my son is having tantrums already whats the best way to handle it , ignoring or cuddling them or distraction
2007-01-21 03:39:01 · 13 answers · asked by SMANTHA R 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My daughter is 2 and has the same issue. I asked the doctor. He said tantrums are usually for attention and NOT to cuddle them or distract them to just let them have their fit and ignore it, making sure that they are in a place they can not hurt themselves while rolling around screaming.
Cuddling will only give them what they want, the attention, and it will reinforce the idea that they can get what they want if they scream and cry.
Try spending some "special time" with him when he is not throwing fits and see if that helps. I have noticed a huge diffence with my daughter since we started getting a little "us" time
2007-01-21 03:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by Lori R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 2 now and been having little tantrums since about 16 months old i usually distract her with something and she forgets what she is fussing about. It will take a few minutes but next time he fusses pretend to look out the window and say "oh what's that out there?' Or play peek-a-boo, everytiime i do that my daughter ends up laughing and gets over it. Then i cuddle her. I think ignoring them is cruel, how would you like to be upset about something and just have someone totally ignore you or walk away while you were freaking out?
2007-01-21 05:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm am training to be a nursery nurse, and what we do is ignore them, i know it sounds nasty but its really not. your son is having tantrums and what you should do is tell him what he is doing is not right and then just ignore him, because he wants your attention, and once you have give him attention when he is having a tantrum then he will think its right and he will do it again. so you should ignore him when he starts having a tantrum and he will soon realise that he's not getting very far by doing this! and hopefully he will stop.
Good luck ! =)
2007-01-21 03:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by . x * Jodie * x . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all kids try with the tantrums to see how far they can get before you something about it. do you watch nanny 911 its great. if he is throwing a tantrum put him out in the hall and close the door and tell him when he is finished he can come back in. i know it's hard but it works. if he wont share his toys with others take the toys away from him and say when you share you can have them back. iv'e been there so i know what it is like
2007-01-21 05:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by flower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a two year old and whenever she's about to have a tantrum...I lay her in a safe area where she can't hurt herself and I watch her have her tantrum without reacting to it. Then when she's done I ask "Do you feel better now?" And then she's a happy camper again..She realizes that when I don't react and therefore not getting any feedback, she stops and then goes about doing what she did before. Works for me!
2007-01-21 03:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Mela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A combination of ignoring and diverting their attention.
Offer an activity or toy of some sort and if that doesn't help. Walk away and let them carry on with their tantrum. If nobody is there to watch, they won't continue.
2007-01-21 03:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by colinsmumplus1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Diversion is favourite
Walk away and ignore if and when possible - second choice
Lay on the floor and have one with them, if it don't scare the life out of them, it makes you feel better!!! (Only kidding - but I have been sorely tempted, seen the advert?)
It tend to depend of WHERE it happens to - they seem to KNOW just when and where it is most effective, which tells me, they do have control to begin with - later into the tantrum they loose it completely, can you remember that feeling? Scary, not saying one should REWARD them for it but to give them some space and time to cool down, positive behaviour to positive behaviour.
Good luck!!!!
2007-01-21 03:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by SUPER-GLITCH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son who,s now 26 used to lie on the kitchen floor having his tantrum, so i used to walk out and sit in lounge, he soon got over it when he was ignored, he,s now grown up to be a fine man, married with a baby of his own on the way, i wonder if history will repeat!
2007-01-21 05:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by dunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend ion the child's mood and why he is throwing the tantrum. You will have to choose when the time comes. Parenting is pretty much trial and error, just stay calm
2007-01-21 04:21:44 · answer #9 · answered by sunny_day_grl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wrote on here a few weeks ago. my 18 month grand son had terrible . for lack of a better word. fits, we took the advice and just ignored him and he has totally quit. just make sure that nothing is wrong to cause them . good luck
2007-01-21 18:24:51 · answer #10 · answered by piddiling 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋