What do you think I should do ?

Question

I am 34. I live with mother; I did not leave her because when father passed away I knew she needed someone...me to be there for her; so I tkko here here and there and everywhere...all this while I had a good paying job as a teacher. Today, I am broke, 6 months behind on my payments...mother can not help me anymore and about to loose my car, our ownly car. I want to move to SA Texas and get a few jobs to catch up and pay back to mother...Yes or No.
What do you think?

Answer 1

Your mother needs to let you go as much as you need to go.
Do you need to move to get a job?
You sure didn't need to quit one when your Dad died.
Everyone loses a parent in time and you show your concern, but you don't give up your job and your life, no parent wants that, and if they do, they are wrong. See to it your mother gets Social Security or whatever help she needs, then go get a job, and a wife and give here grandkids, she'll cheer up.

Answer 2

I am a bit confused here by the posting (and I hope it was not elementary age teaching ... because the posted question is hard to read) ...

IF you had a good job in the Teaching Professions, and were taking care of your bills -- why now are you SIX (6) months behind in them (especially the car payment).

Then there is the statement "Mother can not help me anymore" .... with the statement "I tkko here here and there and everywhere" (I HOPE you mean that you take her here/there/everywhere).

It sounds to me like the Mother can be taking the burden of paying for the living expenses for the household ... and that this may be an 'excuse' for your decisions in life.

First ... you do point out you live with your mother. That means that she must have been living somewhere with your father when he passed away (their own home), and it does not sound like she moved ... so you continued to live with their home, and continued to hold down a job at the same time.

I am a bit concerned here about YOUR ability to pay your bills ... you should have learned this a while ago. Sit down, LOOK CAREFULLY at your expenses -- WHERE is your income going (Is it going to pay the necessities of life 1st (like rent, food, utilities), or is it going right from the paycheck to luxuries (like cars (yes, cars), Video Games, Eating Out, etc etc etc).

Just because you help your mother get places, DOES NOT MEAN THAT you can NOT work!

Take it from me ... My siblings and I (as very young adults) would rotate taking leave to care for our elderly parents (WWII Veterans), right up until the day they died. We remained on Active Duty, and served HONORABLY. We all went through hellish disasters of 'marriages' and ended up single parents (and yes, we worked all the time -- including ACTIVE MILITARY SERVICE). I would take my children to their med appointments, their activities, whatever AFTER my duty day was done or while I was on leave ... it was that simple.

IF you move, what are you going to CHANGE to be able to make your own (SEPARATE!) bills ... how are you going to budget differently at this time to make any living arrangement work?

Answer 3

First question, if you leave for Texas, who takes care of your mom?Get that situation taken care of before you leave. Call whoever you have your car loan with and explain the situation and see if you can work out something. You need to take some job and get some money together so you have a cushion for moving. IF you can't manage where you live now, then definitely move.

Answer 4

I hope you weren't teaching spelling! Get a job, stand up and take care of youself. Ask your mom what she wants and then do so. If she don't need money right away pay her later. Things have a way of working out. I'ts easier to help a person when you can stand on your own.

Answer 5

Get a job your mother probably leaned on you a little to much

Answer 6

Why arent u a teacher anymore go back to teaching.

Answer 7

Tell your mom she needs to let go