ok...
me and my girlfriend are a great couple
she loves me to death and "would be lost without me"
i really like her but i dont love her enough to want to stick in the relationship. she is emotionally unstable and has trust issues. it seems the only reason i've been sticking with her is to help her cause i feel bad.
but
i have to get out of it
its driving me crazy. my grades are lacking and whatnot and UGH!
and ugh i dont know help
i need help please
2007-01-21 03:52:32 · 20 answers · asked by d21910 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well first: I hope ur gf doesnt go on yahoo answers much
and second:
Well.. tell her how you feel. And you might be scared but tell her that you do love her, but there could be someone else better... and make sure you dont just say "im breaking up with you" so immediate. Take her somewhere.... it also depends how old you are though.. i mean if ur a teen like me, i would to be told that so immediate.... kinda lure her in.... ya no? good luck :D
2007-01-21 04:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by ♫ αиgєℓ υи∂єя ¢σνєя ♫ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I was in your shoes about a year ago! Depending on how long you've been with her (I was with my ex for 4 years), you might wanna try telling her that you need some space because you're going through some changes in your life. Just tell her that with everything that's going on with you, you don't feel like you can give her the attention you think she deserves (this is built on the "trust issues" she has with you.) Since you say she's emotionally unstable you need to keep ensuring her that it's not her fault. Make sure you tell her that it hurts you as much as it hurts her to call it quits but you feel it's the right decision.
Yes, it may be tough telling her you want to call it quits especially if you think it will make you feel bad but you have to do it or be miserable! When I finally broke things off with my ex, it was almost a year after I felt like things needed to end! I was miserable everyday. So do it ASAP or you will end up hating her. REMEMBER, it's not anything she's done, it's stuff that's going on with you!
Good Luck!
2007-01-21 12:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by Cliff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie it looks like you're problem is not loving her at all. If you love someone you accept the good with the bad. Break up with her now. You don't care about her, and if you stay with her any longer you'll only hurt her more. Never stay with someone because you feel obligated. That hurts people more than you just telling them the truth or not going out with them at all. Simply tell her that the relationship is getting too serious for you, that you can't be with her anymore. Tell her that you love her as a friend, but you can't be with her romantically anymore. It'll only end up hurting the both of you. Just stay away from any more relationships until you're ready for a commitment. Don't worry about her, I'm sure she'll be okay. She may yell, scream, shout and maybe even get a little violent. But át least you'll be rid of her right? Don't think of it as a bad thing, think of it as making way for the right guy, who will deal, accept and help her with all her issues. Good luck babe!
2007-01-21 12:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no nice way to break up with someone unfortunately. I think the kindest thing to do would be to make a clean break. Don't offer to stay friends, that will just give her hope of getting back together some day. Tell her you're not ready for a relationship and you need to do your own thing. Be prepared for a scene, expect her to cry but whatever you do stand firm in your decision. I know she has problems but pity isn't a reason to be with someone. Don't feel guilty, you're only being honest with her and being true to yourself.
2007-01-21 12:03:21 · answer #4 · answered by Velvet_Goth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a sensitive guy. It would help by being honest and kind to her. You cannot be responsible for how she is going to feel if you are considerate yet honest about your feelings:That's her job. It's never an easy to do this. I know this one guy who broke up with someone and he helped her get over it by being a supportive nurturing friend. Not everyone on both side can handle this but they are still close friends
2007-01-21 11:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by elflocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well aprently it sound like ur going crazy because of her.Well what u do is try to tell her that u need to move on.....it's just not working.But tell her gently and also tell her that u can still be her friend but u need space and not to do as much.I would suspect her to understand.It will be hard for her but atleast she can still get help from u and u wont be lakng on grades.Just try to help her out but don't spend all ur time.GOOD LUCK I HOPE IT WORKS!!!!
2007-01-21 12:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by stacy_diva_girl619 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg
dont worry i am a girl so if i were her
i would be worried but just tell her that you realy like her but grades and having a giurlfriend is becoming a problem just tel her you would rather have her as friend and dont keep your conversation long cuz then she wil feel terrible try and tell her in a small place away from alot of people
i hope this will help
2007-01-21 11:57:37 · answer #7 · answered by shoppingmaniac28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really dont know how u should break up with her but do it soon because the more u wate the harder it will be i how his guy that got married with this chick that he didnt love that wasnt the love of his life and they have a bad marriage the have kids i mean the lady is super nice but it bad do it has fast sorry that i couldnt much help
2007-01-21 12:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by peacefellas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look u both deserve betta...you deserve to be in a relationship that u really wanna b in n she deserves sum1 who really wants 2b wif her...she wont know it at 1st but u'll be doing her a favour so best thing to do is to sit her down n say "your realy lovely...theres NO-ONE else (thats important) but i'm just not ready for a long term relationship and i'm really sorry because i thought i was...i know i've been really outta order but i know you deserve betta" she'll say she doesn't want betta but u have 2be firm....good luck x
2007-01-21 12:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by MattnMoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to her - sit her down in a private place (i suggest doing it at her house, that way you can get out and leave and she is already in a safe place). tell her that you do love her, but that you just can't stay with her because it's driving you crazy...
it'll hurt her, so try not to be really mean about it. be gentle, tell her its for the best... breaking up is never easy, but sometimes it just has to be done.
good luck!
2007-01-21 11:59:27 · answer #10 · answered by maj2001gma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋