Ive been with someone for three years. but recently, ive had HUGE feelings for another person. we get on really well. he's one of those people that i can just talk to for hours and never have to think what to say. i'm 16 now. And i've been with my boyfriend since i was 13. we've kind of grown up together. And we're so close. I love him so much. I mean, i feel so good when im with him. He has cheated on me before, but that was in our first year of being together. But i've never had the thrill of being with someonelse. I've never kissed anyone but him. I've never done anything with anyone but him. My first time was with him.. Thats a big thing to me. I love him so, so much. And i feel so bad about liking someonelse. Also, i talk to this other boy everyday. we're close. have been for months. I havnt told him i like him. But He always tells me how much he likes me. All he ever goes on about is how great we'd be together. I'm just so stuck. Please help me...
2007-01-21 04:22:02 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relax. You are only 16, you have another 70 or so years to go. Do not make the mistake of thinking you HAVE to even be in a relationship. As people grow and mature they change. Sometimes people ghange is a way that gets them farther apart.
I do recommend you break off with boy one for a few weeks and try being solo before trying out boy 2. It is not healthy to always define yourself as part of a relationship. You have to know yourself as an independant person before you can know what your limits are in a relationship. You can always go back to boy 1 later. Yours is the age to be experimental, not united forever.
2007-01-21 05:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by MarkLight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow sounds like a real problem. if you love your bf then maybe you should just stay with him and stay loyal. but if you find that you're just attracted to this guy way more and have a lot of stuff in common then maybe take some time and think this through. talk to one of your friends mayb. but i would think of the past with ur bf. because you've been with him for 3 years, which is a lot, and you know him Really well. but if your feeling sort of distant you mite be in love with this other guy because he's already saying that he likes you. i mean there's always a first love right?
2007-01-21 04:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your very young, the Heart and the mind can play tricks on you. I would NEVER stay with a person who cheated on me in the first place. You dont have to have relations with the boys you date, Your worth more than that. Try and find out about a person first, you have your whole life to do the other things.(sex) Go on dates hang out with friends. Know what your worth is and others will follow..Respect yourself! If he other person is good to you go for it !!
2007-01-21 04:35:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is completely normal and I'm surprised your relationship has lasted this long. Do you really want to be with someone form the age of 13 unitl you 75, 80, or older. Let yourself grow up a little bit and find someone new.
2007-01-21 04:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so young to just be with one person. Get out there and meet new people and try new things. That is a young age to be in such a committed relationship, that he wasn't even faithful for the entire time. If you have feelings for another person then you aren't meant to be.
2007-01-21 04:32:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jess_DH13 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this is what i think u should do tell him i think we should not date for mabey 2 months lets both check out other poeple and we will se how this works out if u find a better person them we will talk about if i find 1 we wil talk about u need some time to find other people! or u could not find mr right u mite think it is him but ther are other fish in the sea! =)
2007-01-21 04:27:44 · answer #6 · answered by David 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea it sucks dont it im going throught the same thing too but im on the other side of it i juss found about it the other day and its been killing me slowly so my advice is not to let him find out about your other feelings for the guys. its probley juss a faze think it will pass iif you reall love your curretnt boyfriend youll stay with him
i hope everything works out for you and me :(
2007-01-21 04:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by el coyote 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever seen The Office on NBC? It sounds like Pam's relationship with her fiance and her coworker. If there are any doubts whatsoever do not proceed! I would not put up with anyone who cheated on me....good luck!
2007-01-21 04:26:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your boyfriend, stick with him. This other guy isn't being respectful of the fact that you are with someone, and you should keep that in mind.
Whatever you do, don't break up with your boyfriend for someone else. If you break up with your boyfriend, it should be about your relationship with him, not the possibility of a relationship with someone else.
2007-01-21 04:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by kiera70 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Break up with your boyfriend, you aren't ready to settle down, you will know when the person is the right one. There won't be anyone else you want to be with.
2007-01-21 04:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by thongkristal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋