My girlfriend left me 7 months ago after a four year relationship and it has broken my heart so bad i think about just ending it all the time i just love this girl so much that i am just lost without her. i have quit my job dropped out of uni my life has just stopped and she doesent want anything to do with me. the reason for leaving me she said was that i worked to hard and studied to much and that she needs a guy to give her more effection. I told her that i was working to give us a future and a life. she still left.
2007-01-21 04:27:43 · 14 answers · asked by jason m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just ask yourself how could she live without you and do the same!!
2007-01-21 04:38:08 · answer #1 · answered by Eman H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with your situation is that it is not a mutually corresponding love. You love her, but she doesn't love you. Once that love is gone, it hardly ever comes back. I suggest, you stick with your studies, get back to work and focus on yourself. I have a box and it contains the most important thing in your life. Please take a moment and try to think what I could possibly have that is so priceless and valuable to you. I'll reveal the content of the box tomorrow together with an explanation of it that I feel can help you. You need to think about it first so the exercise will work. Ok. There was a mirror inside the box. You often spend so much time concerned about other people, (girlfriends, ex-girlfriends, parents, friends, relatives, etc) that you forget to think about yourself and what it is you want. Take some time for yourself. Be just a little selfish and do things for no one else but yourself.
2007-01-21 04:45:19 · answer #2 · answered by Allan G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't deserve you. You need to let her go and move on. Just refuse to think about her. Get your job back or find another one and continue working on your future. If you get in another relationship, make sure that the time you do spend with her is quality time. Do romantic things for her like bring her breakfast in bed or rent one of her favorite movies that you can watch with her snuggled up on the couch. This way you don't have to waste time with getting dressed and driving to said destination, etc. But once in a while it is nice to get dressed up and go out. You need to find balance in our interactions with our significant others. She could have found a way to make extra income so you wouldn't have to work so hard and maybe she could have met you a couple of times a week at work and had lunch with you. Relationships are about give and take. Don't give her another thought are learn from this. We only have one life so live it to the fullest. Best of luck.
2007-01-21 04:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i just got out of a 3 year relationship. she was taking prenatal vitamins and we were engaged to be married and everything. I think that everything happens for a reason. You cannot let someone get to you that bad because they are going to do whatever they want to anyways. Quit your job? Are you insane? You should be working all the time and going to school and everything for YOURSELF. With all the time your spending at work and school you really shouldnt have time for anyone. But you need to get your butt back in school. She obviously didnt appreciate the things you were doing for her. And while you sit here whinning and crying about it there is someone at the Uni that your totally missing that can and will change your whole outlook on life and make you totally forget about your girlfirend. Life is too short to try to be with someone who doesnt seem to want to be with you back.
2007-01-21 04:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by rjbw110708 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't deserve you, i'm going through something similar right now...... hope everything turns around for you.....
think of it as your starting clean....
remember dont let anyone stop you from persuing your education, you need to start back colledge and study about getting your life back on track...
i know it's hard to do, but i'm doing it, i'm in colledge, currently single, (only broke up 3 months ago), it was a 4 1/2 relationship, we split up for the same reason and i work full time,..... so u see it's do-able.....
dont give up, go back to colledge, dont let that money go down the drain.... she may come back, but if she doesn't someone else will come along
REMEMBER IT'S HER LOSS, AND SHE WILL SOON FINE THAT OUT.... be strong, i know you can get it done...
2007-01-21 04:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the saying goes.........."If you love something set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If it doesn't it never was"
Give yourself some time to heal your broken heart but always remember the more you love the more your heart can love.
Open your heart to the possibility and the hope of a new love and you will soon find that you can love again.
2007-01-21 04:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by Enigma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get back into life even if you don't feel like it. She didn't stop your life you did and if you can't/won't get back in then you need professional help for depression. Count yourself as lucky, a woman who isn't interested in her future and life isn't for you anyway, and you'd be amazed at how many people find out the love of their life was just the first love of their life.
2007-01-21 04:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt look likt this girl has much felling for u, u give her more than she gives you, i see it all the time, u should move on, i know it is hard, but if this girl has no feelings for u, and u will kill yourself for her, u deserve so much better!
get your job back, go back to uni, get good grades, find a better job, then find someone that you love and will love you back!! dont throw you life away.
2007-01-21 04:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by Neha B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT let her ruin it all for you. You have to live life to the fullest or else you're going to die alone and you have to give love another chance. Let another girl come in. Start dating again......meet new people, hang out with some friends, play video games if it helps.
2007-01-21 04:31:04 · answer #9 · answered by hip_hop_me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man forget her yo, females arent worth half of the stuff we do for them, dont quit ur stuff, she just couldnt appreciate you, maybe she got confused when u said that ur working for your future together and life and stuff, just forget her go back to wht ur doing
2007-01-21 05:15:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe u could've paid a little more attn to her..but she seems like a bit*h to me...try and move on bc u sound like a great guy..my parents won't let me be with the one person i truly love so at least u still have a chance...good luck..if it helps take everything that reminds u of her, put it in a box, and put it "out of sight, out of mind"
2007-01-21 04:33:20 · answer #11 · answered by mostamazinggrlever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋