single mom here. Met this guy a year ago.We have broke up and got back together a couple of times. reasons why we have broke up-He gets stressed easy, cant handle stress-has been known to lose his temper-thinks my kids are disobedient-has lottery ticket gambling problem.Reasons we got back together-he stopped buying lottery tickets, started bonding&spending more time with kids, is really trying hard to make it work.anyway, i broke up with him again because my power went out for three days and we had no heat or lights and he left and we had to fend for ourselves. I told him i wouldnt be with someone who didnt have my back when times were tough.He just emailed me this super sweat, im sorry email saying he left because he thougtht i wanted him to cause he was stressed and making me nervious,he said he tried to call to check on us but couldnt get through(my phone went out too) he said it was miscommunication and he realizes he was wrong for leaving. i love him but not sure if he is THE ONE
2007-01-21 04:57:32 · 12 answers · asked by justme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here's why you souldn't date this guy:
What do i do...bf problems-should i keep playing the on again off again game?
single mom here. Met this guy a year ago.We have broke up and got back together a couple of times. reasons why we have broke up-He gets stressed easy, cant handle stress-has been known to lose his temper-thinks my kids are disobedient-has lottery ticket gambling problem.Reasons we got back together-he stopped buying lottery tickets, started bonding&spending more time with kids, is really trying hard to make it work.anyway, i broke up with him again because my power went out for three days and we had no heat or lights and he left and we had to fend for ourselves. I told him i wouldnt be with someone who didnt have my back when times were tough.He just emailed me this super sweat, im sorry email saying he left because he thougtht i wanted him to cause he was stressed and making me nervious,he said he tried to call to check on us but couldnt get through(my phone went out too) he said it was miscommunication and he realizes he was wrong for leaving. i love him but not sure if he is THE ONE
Your KIDS are your first priority. Personally I think this guy sound like a looser for sooo many reasons. But if you are confused enough to post this then you know that too. Do what is right for your KIDS! Get rid of this bad example that goes in and out of their lives.
2007-01-21 05:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by sofun 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't say he is the one if he gets stressed that easily and doesn't approve of the way you are raising your kids and for someone who is suppose to care about you to just leave you and your kids with no heat or lights is just wrong. As for him trying to call and your phone was out, why didn't he just go back over to your place when he couldn't reach you? And your right, why be with someone who leaves when times get tough? I would definately do some serious thinking about this guy. You and your kids deserve better. Good Luck
2007-01-21 13:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by Lace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry that you have a difficult time, but what I read.....he is not making it easy and if times get a little to hard, he is out of your life again and when he emails you and says that it was miscommunication, that he is lien to you. I think you should not get back together, you need a man who can really be there for you and does not stress when some little thing does not goes his way.
Life is hard and stressing, but he.....he really needs to get his own life. You have kids, think about yourself and not him, because he is really not thinking about you when you need him to.
Good luck with this.
2007-01-21 13:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by DeeDee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH PLEASE MOVE ON ... You are being used there are good men out there YES HARD TO FIND.. but your kids should be most important to you right now not having a man around. you say love him look deep in your heart is it cause you have someone to have sex with that is not love love is that person that has your back good and bad times. loves your kids as his not disobedient he dont know much about kids i take it. thats a cop out stressed easy. and the only reason he starts spending time with your kids is to get back in to your bed. if he really cared for you and your kids he would not have left you all in the cold would have you someplace safe and warm.. do yourself and kids a favor and get out there met new men. dont settle just to have sex. you and your kids are worth more. remember that ...
2007-01-21 13:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by tweettreat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes not the one because of this then you need to think harder. My wife and I've been through things like this believe me we know! Just think hard and look for his reactions. Just keep in mind no one will think of your kids as you do or ever will!! Kids will be kids Stress of not winning the lotto is his inner problem help him on that, that's more bonding time for you both. I hope you all are doing better!!(kids and you)
2007-01-21 13:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by travis c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him after a years worth of dating....he needs to make a choice!! either he wants to be with you or he doesn't it will hurt both of you for awhile but in the end you will find hte right person and it will all be worth it!!! if he gets nervous around you & your kids find some one who is more relaxed and laid back not osem one who is uptight all the time!!! and yes, there seems to be a communication error here, but atleast you all are dealing with it!! tell him your not gonna put up with it any more your kids will get attatched and will get hurt and it will not be good!!! you gotta be careful and protective with your kids too and look at the pros and cons to the situation some times its hard but you deserve to be happy!!! an so does he maybe he will find a uptight girl and then can be "uptight " together!!! good luck!!!
2007-01-21 13:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by southernspring2010 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl please! If he can't support you in the bad times he is not going to be any good to you anytime. He is just putting you on the shelf so he can use you when it's convenient for him!All he's doing is feeding you excuses. You are a mama and you don't have time for that type of drama!Lose the zero and get a hero that will love you and respect your children and support you when times are hard.
2007-01-21 13:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by diamoniquejazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must do what your heart and mind tells you. Personally, I would not have an ounce of respect for a guy who bails on me when I truly needed him. To me, a decent man would have been there for you to help you and your family be as comfortable as possible during the power outage.
I wish you luck with your decision. : )
2007-01-21 13:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What did he do for those 3 days? Where was his concern then? Is there any way he'd be using you if you were to take him back? Give him one last try...but make sure he understands this is it, that you dont like the yo-yo love games. Then if you break up again....STICK TO YOUR GUNS!
2007-01-21 13:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by Soldier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you listen to yourself you already KNOW~stay away,its not worth putting yourself thru this again.Off is better than bad.
2007-01-21 13:03:36 · answer #10 · answered by Smiles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋