I hate my mom so much...she thinks that she's the mother of my son...n she demands that my son is not 2 see his dad...I still live with her until I find a place of my own...yes my sons dad has done some bad things in his life right now he is in prison 4 something that the mother of his other son has done...n he has done some things 2 me also but I look past all that I look at the good side of him...She also thinks that she can get custody of my son, she says I dont take care of my son the way I should be n how can I do that right now when I'm working all the time trying 2 save money up so that I can get a place for me n my son to live in, see my son is almost 10 months old n I have never really gone out n had fun I have been out 1 time n she finds something wrong with that. after she tells me that I dont need 2 sit at home all the time a. n I need 2 go out n have fun, she has threatened to kill my sister with a gun she has in the house n threatened to kill herself. What should I do??
2007-01-21 03:50:48 · 14 answers · asked by I Love Him 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you need to get out . soon. she will be telling your son bad things about his dad and you . she will try to turn him against the both of you.'if you have another family member you can stay with , do it.
your mom is jealous. and wants to control you and your son. she is
off in the head too.
2007-01-21 03:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know that money is probably tight, but I would have to advise some family counseling between you and your mother. If you really don't want to do that, try and set aside some time for you and your mother to talk in a non-threatening way and make sure you have someone you trust to mediate and make sure that things don't get too out of hand. Try to set some rules (no interrupting each other, no yelling, no cussing, using "I feel" instead of "you"). Let me explain the "i feel" instead of "you". Instead of saying "You act like you can tell me what to do just because I live in your house" try "I feel that you think that I'm not a good mother". I know it may sound a little retarded, but it really does work. When You say "I feel" instead of "you" it prevents the other person from getting defensive. And don't forget to have a third-party (that won't take sides) to listen and intervene if things start to get out of hand.
HOPE I HELPED!
2007-01-21 03:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some mums feel their grandkids are their own kids.
tell her this is your son and you decide how he grows up. Her saying she will kill herslef is her way of trying to get you to stay and be with her. Shemight think your boyfriend will harm you or yor son and thats why she is like this. Explain that this is your life and not hers.
2007-01-21 03:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound like fine people, to me. Perhaps a night out at the opera or symphony will be just what you need.
Seriously...while you live in HER house, on HER dime, you follow HER rules. And be nice to the woman, for god sake!
2007-01-21 03:55:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not your mom you hate so much..it is your circumstances. Only you can change that. Life is all about "choices". Your family is typical of "drug related families"...is this the case? Try to get away from ALL of them including the boyfriend who blames his ex for being in jail. Who will he blame next time? You?
2007-01-21 03:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by dreamgirl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell your "mother" that he is your son and you make the rules about him! She is NOT the mother of your son! YOU are the mother! So tell her off!!
2007-01-21 03:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
She is unstable, get your son and leave the sooner the better.Maybe you could stay with a friend .
2007-01-21 03:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
umm... leave? y would u live with sum1 you hate so much? isnt living on the streets better? hmm.. is there ne1 else that u could stay with till u get a home of ur own? yeaaa.
2007-01-21 03:56:50 · answer #8 · answered by wildchild47236 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to ur mom. take her to a shrink. ur mom may be suffering from depression cuz u are leaving her to take care of ur son.
2007-01-21 03:53:44 · answer #9 · answered by gema=) 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have some serious issues...my friend..Grow up, ditch the father, and get away from your mother!!!!
2007-01-21 03:54:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋