Im not really sure how to explain it But here goes..I told my bf Yesterday I might be going to a dog show today but this morin when he got online I told him I wanted to see him instead..and he was like "I thought we were skipping today,we talked about it last night" but we didnt I had nothing to do with it he just said we SHOULD skip today. And he just started getting mad cause I didnt say anything last night about it until this morin. He was asking Why I didnt say anything but it. I dont get it . It really hurt me but it just seems like he didnt care he was to busy worryin about being tired caz he worked last night and having to do things around the house but if u love someone does it matter weather they told u they wanted to see u the night before or that morin. I just want him to know im hurt and at least put some effect into showing me he cares cause it was hurtful. Even if i have to lie to make him feel bad about doing it I will .Just wish he knew how much he hurt me. :(
2007-01-21 05:18:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would you want to lie? That would only complicate things in your relationship. I think you have to take some responsibility here. YOU made the decision to go to a dog show and told him so. He probably made other plans. Even if they were to catch up on sleep, do some things around his home. Why should he have to change his plans now just because you want to be with him? I think you owe him an apology for being so demanding, and I think you should really think twice before you add lies to your relationship, or have you already done that?
2007-01-21 05:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by MommaSchmitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him how you truely feel and tell him too. Don't be afraid to hold back your sad expressions. I think he might be a little stressed out becasue of all the work he had done the night before and probably just wants some time relax and cool down. Give him some time and then confront him when he's in a better mood.
2007-01-21 13:23:38 · answer #2 · answered by Valencia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to see your boyfriend every day. Grow up already. If you told him you were probably going to a dog show, then he took that to mean he could take today and sleep or do his laundry or whatever it is guys do on their own time. Let it go and try to act like you're not 5 years old!
2007-01-21 13:23:15 · answer #3 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him to know how much he hurt you then you should tell him. Don't lie just to make him feel bad. If he wants to skip the day then by all means LET HIM! Don't answer the phone when he calls you, don't go see him, don't do anything that has to do with him that day. If he acts funny about it remind him that it was him that wanted to skip the day.
2007-01-21 13:25:52 · answer #4 · answered by diamoniquejazz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Respectfully, you need to learn to make a decision and stick with it. People can change their minds once in awhile, but constantly doing it makes you look fickle. Hurt will only lead to more hurt if you start lying to him to "get to him"--he may "abandon ship". Go straight with him regarding your feelings, but think before you speak. Once words are out of your mouth, they can never be taken back. Sometimes words spoken in anger suffer this fate. Cool off and talk to him when you have.
2007-01-21 13:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you told him you were doing something else the night before and then change your mind, he might've felt that he was able to have a day to just relax and do nothing and now you want to do something with him.
Or.....
he made other plans and now he's going to feel obligated to spend time with you because you changed your plans.
2007-01-21 13:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by Serendipity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe your boyfriend an apology. You changed plans on him and then expected him to "jump to" when you called. You sound very young. Do not lie, or try and make him feel bad. That will only backfire on you. You might want to read some books about relationships -- and also think about his feelings. Please talk to an adult for some guidance in this area.
2007-01-21 13:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by Isabella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Express yourself. My guess is you told him you had plans so he made plans of his own and NOW you wanna spend time with him and its possible the doesnt want to spend time with you (It doesnt mean he doesnt love ya) BUT even in a commited relationship we are all individuals and need to spend time alone or doing something without our mates. You basically spoiled his plans and I think he just didnt know how to express that to you.
2007-01-21 13:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He made other plans....if he gave that many excuses to NOT see you, he's got something else goin on. Probably explains the break up, too. His idea, huh? Move on....
2007-01-21 13:25:23 · answer #9 · answered by Soldier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and explain how upset you r BUT you must not ever lie once you do and he finds out his trust in you will break.xx
2007-01-21 13:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by deliciousde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋