Would you let someone else spank your kids (other than your spouse?)?

Question

How times have changed.

I remember when I was 13 (now in mid-30s) I was giving my Mom a difficult time. I was taking advantage of the fact that my Dad was on a business trip and my Mom had injured her wrist about a year before . I made a point of saying well there's nothing you can do about it because you can't spank me. Oh was I wrong! She drove me to the local police station and asked to have one of the police officers to have a "man to boy chat" with me. He and my mom and I went into this room. Then he yelled at me, took off my belt, pulled me over his knee like I was 5, and just blistered my butt "just like he said he would have done to his own kids" I was very very embarrassed and cried, and he told me he didn't want to see me back and I better respect my Mom from now on. I apologized to my Mom afterwards and probably had a sore bottom for at least 4 days afterwards. When my Dad got home, I got it again!

Would anyone else do this to their kids in a similar situation?

Answer 1

Oh yeah! My child tells me that I can't do a thing about it? Take the to the closest person that i know that would do it. Your mom averted a major character flaw in you that would have allowed you to engage in behavior that you could have been using your whole life.

Good for her. Sorry for you. That must have hurt like crazy though. He didn't have to hit you that damn hard! Blisters? That cop was a tad sado don't you think?

Answer 2

By law you are technically not even allowed to spank your child anymore. I was talking to a friend who teaching parenting classes for people with ACS cases (CPS, CYS, whatever its called in your state) and she told me this and I was shocked at that, and she said its because of kids who end up abused, but then I realized when this was made a law is also when kids started getting worse. I was spanked as a child, pretty bad too, never abused to where I was a bloody/bruised mess, but still. I spank my son sometimes if he has been bad in school, but at home time out is usually justified. My husband doesn't spank he does the scary good talking to thing, but I guess Daddy is always scarier than Mommy lol lol if we did that today, the police would probably arrest us!

Answer 3

Hell no!!!...how traumatic and completely insane! Certainly seems a bit overboard in behavior for me! As tough as it is to be a parent it is possible to raise happy and healthy and respectful kids without spanking them or putting the fear of God into them when they misbehave. Hard to believe you would even question it when it obviously affected you and you still remember the incident some 18 years later! You were a kid when you took advantage of the situation with your Mom back then...that is what kids try to do...sounds like she was pushed to her limit and went to the extreme to show you yet I am not sure what good it did other than cause you to just be scared to death that you would get spanked or taken to the local police station next time or every time you misbehaved!

Answer 4

Yes, times have changed. This officer would be fired today and you would go into foster care. I am a caseworker for the state I live in. I cannot imagine a responsible parent allow a stranger whip on their child. Is it better if a cop does it as opposed to the next door neighbor? Let's say you did NOt give consent and looked outside and saw a cop belting a child, would your thinking changed??? Than blisters????? Wow, your are very lucky, not for the beating, but not getting into state custody.

Answer 5

I don't think in this day and age that any police officer would do that -- everybody is looking to sue for anything and everything. They say now that you should never spank your kids, ever. I don't know, I was spanked, and I spank my children (although not wiht the force or regularity that my parents spanked). I personally think that a little bit of fear is a good thing. As wild as the children are these days, we have to have some kind of control. That's the problem today, not enough control over our over active children.

Answer 6

Ah no and I don't think the police would legally be able to do that. Why couldn't your mom spank you? I think you should be the only one who does the disciplining. I never understood why kids had to wait until there dad got home why couldn't the mom disciplined there child. I also dont believe in spanking as the main form of discipline.

Answer 7

Many studies show the futility of spanking as a disciplinary technique, but none show its usefulness. In the past thirty years in pediatric practice, we have observed thousands of families who have tried spanking and found it doesn't work. Our general impression is that parents spank less as their experience increases. Spanking doesn't work for the child, for the parents, or for society. Spanking does not promote good behavior, it creates a distance between parent and child, and it contributes to a violent society. Parents who rely on punishment as their primary mode of discipline don't grow in their knowledge of their child. It keeps them from creating better alternatives, which would help them to know their child and build a better relationship. In the process of raising our own eight children, we have also concluded that spanking doesn't work. We found ourselves spanking less and less as our experience and the number of children increased. In our home, we have programmed ourselves against spanking and are committed to creating an attitude within our children, and an atmosphere within our home, that renders spanking unnecessary. Since spanking is not an option, we have been forced to come up with better alternatives. This has not only made us better parents, but in the long run we believe it has created more sensitive and well-behaved children.

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Answer 8

i think times have changed, in a big way. i was spanked a couple of times when i was little (i'm now 27). but these days i can't see anyone doing that for a good reason to that extent. i have known lots of people that have gotten turned into cps for spanking their children. which, spanking once is something totally different than beating the living tar out of a kid. i think it is up to the parents. but i can't see spanking and leaving marks. personally myself, i don't spank my kids. they get punished in different ways. i take away their priveledges. for me this seems to work the best. i take away the things they love for a couple of days and this hurts them a whole lot more than spanking ever would. plus, i don't think they would remember why they were being punished if given a spanking.

Answer 9

Yep, in a heart beat. That's whats wrong in today's world, people are either to lazy or to afraid to punish thier kids. That's why we are having the problems w/the youth today. No Discpline. They don't know right from wrong, because nobody cares enough to teach it to them. I remember a scene on The Family Affair, with Uncle Bill whipped Jody for doing something wrong, and Jodie's friend cried, when asked why by Jody, he remarked, I wished someone loved me enough to punish me! That hit home. He knew when you do something bad your punished, good your rewarded, medium you just play.
I really feel sorry for the kids today they have no boundaries, they are a moving target for all the bad things in life to happen.

Answer 10

I believe in spanking my son, but his father (who is rarely around) doesn't, but he did have a girlfriend who but her hands on my son, who at that time was 3. I drove 2 hours to his dads, and put my hands on her. The only other person who is allowed to discipline my son is my mom, because I know she only does it because she wants to keep him in-line, and out of trouble just like she did with my me, and my 4 siblings.