He refuses to walk past a dark room, to go to the bathroom by himself (in broad daylight) and when he hears unexpected noises, like the phone ringing or even my voice after a silence, he screams and starts crying.
I have taken away television and movies, since I am not sure where this fear is coming from, but i feel like I am punishing him, what else can I do, do you think he needs professional help?
2007-01-21 04:18:31 · 9 answers · asked by sunny_day_grl 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Just try and have a heart to heart conversation with him. I'm sure you've done this already but maybe this time you can find the answer.
2007-01-21 05:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by retrodragonfly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, you should talk to him about it. Don't make him feel embarassed about the situation, but let him feel free to speak. His fear must've been from somewhere, such as something he watched or experienced. I don't think this will recur again, so you don't have to take away his entertainment. I just think it's this one thing that he saw and can't get it out of his mind. Just reassure him, and try being around him a little more because a mother's love and security beats all. He doesn't need professional help, it's something that all kids go through at one point or another. Prove to him there is nothing to be afraid of. He still may have some underlying fear afterwards, which is normal, but you shouldn't be seeing as severe symptoms as he's doing now.
2007-01-21 13:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by sci-girl1492 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long has this been going on? Try and think about how this all started and when? Look at what was going on in his/your life at the time. Was he left in the care of someone who could have hurt him? We all have a built-in defense mechanism. If children go through trauma that they have not been able to escape from properly their ability to normal stimuli will change, as in the phone ringing and him crying or screaming. The phone ringing is a relatively normal stimuli. Your child probably no longer responds with curiosity and expectancy to "regular" things happening in his surroundings. He is sort of frozen in fear. It is hard to say what may have caused it. Some of us become traumatized what others would not be traumatized by. Try sitting down with him and all of his stuffed animals. Have him give a voice to his animals and let him do the leading in the play. Just be there to listen and to answer his questions. Six year olds are experts at make believe. Their pain comes out very clearly in their play. Don't panic if something serious comes out, take him to see a child psychologist asap and things can be healed. Healing comes to children very naturally, if given the right lead, they are experts at healing. Doing it now will save him from carrying his pain into adulthood which can lead to many disfunctions and it also becomes harder to weed through the pain as it becomes more embedded and a part of his personality. Invest in his health now.
2007-01-21 13:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by Way2Be 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs professional help. He's traumatized and you really need to find the root of the problem. By taking away television and movies, he'll feel like he's being punished for something he has no control over, if he's scared, it's not by choice. Monitor what he watches on television and get some professional help for your son. Even though this behavior may disappear through his actions, he may be psychologically traumatized. Best of luck to you and your son.
2007-01-21 12:30:11 · answer #4 · answered by leslie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think there's something deeper going on here. Have you tried just sitting him down and talking to him about it?
I wouldnt jump at professional help so quickly, but if you cant get him to talk to you, and get to the bottom of the problem, then I would definitely consider it.
2007-01-21 12:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well did you watch a SCARY movie with him? That could be why. Just watch good thing like blues clues and stuff like that. Other then this I would say take him to professional help
Maybe he See's dead people. ^_^ kidding
2007-01-21 12:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by L.A Local 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could take him to a psychiatrist or leave him be you have to let him get used to this or sit and talk ask why all the sudden hes afraid and tell him there's nothing to worry about your there to protect him
2007-01-21 12:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and ask him is any thing wrong why r u like this did something happen in school if he cant say anything then tell you r parents or doctor maybe then you will figure out what is happening i hope helped so bye for now
2007-01-21 12:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1)he must had watch all of scary stuuf or read comics.
2)his freinds at school talk about scary things.
this might not be th ebst answer for me right now i think about more
2007-01-21 12:59:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋