My sister in law is being so hateful when it comes to my nephews. I am extremely close to my oldest nephew, when he was born my brother and sister in law left him with me a lot while they went out and partied. As a result we are very close. He is 7 now and has a new 6 month old brother that I am not allowed to see much. My sister in law had told me she doesn't want my new nephew to "get in with me" like my oldest nephew did" and that I need to "learn my place" in regard to my oldest nephew and quit trying to be his mother. She has also accused me of trying to run her and my brothers life. I have truly no idea where these accusations are coming from. I have always tried to be very respectful of my brother and sister in laws role as parents and have never intentionally tried to undermine them. I believe she is jealous of the bond I have with my oldest nephew and is punishing me for a situation she and my brother created by leaving him with me so much when he was young. Advice?
2007-01-21 04:28:42 · 10 answers · asked by sarethsays 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like she is jealous,she doesn't have the close nest.She is going to try with the new baby.You must talk to your brother about the situation
2007-01-21 04:33:11 · answer #1 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that she is very jealous and immature! I know how you feel through my "sister in law" is a very jealous and hateful person too. When she has a problem with either me, my sister, or our mom she gets this little wild hair up her *** and she wont bring my nephew over to visit!! She'll ignore phone calls and everything.....the whole nine yards. It really irritates me when she acts like this and when my nephew does finally come over after weeks hes so excited to see us all. The only people these stupid "sister inlaws" of us are hurting is the children. But like I always say about my "sister in law"......when she finally stops being so damn immature and jealous about everything then she'll start coming around.
2007-01-21 04:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by michelles_sfa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your brother and his wife and tell them how you feel. Do not do this in front of the kids.
Let them knwo that you don't want to undermine them, you just love your nephews. Maybe there is something you have done that you are not aware of. Either way, you need to talk it out because your youngest nephew is going to lose out on having an aunt and he will become jealous of the relationship you have with his older brother in time.
2007-01-21 04:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by kiera70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell her where to get off because she's the one who left the child with you while she went out partying. She needs to learn her place as a real mother. Next time they ask you to babysit tell them no since it's such a conflict of interest. Talk to your brother also and tell him how you feel. They should know that you have nothing but love for them and their children but they also shouldn't blame you for their doing.
2007-01-21 04:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by diamoniquejazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One, make effective your husband is conscious how a lot you have a good time with him sticking up for you. various husbands might want to have blown it off. 2, tell him that once you're indignant by technique of what they did and also you agree it become completely unacceptable habit on their area, it become no longer so grave an offence as to warrant breaking all verbal change. that is about how they invaded *your* area, so when you're prepared to proceed contact, it type of feels type of stupid on your husband to push the challenge. on the turn area, it will be sensible to ask for his or her keys decrease back so it would not happen lower back. Your husband would say some thing like "Sisters, i appreciate you all very a lot, yet what befell the different day become really, deeply irrelevant. i really do not want my spouse subjected to that lower back, so i imagine for the on the spot it would want to be maximum acceptable in case you would possibly want to provide me decrease back the keys to my abode. I nonetheless love you. you're nonetheless welcome right here, yet that would want to't happen lower back."
2016-12-02 20:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by picart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should ask you bro to talk to his wife first.tell him how not being able to see your other nephew hurts you.once he has spoken with her you can have your turn.tell her you love your family and being with them is important to you.tell her that you were there when she needed you before and you are here now.assure her that you dont want to be the boys mother just a part of their lives,also ask her how she would feel if you had a child and didnt let them see it.
2007-01-21 04:43:39 · answer #6 · answered by starr67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say she is probably jealous and feeling insecure. Give her space and be patient. Your nephew will be asking to come over.
2007-01-21 04:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She screwed up she needs to deal with her issues and not take it out on u. Talk to your brother about it.
2007-01-21 14:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have answered your question yourself. u may be right in your conclusion. keep living normal life without taking much note of it.
2007-01-21 04:40:40 · answer #9 · answered by s l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate my sisterinlaw too.there must be a web site where you can hire a hit man to assasinate them.i might even start one myself lol
2007-01-21 04:33:57 · answer #10 · answered by PIRANHA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋