Ok well this is my situation! My boyfriend and I were having problems and he went to jail for 3 months. We have a 5 month old son and he's been ;locked up for 2 weeks and just last friday I found out I'm a month pregnant!! I have to take care of our son on my own, take care of our apartment, bills, his court and being pregnant!!!! How am I ever going to make itthrough this ALONE??!! I could really use some advice PLEASE!!!!!!!
2007-01-21 04:47:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You qualify for government help. Check them out. They will lead you in the right direction. You might consider baby sitting from your home as well. Advertise in your local paper. And, let friends know you are open for baby sitting business. My heart goes out to you. I wish you all the luck in the world. Welfare is not a bad thing if your really in need of help, in your case you are. You deserve it. You pay taxes too. The only time welfare is a bad thing is when people misuse the system. So please give them a call. They are there to help.
Don't listen to these people about giving your children up for adoption. They don't know the circumstances of why your b/f is in jail. If it's only a 3 month haul, it can't be anything all that serious. Besides, this is the least of your worries. Keeping your family together is the issue here. Never ever give your children up just because you are down. Get back up and do what you have to do. People are too quick to judge without getting the facts strait. They should be careful, for it may come back on them one of these days.
2007-01-21 04:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember that your Mental Health, has alot to do with the Baby's health. Don't get so wound up on simple things. You've got yourself in a big Jam. But don't put the Baby's Health at risk. The State should be able to help. Ask his Parents. Ask yours. They should all pitch-in. You also need to ask yourself, is this Guy, gonna provide for you in the Long Run. Only you can answer that. For Now! Calm Down! Take a Breath. Your unborn will survive a whole lot better.
2007-01-21 04:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by Goggles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So he got 3 months. let your landlord know most will help you out
You only need to contact WIC and all your creditors to request an exemption and a plan to make it up. WIC may have other resources to aid you, also check the welfare dept
Better communicate with your BF this kind of life is unacceptable.
2007-01-21 05:11:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by cerchia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1. Keep your knees together or get sterilized. #2. Adopt out your kids. #3 Seek counseling as to why you're attracted to such a loser and why making babies with him seems like a good idea. #4. Read some of the many books written by Dr. Laura Schlessinger.
#4 Will be your most helpful.
2007-01-21 04:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You will because you have to. Women underestimate how strong we can be and how strong we can become. You're going to amaze yourself what you can get through. I don't know if you are at all religious, but I always think of hard times as a compliment from God because he wouldn't give me something he didn't believe I could get through.
2007-01-21 04:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jennylind 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it may be hard but as your parent for help go talk to your boyfriend and maybe he can still help while he is in jail. If this don't work go get help go on welfare and find a job to still have a moving family
2007-01-21 04:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by diva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, apply for WIC, find someone who will help you babysit while you are at work, without charging you money, get a new boyfriend (one who doesn't end up in jail), and stop having more kids.
2007-01-21 04:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anpadh 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do you really want to keep the baby?
its not a sin if you dont want to keep the baby...
you have potentially ruined a future for one kid, do you really want to ruin it for 2?
act like an adult, accept the consequences of your acts (also that being together with an inappropriate men)...
why do women have sex and get pregnant? havent you hear of a condom?
if you havent used it and your pregnant now for it its your fault so also get yourself out of the mess you did.
2007-01-21 04:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by Jellyfish 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you could give up your child for adoption.
if you cannot support the child properly, thats the best hing to do.
also, i'm sur ethere are financial help programs out there.
2007-01-21 04:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋