My daughter is 3 y.o.She constantly refuses to go to bed in the evening.She doesn't sleep during day(so I hope she will be tired in the evening).She gets up at 7 am and goes to daycare for a whole day.I go to college in the morning(I'm 18) and get back at 3 pm.I study and at 5:30 I go to pick up my daughter.After that she needs all my attention and she receives it.But she is not spoilt.Anyway at 8 pm she has to go to bed and after the fairy tale and all the hugs and glasses water it's 8:30.I say goodbight and go to my room to study.Half an hour later she comes and says she can't fall asleep.I don't know what to do.In the daycare and at home nothing bothers her.I think she is interested why I stay up late and she has to be in bed.I live only with her and I don't have my parents' help.What should I do?
2007-01-21 05:11:09 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Maybe she is just missing you. if this is your schedule for the whole week Monday through Friday then she is only getting ruffly 15 hrs of your time a week. I would say that you do need to be stern when you are putting her to bed. But you should start some thing as a reward. Like if she can do this all week or at least five times then you two will go do some thing together. (park or something out side of the house.) We have a responsibility chart. When he does some thing good he gets a magnet and when he gets it all filled up he gets a big day. With the family or parent of his choice. He usually wants to go to the kids museum. "kids and stuff"
I am not trying to make you feel bad about trying to go to school and better your self for your family. But on the other hand you pick her up at 5:30 then you two are going to have to eat. So how much one on one time is she really getting?
On the flip side bed time is some thing all of us have to figure out how to do. I just now am getting my 3 year old to bed at 7:30. He gets up around 8. He does not take naps. Unless he is really cranky.
I wish the both of you the best..
2007-01-21 05:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by mrs.mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my daughter is only 18 months old but I have been taking care of children from the age of 12 (I'm 20 years old now) When she comes out and complains she cant sleep just bring her back to her room and place her in bed and be stern (not yell) and tell her its time to go to sleep no more fussing, then shut the door and walk out. If she comes out again this time don't say anything and take her back to her room and in the bed then shut the door and walk way. It may seem stressful for the first little while but continue this as long as you have to even if she is crying. You are the parent and says what goes not her. She is 3 and will push her limits as much as she can but be Strong and stand your ground she will learn. Good - luck
2007-01-21 13:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by 0kitten 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does she sleep at the daycare? Most kids that age take naps, or at least have a "rest time" period. Talk to her teacher and see if she has any good advice. Many daycare providers are also parents and can offer help.
As to sleeping, I would simply tell her it's time to go to bed. I work at a daycare- when kids have trouble falling asleep we have them lay on their tummies. Then we rub their backs- this usually does the trick in 10-15 minutes, if not sooner.
Keep the bedtime routine short and sweet- 15 minutes tops. Try to avoid water or fluids for 2 hours before bedtime- this will avoid an active bladder when she needs to go to sleep.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-21 13:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by sunshinegrover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is napping at daycare, ask them to let her play quietly at naptime.
At home when she comes to you after half an hour, take her back to her bed and tuck her in again. Tell her you have to go to bed and you can't go until she's asleep. If she thinks you are just making sure she's ok before you go to sleep, she might settle down and go to sleep.
This worked with my daughter, but not my son. Do not let her sleep with you. This is a very tough habit to break.
2007-01-21 13:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by kiera70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two options in my opinion.
A) you can put a baby gate across her door to keep her in her room; after you put her to bed you need to ignore her if she gets up and stands at the gate, even if she cries. She is playing on your guilt that you haven't spent the day with her.
B) you can spank her when she gets out of bed.
2007-01-21 16:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋