issue - No use. Also, given lot of time 2her 2 adjust - No use
2007-01-21 05:22:41 · 11 answers · asked by Romps 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You all are too different. Move on and both of you will be happier
2007-01-21 05:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by Soldier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have good senses. Growing apart physically can be a sensory indication to you there is an emotional strain within your GF. Some people call it a sixth sense, or a gut feeling. Guy's can possess this feeling as well as girls.
There is an aged expression which exsist and might be good to recall: : "If you love something set it free, if it comes back it is yours, if it does not come back it never was".
It is very respectul and mature of you to separate in such a friendly way.
2007-01-21 05:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your coming on a bit too strong.
how bout you start of with little touches on the arm when your talking to her. and then slowly just move to a hug, kiss on the forehead (that will show her that you REALLY care and that your just not trying to get physical.) and then maybe like a kiss and stuff.
if you really love her i think you could hang in there for a lil bit more time. i dont think you will save you or her from hurt if you leave her. you'll always wonder what could have happened if you had just waited longer. its like waiting for a bus for the longest time not knowing if you missed it (in your case- she doesnt like you) or when you leave the bus stop- not knowing that it was late and got there right after you left and you'll wonder for the rest of the day (i do at least)
stupid analogy...i kno but it makes sense
2007-01-21 05:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by <3pirate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her, you'd be able to wait, but if the physical closeness is really an issue, maybe its her and not you. She may not feel comfortable enough to trust you and she feels like she is the one who is getting hurt. If you feel that it is fun doing everything else, but the physical closeness and you need that in order to further the relationship, its time to say good-bye. It seems like it isn't love you feel, but a like that is associated with spending time together.
2007-01-21 05:27:51 · answer #4 · answered by Janet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've taken all the right steps -- giving her space, communicating with her, not pressuring her for sex...
If you're ready to leave tell her exactly why you are: You love her but feel that physical intimacy--not just sex--is important to a relationship and you feel that she is not comfortable with that.
Tell her that when she feels she's able to be more comfortable with you to call you, but until then you feel like the relationship has reached its natural end....
2007-01-21 05:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by jered_gold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They could be a problem in her life or was, maybe someone got to close to her (in a way that she wasn't willing- if you know what i mean) just talk to her and try asking questions (gently). That is the only thing i know why she would be acting this way about getting close. I could be wrong, good luck
2007-01-21 05:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a guy once before and I had a similiar issue.. he was really intense (as far as wanting to have that physical aspect of the relationship) and it sort of intimidated me.. I guess you could say and ultimately turned me off.
IF you really care for her you'd give her more time and STOP pushing the issue or physical stuff on her. RESPECT her space- take it slower if needed. Enjoy her for WHO she is, stop dwelling on what she's NOT.
2007-01-21 05:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have discussed it with her and there is no solution that suits you both, then it is probably time to part ways so you can each have the opportunity to meet someone who is a better match, if that is desired.
Good luck!
2007-01-21 05:27:14 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your probably rushing your guy's relationship, she doesnt feel comfortable with you doing that yet...just wait, once she starts getting closer and closer to you then the time is right, but if you rush, its over......love is all about timing my friend......
2007-01-21 05:29:50 · answer #9 · answered by 88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u make her uncomfortable. You might be rushing her..
2007-01-21 05:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋