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i asked a question earlier stating my daughter is 9 turning 17. and the answers i got did get me thinking one in particular.. the answer that stated that she might be scared of my medical situation. well evidently she was. i came rite out and asked her why her behavior has been horrible lately and she stated with tears in her eyes that she is scared that when i go to the hospital ill never come back to her.. and tears just let loose. we both cried and i told her that mommy will be fine and when she gets out of school daddy will bring her to see me. and she seemed fine with that. the question is did i handle the situation okay? is she really okay. she was very clingy after the whole dicussion also.




i go in for surgery on thurs. jan 25 and will be home pending no complications on jan.27.

2007-01-21 04:51:40 · 5 answers · asked by mommie 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting Grade-Schooler

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Yes, this was obviously bothering her, and as her mother, it's your place to take care of your child's needs and concerns... and you did. By having this conversation, she probably realizes that you will be fine- since daddy's gonna take her to you. She loves you very much, and crying together in this situation probably reassured her that she's not the only one nervous, and that your do notice her and changes in her. She probably wanted your attention while she was sure you would be there, and you gave it to her, but in a different way, a way that hopefully reassured both of you. You did GREAT! I'm sure she's clingy to show that she cares, instead of acting out.

I'll keep you in mind the 25- Good Luck!

2007-01-21 05:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by Sara 3 · 0 0

You handled the situation appropriately. It's normal. The same thing happened to me when I was older than your daughter. It's tough on anyone, not just your daughter, to think that there may be a possibility that a loved one is in trouble. It's really very scary. She just loves you so much, she doesn't want to lose you or change anything that's going on right now. She'll worry about it some until the surgery and will be fine afterwards. So, you were great about handling the situation and good luck during the surgery.

2007-01-21 13:28:53 · answer #2 · answered by sci-girl1492 2 · 0 0

well i am not a parent i am only 14 years old but if i would be her well i dont know i would be fine for the moment so like you told her "when she gets out of school daddy will bring her to see me"
maybe he knows that she will have the chance to see you after the surgery, or/and that you wont die(sorry for this) and you will be home with her after this. So everything will be fine.I dont know why do you ask this here just think that you are her and she is you.But i wish you luck and i hope that every thing will go fine in the surgery day.

2007-01-21 13:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

i believe you handled the situation very well. i'm pretty sure she is ok, just still a little scared b/c she is so young. plus that shows she loves you very much if she worries about you like that. it is very hard to lose a parent and that thought is in her mind. the thought really isn't going to settle until she sees you home from the hospital and well.

2007-01-21 13:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by camsweets1718 2 · 0 0

This is normal. Thank God she was honest. You did fine. She is scared. There is nothing you can do to change that - the best thing is to have her dad be very supportive of her while you take care of yourself. God be with you.

2007-01-21 13:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0 0

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