2007-01-21 05:05:13 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would you want to? They hurt you once so why would you want to give them the opportunity to do it again?
2007-01-21 05:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by huskie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that until you can put your hurt into words do not communicate with them. Take time to heal...piece together how the hurt manifested...when you reach that point of understanding you will most likely see that your pain was not ALL the other persons fault...By, this I mean that you some how contributed to the series of events that caused the pain. It is amazing but true..in relationship to others we often are so shocked by the hurt we have a delayed reaction to it...I believe when we first start to feel pain we should say OUCH ! Loudly enough for the other person to hear us..If they don't respond ...guess what ? You're in relationship with someone who doesn't give a hoot about your feelings...when you can realize that..(.the sooner the better.) You can then choose to invest your time & emotions in relationship to someone else who proves themself , "WORTHY" of you in their life....Hope this helps....
2007-01-21 05:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The middle finger is a popular form of communication these days. If you can't avoid communication with this person; I suggest you show grace. I wish I had someone tell me that years ago; I ended up looking like a spiteful *** when the other party should have ended up looking bad. If your behaviors are out of pain/bitterness/spite, I recommend you swallow it and do/say nothing. Learn how to make a poker face in these situations and then slightly shrug your shoulders.
2007-01-21 05:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you should wait a while but i think you should communicate with them because from what i can gather you obviously have some questions to ask and tell them how you feel so that you can move on.There is power in forgiveness and also you want to avoid taking any unresolved issues into your next relationship
2007-01-21 08:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all work out why you want to communicate with them - what do you want to achieve? If you want them to know how much they hurt you, then perhaps it's time you stopped being their victim and moved on. If you want them to realise how much they hurt you and change their ways, you might consider they don't have the capacity to do this. If you want them to squirm, you could turn the knife and make yourself feel better but I think you're still in victim mode and should save your energy. You could put it down to experience and steer clear of someone who hurt you so badly - let them choose another victim and think yourself lucky you escaped.
2007-01-21 06:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not avoid them - you'll only fall into the same patterns with other ppl and not actually resolve anything. also if you care for them it should mean something to you to want to work on your relationship with them. You will need to open up and express what has bothered you - but if you feel they aren't taking you seriously it's best to move on. Sometimes ppl just aren't aware of the pain they've caused. It might be good for u to shine a little light on the situation.
2007-01-21 05:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Floats_Ur_Boat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long ago did they hurt you? IF recently, give it some time so you can cool down and think clearly. After awhile try writing a letter, explaining your feelings, just state the facts and then just let it go. Leave it up to them to make the next move.
2007-01-21 05:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by jan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person deliberately hurts you and doesn't care, then get away from them. They aren't good enough for you. If they have hurt you and don't understand, then that is different. As a girl, I have been hurt by guys, and I find out later that it wasn't their intention, nor did they realize they hurt me. Once they see how you percieved the situation, and you see how they did, you usually come to a new understanding and you grow in your relationship. Good luck to you.
2007-01-21 05:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by Lalalalalala 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your question poses the question of why would you want to communicate with them if they hurt you so much?
If it is an ex lover and you have no way of avoiding them I would be friendly but quite closed with them, make sure they always see you looking good, laughing and joking, that will make them wonder what the hell they did wrong!
2007-01-21 05:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by Poppy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to find a way to forgive them first. Then you can communicate. To do that, you have to change your perspective of the situation. It will eventually help you grow. Good Luck!
2007-01-21 05:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by GoodGuy53 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to communicate with that kind of people.Take it one day at a time.
2007-01-21 05:12:38 · answer #11 · answered by j13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋