I'm in love with the most amazing person I've ever met.Shes not had the best experiences when it comes to reltionships or guys in general. Her last serious relationship confused her, the guy would beat her one minute and go out of his way to risk his life the next.Also she is used to guys just seeing sex in her.I can see why shes not so trusting.
I just want to show her I'm not like that,I know I'm not like that,I would never hurt her in any way and sex isn't the reason I want her.I think she's wary since her lasy bf was nice to begin with then got violent,maybe she thinks I could be that way?
You could say shes used to relationships being just sex and the guy just using her/doing what he wants. All I want to be is happy, all I care about is that & all I wanna do is be that some1 she can turn to or just hold her when shes feeling down. Shes never experienced that in a relationship cause shes never had someone truly love her.How do I show her what she means 2 me? She means the world!
2007-01-21 04:00:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all i care about is her being happy I meant***
2007-01-21 04:05:34 · update #1
The only way you can show her this is by not being like the rest of them. She has heard all those words before. Men have told her they loved her, and have betrayed her trust. DON'T DO IT. Cherish her. Tell her how you feel every time you get the chance. Let your actions show the same. If she's always used to guys wanting to sleep her. Don't sleep with her. If you love her, you should want to spend the rest of your life with her. In that case, tell her you want to wait until she's all yours. Listen to her. Help her. It's going to be hard. She'll have trust issues. She'll be pessimistic, and sometimes stubborn and say things she doesn't mean. Not because she doesn't love you, but because she's protecting her heart from any other hurt. She's expecting you to be different, but her mind will remind her of all the other times she's been hurt. Hang in there babe!
2007-01-21 04:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by April 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all can I just say on behalf of womankind - I wish there were more men like you!
Basically I would tell her just what you say here. Tell her that you understand why she might not be trusting but that you really really love her and care about her. Often men don't say what they really mean, but here just tell her how you feel. It will mean the world to her, if she has any sense. You're being very understanding in realising that her previous relationships might make it difficult for her to trust you. Tell her how you feel and I'm sure it'll turn out fine. Good luck and I hope everything goes well for both of you!
2007-01-21 04:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by Lyra B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it one step at a time,show her that you like her for being the
person that she is.Tell her that she can call the shots and make any forward moves of a personel mature when she is ready.Try to take her to places that she wants to go to,let her feel comfortable and slowly when she sees that you are not like all the rest of the guys she will then make all the right moves.
2007-01-21 04:10:41 · answer #3 · answered by pipin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend, you are in for one hell of a ride. When us girls are used to being treated like crap, and then we finally get s decent guy, we push him away to see if he will come back. Then, we react very badly and act like right madams, because we are used to drama drama drama, and without it, the relationship doesn't feel right.
Good luck with this one, I hope you can make it work but it is going to put you through alot at first...........until she finally clicks you are geniuine, which may never happen.
2007-01-21 04:07:08 · answer #4 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its really sweet that you care about this girl and i know what she is going throw because i am going throw it right now at this moment, what you need to do is just be there when she needs you, your already after telling her that you care and wanna be with her so the ball is in her court. but maybe just for now try and be her friend and see what happens from there, its very hard to turst someone after all she been throw so just give her time hope it all works out for ya
laura
2007-01-21 04:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by laura m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time. Be there when she needs you and eventually she'll learn to trust you, these things can't be forced, there's no time limit either. Be her friend first, don't make her feel that if she rejects you you'll head for the hills. just enjoy her company and let things happen at their own pace.
2007-01-21 04:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by Velvet_Goth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that is really sweet. if you haven't already told her that your already madly in love with her i think you should. also take her to dinner go and have fun with her. anything. the beach, movies, shopping if she likes to. dont move in too fast because of course she'll think you only want one thing with her. treat her more as a friend but way more romantic, but in a less obvious way. i think she'll get the message soon. Good Luck.
2007-01-21 04:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me just say awww how sweet! basically tell her you love her every chance you get. take her places she wants to go, pay for the dates, buy her nice things, definitely don't have sex with her unless she initiates it herself, and do chores for her (if u live together) remember special occasions and celebrate with her! Go out for a huge romantic night or something and tell her how much she means to you.
2007-01-21 04:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by ŤÏҒҒǻńỷ™ ♀ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be nice at every opportunity. But don't go overboard or she'll think you're a bit wet. Just nice enough to make her feel special.
2007-01-21 04:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
By been their when she need you, give her your shoulder to cry on, and the most important is to listen to her, don't try too hard just be your self, let her see the real you, she will love you for how you are,
2007-01-21 04:08:44 · answer #10 · answered by badboyisawickedman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋