How can I help myself?

Question

I had a realisation this weekend that I am suffering from depression again, I had it 2 years ago and managed to lift myself from it although at the time I was on tablets and had my fiance with me.
I am now in a place where I only know the people from work, I love my job but am finding things increasingly hard to cope with, I think the depression is a reaction to the last year in which I had a rough ride with my fiance then we broke up in October.
I feel relieved now I know whats wrong with me and it explains alot, but now I need to get back on my feet, look after myself - but I dont know where to start, and some days I just cry and cry.
I need to be stronger- I am quite negative about things- which was never me I had a really positive outlook on life at one point.
Im not unnactracitve and would like to say have a great personality thats quite witty, but I feel helpless at the moment, whats the best steps to take- I realise I have to speak to my Doctor.

Answer 1

I agree don't start labelling urself as depressive & all that negative thought. Doctors (I'm sorry to say) mostly are of no help but give anti-depressants & sometimes refer you to a psychiatrist. But you can ask your GP to refer you for CBT (cognitive behavioural therpay) on NHS but usally there's long waiting list. Maybe you'd like to see a therpaist privately ( but make sure you find a good one, I know one in London & Essex who is very good). But I might be able to find you a good one depneding whre you live(please IM or email me).
I tought maybe try healing? have you ever tried it? it helped me alot, it's done by laying on of hands on specific energy points on body & it works at a deep level to heal you as a whle person. The national Federation of helaers have centresa around UK &you can find one nearest to you (but make sure you go regularly, as sometimes it takes time, your healer should advise you how long u need to go.
(please see link & type ur potscode for nearest centre)
also you can use affirmations to change your self & ur life. It's very powerful & it'll make a difference. Don't allow urself 2 b neative, replace every negative thought with a positive, eg affirm I am positive or I love & approve of myself & I trust the process of life. If you want to really help yourself, I suggest this book(see link)

Another thing I wanted to suggest is this meditation CD. It's abit new age so I don't know how you'd find it, it's from an author who writes about angels & this Cd is about balancing chakras (the main energy points in the body that govern all our well being). u can find more about chakras in the book that comes with the CD & also do a search on Google. But it did help me & if you do it regularly, you'll notice a difference.
I sincerely hope you feel better soon! please hang in there, & above all pray God to help. He won't let you down, I promise...
lots of luv & hugs

Answer 2

The best way to see mental disorders is a series of varying degrees of depression and stress. Mild stress produces an excellent person for creativity and performance. More depression saps the energy and creativity that these people once had as the leave neurosis and become bipolar. There are three levels used to describe Bipolar. Then the imbalance of chemicals made by your own brain plays havoc with the whole control system. The auto brain or lower brain can aggressively access messages that were kept from it earlier. As the depression continues and more and more logic substitutions are made the mind goes into a full psychosis where ideas are disassociated and language decays. The end result of psychosis from severe depression is schizophrenia which has been described as incurable . There are of course are always a few people who have been able to recover mental stability. The greatest learning step required for all levels of depression recovery is to see that society as two groups . Study what you group are in and stay with your own kind to find peace and happiness.

Answer 3

Yes, you need to see your doctor first, because depression will colour everything and push you towards making the wrong decisions in life. Make a conscious effort to socialise with people at work if asked (even if you don't like them that much - you meet other people that way) , look after yourself, get regular sleep, early nights, plenty of exercise (easier said than done I know, I hate it, but I know it works ) do something you enjoy to take your mind off things, even temporarily. Soon you will see the opportunities - after a period of grieving that you miss your fiance but are now free to be yourself again - and a better person than you were before, on your terms. See the doctor, - antidepressants really work if you use them properly - personally I think prozac is amazing - it turned my life around - and soon you will not need a crutch but be able to be cheerful and start the positive "snowball" effect of attracting people to you - join a club, do something you have always wanted to do (salsa? photography?cookery? I don't know, but there must be something) - build up your support network. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Good luck, and have faith in yourself. Oh yes, and no matter how tempted, avoid the booze. It is a depressant and whilst the first drink might make you feel better, it will drag your right down to lower than you were before. All the best

Answer 4

First, understand and appreciate that when you get like this, you are your own worst enemy. You cannot trust yourself, and you might very well be lying to yourself when you say that you can "lift yourself" out of it. For example, you may say you "need to get back on your feet" when, really, what you need to do is mourn the loss of your fiance? Maybe you say you need to be less negative, but really you need to allow yourself your feelings? Or maybe you're indulging too much and you need medication? Who knows. I don't. You might not either.

The best steps to take: seek help from a therapist or a doctor. Make Being Well a priority in your life, just like you would anything else. Don't let anything get in your way, not money, not shame, not guilt. Get the help you need.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Babe depends how bad it is you might need a treatment. If you keep crying then yes 1 month prozac will help you out. Then start exercising , eat right , sleep well , take a LOT of magnesium as it will reduce anxiety & stress and think positively. Rent movie at blockbuster and laugh. Life is a journey you can choose to make it terrible or nice. It is in your hands. You broke up!! We all do my love , turn the page , talk to yahoo messenger , start dating on yahoo personals but occupy your time hun. Then you will be ok , I promiss.

Joe.

Answer 6

You have the answers yourself but you sound very lonely. I know how you feel cos I'm in a similar place myself i.e. break down of long term relationship & a messy one at that, I don't socialise with anyone, but honey ultimately we have to take those first steps to recovery ourselves this is the unfortunate side of being an adult. Go forth with courage and remember you're not alone and by some of the answers it sounds like there's a few people wishing you well. Go for it full force!!! Peopple like snuffylover sound more in need of help than most if thats how she/he deal with their problems

Answer 7

I'm sorry how you feel. I think the first step is you need a good friend who you can talk to and go out with. Is your family close at hand. Maybe they can help. I always find nobody can help like close family. Sorry I cant be of more help. I wish you all the best for the future, and just try to be positive.

Answer 8

well the first thing u shud do u stop thinkin it as depression or sumthin.......the more u think the more bad u feel.......

this is life u know........and trust me it will depend on how u take it.......ups n downs.........like i was so depressed a few months agao n now i feel the same....i was crying every night......but the moment i said "NO M FINE N I CAN LIVE" i was smiling again

n do one thing go for personality developments courses..they r crash courses n can be from 2 weeks to 3 months..........watever type u want............that will help u........

never think negative.........always try to find positive points even in negative things........

n theres this little trick that i use...........when things go bad all i say is "ok so now this is bad n it cud hav been worst.....i shud be happy.........."

listen to gud music n try to talk to ppl u trust........

Answer 9

When you need surgery you take a surgeon in with you...If you have to go to court you take a lawyer...Right? Well when you lose Love the cure for and old Love is a new Love....And when thing,s are to heavy for us to bare and deal with who you going to call?....Not a DOCTOR you call own JESUS...He is the answer to any suffering and burdens we can,t bare you give it all to Him...Call own him He already know,s your burden,s And is wondering why you haven't already called own Him...And as far as your self sweetie Doll your self up and look your best ALWAYS,S and Do it for ones self,A positive attitude is a Magnet for positive result,s...And positive people are a positive magnet for a positive attitude.... God bless you that you can see that Jesus would not have you feeling this way for nothing..Only Satan has us to fill this way....If it is of ALL good it is of God ..if it is of bad and their is ANY bad what so ever it is of Satan....You are special in His eye,s ...God bless the USA and Israel and all

Answer 10

i can relate to some of your symptoms.i was diagnosed with depression recently and take fluoxetine daily.i find it hard still as i don't have that many friends plus unemployed which makes filling the day up quite hard.its easy to say fill the day up but be abit selfish and just do things you like to.or make friends on line with similar problems and talk to them.