Hi:)
I am a 1st time MOH, actually 1st time being in a wedding in my adult life, and I was wondering does the MOH typically pay more into stuff (shower, bach. party, gifts, etc.) then the bridesmaids or is it normally spread out even?
Thanks!:)
2007-01-21 04:06:15 · 11 answers · asked by auburnc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Honestly I think it depends on your relationship with the bride and the other bridesmaids. I've been MOH in 3 different and in one I paid for everything, the other two we all got together and decided who would do what and pay for what, but yes generally you pay for the bridal shower on your own, an that includes the gifts for the guest for the games if you have them. As for the bach. party, I would talk to the rest of the girls get there ideas and see how many of them want to help, usually they are more than happy to pitch in if they also get to help decide what is being done.
2007-01-21 04:15:24 · answer #1 · answered by javajnky69 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your only "official" duties are to buy your dress and show up to the ceremony on time. Anything you do for the bride besides that is out of the goodness of your heart, so there really aren't any set rules about that type of thing.
The very best thing to do in this situation is to talk to the other bridesmaids and see what they can afford to do. If they can only afford to contribute $50 for everything, then you can either have a small shower, or you can throw a larger shower and pay for the bulk of it yourself.
Keep the lines of communication open with them.
2007-01-21 15:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by BeatriceBatten 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say spread it out evenly...
I will tell you this....both my sister and future sister in law were MOH's at weddings. They both said that they paid more than anyone. The parties that are located at your place are going to be more of an expense (and a hassle) on you.
Also, as far as a bachellorette goes, each "GUEST" pays for themselves. They usually run around $50. I've been to four or five now. Never had a problem paying, but you have to let everyone know in advance.
2007-01-21 13:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not really sure, but you are responsible for throwing the shower and if you're going to have a bachelorete party, I'd talk to the rest of the bride's maids and see if they will all pitch in for a shower, for a bachelorete shower just have a "slumber party" hang out order pizzas rent movies, it doesn't have to be anything big. Just be ready to help the bride when she needs it, she'll need someone to calm her nerves, help her get ready and the most important thing of all is make a speech at the reception
2007-01-21 12:12:34 · answer #4 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The MOH usually plans the bridal shower/bachelorette party. She is the brides right hand woman - doing whatever she needs, help with dresses, hair, errands, etc.
If you have a good bridal party, you shouldn't have to spend any more money than others.
2007-01-21 12:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by msyoki 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the cost is spread between all the bridesmaids but you are the one in charge of organizing the shower and bachelorette party. Have fun because you have an important job and it is an honor to be that Maid of Honor!!! Of course you have that all important speech and toast at the reception!!!
2007-01-21 12:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by boss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess it depends. There is no " rule" on who pays for what.
MY aunt, mom, and mother n' law threw my shower. For my bachloerete party we went to my aunts, then to some bars. and my maid of honor got some things for the party and my bridesmaids were suppose to give her some money so they would all go in on it, but I'm not sure that went to well,(long story) If you do want to do that talk to the girls yourself, and see what they think about throwing in with u. Talk to your friends mom, she may want to help, but if you can afford it then you can do it, but i think it should just be split up between the girls.
2007-01-21 20:06:01 · answer #7 · answered by wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's mostly the MOH duties to take care of these arrangements with the help of the BM(s).
2007-01-21 15:11:35 · answer #8 · answered by yomyr2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be the organizer. Talk it up with bridesmaids and decide what you will do and how costs will be incurred and shared.. Showers and bach. party don't need to be spendy, just fun.
2007-01-21 12:16:36 · answer #9 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the wedding i was in we all pitched in $$$$. but mine was a different situation. we had 9 girls in our party and we all agreed that that is to much for one person to buy all for. so we all paid for the shower, bach. party and gifts blah blah blah. so really its up to the whole party. dicuss it with the rest and go from there. and if you cant afford a whole lot make sure they know this
2007-01-21 12:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by mommie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋