Should I tell my mom the real reason why I am doing so bad at school?
I am doing bad at school because this stupid boy. I liked him for a year. I know he's too old for me and I know I'm too young for that type of "dating-relationship stuff" (I'm 14, freshman in highschool). Though I like someone new now, I can't get over this boy 100%. I don't even know why I still like him; he's cruel to me, he's 18 and he goes to other freshman girls, and he's disgusting. I cry like everyday for no reason. Is this depression? Should I tell my mother? I am just frightened now.
2007-01-21 03:33:01 · 11 answers · asked by ? 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I want to say yes, but I don't know your mom. What I do know is that you have YEARS ahead of you to spend with people that you have already met and that you will meet in the future. I can also tell you that everyone you like is not going to like you back. You have little or no control over these things. What you DO have control over is how you react to the whole deal, which doesn't always seem fair. But my advice to you is to form bonds with people who treat you nicely. These are people of character, who have values and have taken a genuine interest in the wonderful young lady that you are. As for the people who treat you badly or are abusive to you in a mental, emotional, or physical way, they have not evolved. Do not take their insulting behavior seriously. But, wish them well. Pray for them. Hope in your heart that they become fullfilled in their lives.
I know it is hard. And, believe me, there is a good chance that this boy won't be the last to make you feel bad and distract you from your life and your school work. Please remember that he is just one of many people you will meet. He is only 18, which is very young. May not seem so to you right now, but he is. He is most likely not the peson he was meant to be as of yet. And you most likely have alot of growing to do inside and out as well. Take it easy on yourself. He will be off to college and out of your life next year. May as well put him out of your mind today.
As for your mom....You may want to run it by her...But in the end, it is up to you to take care of yourself and not let some immature guy hurt your feelings enough to wreck your grades or your life. And I know you can do it...Because it will feel alot better than the way you have been feeling.
2007-01-21 03:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell your mom. Tell her the whole truth so she won't be worrying that there's something else wrong. At 14 you have to realize that there will be plenty of boys to choose from when the time is right. Why don't you consider spending more time on your feelings. Start to look at ways to improve your self-esteem so that you won't end up in a situation like this again. Join some groups so you can find friends your age with similar interests. That way when you do find someone it'll be based on more than looks. Good luck.
2007-01-21 11:47:51 · answer #2 · answered by mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please tell your mom and go to school counselor or therapist. what goes around comes around and he will get his. What you sow you reap andddd he will. One day you will have a true love;
Growing up and the teens is rough. My i suggest this awsome book about relationships? will save a lot of heartache down the road. It will explain so much better than my attempt.
Boundries in dating by John Macloud. It will help protect your heart on down the Road!
Tell your mom ! Now okay! God bless
I am a mom too! lol
2007-01-21 11:40:09 · answer #3 · answered by tennessee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom, she was a teenager once, and every teenager goes \through this.
If you still dont want to speak to her, my best advice is to try to ignore that guy. the same thing happened to me 3 years ago when i started high school and it was hard but i got over the guy and found someone better who loves me!
2007-01-21 11:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by English Wiz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell your mother. She can help you through this. She was a teenager once too. Moms always know!
2007-01-21 11:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by colinsmumplus1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon, yes, you need to speak to your mom. Before you start telling her your situation, first say "Mom, I'm having problems. And I really need to you listen. Please don't get mad or judge me. I just really need you to listen. Can you do that?" And when she says yes... start talking.
Also, at your age 'falling' for guys is very serious stuff. Don't beat yourself up but learn to pick the right guy. Your mom will help.
Take care, hon!
2007-01-21 11:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need to tell your mother. you are new to teenage. and most teenage at this time love someone and then they discover they were stupid. dont give him any attention, i know this is not easy. but try because believe he wont look for you because you are younger than him.
2007-01-21 11:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. The truth is always best.
2007-01-21 11:35:46 · answer #8 · answered by Shayna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, your mom can handle this she will give you advice
2007-01-21 11:37:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah talk to your mom. she will help. xox
2007-01-21 11:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by dali333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋