I was chatting online with this woman I have known for about a year, told her about an item I had won in a raffle, and asked if she might want it. She told me I could send it to her as a Christmas present (this was back in Dec.), but the shipping would cost too much. I asked if that was a Yes or No, and she said "No, due to costs".
Well silly me, I sent it anyway assuming she really wanted it. However when it arrived she did nothing but mock it and tell me how worthless it is to her.
Now I'll admit it was a pretty lame gift that I got for free, but still couldn't she have just said "Thank You for the Christmas present!" in the spirit of giving and then toss it in the rubbish behind my back? She lives in another country so it's not like I would have known.
So the question is do I send more gifts for birthdays & Christmas that I've paid for when she was so ungrateful for the one I got for free?
2007-01-21 04:48:36 · 27 answers · asked by NYRoadRage 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
yes, she seems to be an ungrateful SOB,..it was free to her. I could see if it were doggy doo
it was a gesture of kindness.
Don't ever speak to her again.
2007-01-21 04:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by iroc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Someone who mocks your gift and tells you how worthless it is after they'd asked you for it? That sounds pretty rude. I have someone like that in my life, unfortunately, they're a close relative.
To give them the benefit of the doubt, maybe they think making fun of the gift is a joke between you, because you think it's worthless too...
I'm not aware of the tone and manner of the exchanges, but I'd think hard before giving another gift to this person...but my gifts are generally things I have made (I'm an artist) and I choose them with great thought toward what the receiver would like.
2007-01-21 04:54:43 · answer #2 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got this gift for free and you sent it to her even though she said it would cost too much. I think she was being honest with you about the gift when she mocked and told you it was worthless. Honesty is important to me more than Thanks.
I also believe the act of giving is more important than whether or not you get a Thank You. If you are still friends over this, and you feel that you still would like to send her something, I think you should.
2007-01-21 05:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont like this girls outlook on life. What I mean is, any good person would have said Thank You and show some appreciation EVEN IF she didnt like the gift and just threw it out. It was the thought that counted. Did she send you anything? Doesnt sound like it. I would actually cut off all ties with this person, because she showed her true personality. It doesnt seem like this is THAT big of a deal, but it actually is, because someone that is going to be this shallow about this will act the sameway on bigger issues as well.
2007-01-21 04:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not only tell you to NEVER AGAIN send her anything else..but NEVER AGAIN SPEAK TO HER!
Boy, you dont need this kind of people in your life.
People should have manners and education.If your are invited over for dinner and the food is disgusting, you act like you like it and say THANK YOU....
Yes, you shouldnt have send the gift, cause she told you not to and she had to pay the costs because of your stubborness, but that doesnt give her the right to be sooo rude...unless she really wants you to feel this way and walk away from her life.
Take the hint big boy!
2007-01-25 02:28:06 · answer #5 · answered by mswildsexycool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't send her any more gifts. She showed her "true colors" when you sent this gift. Even if she didn't like it, she should have said, "Thank you for the gift. It was very nice of you to take the time and effort to send it to me."
I wouldn't bother. With your description of the events, she "mocked" the gift. That shows a serious lack of appreciation.
Give the gifts to friends and family who will appreciate your kindness and generosity.
Write this one off, my friend. She isn't worth it.
2007-01-21 07:02:13 · answer #6 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO! What were you thinking sending a gift to someone that you don't know that lives overseas in the first place? But, who knows? Maybe she felt awkward that you sent her a gift when she said she didn't want it in the first place. I just wouldn't spend any more money on her.
2007-01-21 04:55:09 · answer #7 · answered by Katie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did ask her if she wanted and she said yes -- she is ungrateful. I would not make the effort of sending any more gifts.
Keep gift giving down to just a few people that are really really close.
2007-01-21 04:54:05 · answer #8 · answered by JB 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that it was wrong of her to mock it, and not be appreciative of the thought. But if you wish to send gifts that you know she would like, then I imagine her response would be quite different. If she doesn't respond kindly after the next one, the no more.
2007-01-21 04:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly wouldn't send any more presents. She's upping the stakes, and letting you know that cheap gifts aren't going to do it for her.
You didn't intend this one to be a gift, but more of a "do ya want it, I don't" thing. She is the one who started the, "send me Christmas presents" stuff.
Next, she'll be asking what you are sending for her birthday, etc. You are being softly manipulated.
2007-01-21 04:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by Vivian D 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't send her Sh*t. She's an ungrateful scumbag who doesn't deserve anything from a good person like you. But if you do decide to send here something, send her a piece of rotten meat.
2007-01-21 04:55:15 · answer #11 · answered by gnatlord 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋