Ive been with someone for three years. but recently, ive had HUGE feelings for another person. we get on really well. he's one of those people that i can just talk to for hours and never have to think what to say. i'm 16 now. And i've been with my boyfriend since i was 13. we've kind of grown up together. And we're so close. I love him so much. I mean, i feel so good when im with him. He has cheated on me before, but that was in our first year of being together. But i've never had the thrill of being with someonelse. I've never kissed anyone but him. I've never done anything with anyone but him. My first time was with him.. Thats a big thing to me. I love him so, so much. And i feel so bad about liking someonelse. Also, i talk to this other boy everyday. we're close. have been for months. I havnt told him i like him. But He always tells me how much he likes me. All he ever goes on about is how great we'd be together. I'm just so stuck. Please help me...
2007-01-21 05:02:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It’s good to love another deeply, but also remember to allow life to ‘evolve’, and if things begin to change, it doesn’t always mean it’s a bad thing. You are still very young, and you have so many years ahead of you. You don't need to be with this same boy for your entire life. Tell him you love him, but can never truly and fully appreciate him intill you can see that there is no other guy out there that will make you happier. Tell him that you think you should take a small break to see if what you have is really for real. Try going out with this other guy. If it doesn't seem right, then you kno that this current guy is the right one for you right now. If he really loves you, he will understand, and let him now, that this isn't good bye, but a "see you later" and just make sure that you reassure him that you love him and care about him. I'm sure this will turn out well for you. You don't have to dump him, but if you feel that the other guy is better for you, then i kno that you will make the right choice. Follow your heart, don't let anyone else make this decision for you. Just because life is changing, doesn't mean it's a bad thing, life changes all the time, embrace it. Good Luck. <3
2007-01-21 05:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by sadie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is 3-1/2, you are the adult. Somehow, you need to figure out how to stay in control without hitting, screaming, or losing your mind. The best thing I did for my kids and myself was a college course called "Positive Guidance." He is old enough to be evaluated by the local school system to make sure his development is on track. Call the elementary school where he would attend Kindergarten when he is ready and ask about their program to evaluate preschoolers. Spanking is not the answer. The reason we all know that is because we were spanked and for some of us, it was horrid. In this day and time, anyone can call CPS on you for little or no reason. The child is getting attention from you and he knows it. He doesn't care it's negative attention, he's just found a way to get under your skin. You, the father and this child need to have a meeting with the pediatrician and from there, a child psychologist. Someone needs to get to the root of this child's anger before he does some serious damage, or before you hurt him. Drugs could have been a problem when you first got him, but not now. Have either of you smoked and quit recently? We've seen kids of smokers that go through withdrawal while at preschool because they are used to second hand smoke at home. I remember being told I'd be doing those children a favor if I sent them to their bookbags and told them to inhale the smokey smell in it from their homes. I've never done this, but I can understand it. Believe it or not, even though you don't do sugar, there are many, many allergens in the foods we eat everyday that we don't even think about. Find a pediatrician that will take you seriously. Good luck to you.
2016-05-24 05:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only 16, this may sounds hard but its going to be the truth.
This current boyfriend of yours I guarantee you won't be with when your out of high school. The odds are against you, plus if he has Cheated on you before he isn't worth the time.
Your young, so don't worry about hurting this guys feelings. Its much better to dump him now, then string him along a few more years and then dumping him later.
Trust me on this one, when your out of high school, Everybody goes there own way. You will probably end up marrying someone you meet in college (presuming you go to college)
I say, dump him, hang out with the new guy but don't get too serious with any of them.
2007-01-21 05:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump your current boyfriend.
you're 16 years old, and part of finding out who you really are is having friendships and relationships with many people.
right now you're surrounded by tons of people your own age that share the same interests. take advantage of this time because when you're out of school, the world is not the same place and it becomes much more difficult to find people to connect with.
have fun when you're young! my god, you want to kiss someone else because you think it would be thrilling....DO IT, but don't sneak around. be kind to everyone. people deserve to be treated with respect.
2007-01-21 05:11:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be playing the field and seeing what life has to offer. Dont get stuck with thinking that you have to be tied down at 16 years of age. Experiment, just be safe
2007-01-21 05:10:34 · answer #5 · answered by lightning14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your boyfriend that you can't properly appreciate him unless you've been out with other people. Let him know that you care deeply for him, but think it best if each of you went out with others for a while. Tell him its not 'goodbye', but see you in a while! If you dont do this...quit leading the other boy on! Don't say you're not....because if you weren't he wouldnt keep making advances!
2007-01-21 05:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by Soldier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the time you're 40 you'll be with 9 guys. And then you'll look like your mother which no one wants to touch.
2007-01-21 05:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i would do is tell your current boyfriend that you really do love him BUT that you want to make sure that your feelings are as strong as you think they are by taking a break from your relationship. if you really do love him it wont feel right seeing the other guy.
2007-01-21 05:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by Chris's Baby Girl '07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋