2007-01-21 03:23:16 · 23 answers · asked by Wm N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It would depend on her circumstances and her personal values. If you have friends in common try to find information regarding the circumstances of her impending divorce and then decide if and how to proceed or not.
Try to determine what kind of support system she needs during this time. Is it 1-someone to listen to her, 2-someone to pamper her, 3-someone to celebrate with, 4-someone to help her realize how wonderful she is, etc...
Once you find out, determine if you can be one or all of what she needs from someone at this time in her life. It's not a good idea to be the rebound relationship (often times they don't work)
Be careful of your boundaries and if you follow your heart and your intentions are honorable, then that is a great first step.
2007-01-21 03:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by T esira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give this lady and yourself a good deal of leeway. Many people who are going through or have just become divorced have a good deal of emotional baggage/ conflicting feelings. Some may not want to date at all, where others are very ready to begin to experience a new relationship.
It's good to be sensitive. Use and trust your intuition. Try and be a good and deep listener, and see if you can develop the basis for a solid friendship. Put yourself in this person's shoes. Do not let your ego cloud your decisions. She may or may not still be riding a roller coaster of emotions; most common: anger, fear, anxiety, guilt, depressed/suppressed emotions, sadness, grief for the end of the relationship (no matter it's quality), relief, etc. We are, indeed, complex beings.
If there are children involved, they must come before your interests. Do not take this or other potential situations personally. If she shows no interest, be respectful and postpone or cease your efforts.
All in all, it is sometimes much more beneficial to give the person time to heal from their wounds and to begin to discover, create and experience their new life path. Unfortunate, though true, most couples do not choose(and, yes, it is a choice), to handle divorce in a healing and amicable manner.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-21 03:48:39 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix Rising 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start slow, remember she may have some bad times and trust may be a issue at this time. Ask to go to dinner just as friends, when divorces happen most people want to dwell on what they have done or things they could have done. Try to get her out to go do things, flea markets, shows, walking in parks, etc. Do not start with the approach of dating. First try to just be a companion , once she has gotten over the divorce. let her know your feeling. This will give her some time and also give you some time to get to know her.
2007-01-21 03:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by gimlost2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would make sure you give yourself enough time. You may feel as if your ready, but you don't want to go into a relationship with any type of baggage. Make sure you have dealt with all your issues emotional and stuff. Cause it wouldn't be fair to the girl. I would also make sure that you aren't rebounding cause your temporarily lonely. I probably wouldn't get with someone else that is just coming out of a divorce either, cause it could lead to issues for both of you. I think when your ready you will know it and its ok to go out on casual dates and enjoy yourself with movies or whatever, but letting the girl its nothing serious so, you can still have the company and have the opportunity to feel completely ready. Goodluck
I just realized you said she was going through the divorce. Sorry I read that wrong, so my answer wouldn't completely comply to you, but I would still be concearned about baggage and being a rebound.
2007-01-21 03:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is in the middle of a divorce, it would not be a good time to start dating. She is vulnerable and probably apprehensive and you don't want to be the rebound guy. Become her friend, give her support and a shoulder to cry on until the divorce is finished. Then make your move, good relationships are always based upon friendship.
2007-01-21 03:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by notaxpert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she likes you the way you like her then i say ask her. But if she is still on the rocks with the divorce i think a bit of space and time would be good before you jump in:)
2007-01-21 03:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by shishuzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not the right thing to do now. As you can see she is too vulnerable at this moment. I am wondering as to how you are waiting for her to get a divorce and get her. Did you know her for long, how did you come to know her. Are you the cause of divorce.
2007-01-21 03:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by Iqbal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm unsure once you're relatively waiting for the courting scene yet. Being lonely and desperate is frequently a bad combination once you're searching for companionship, your standards grow to be relatively versatile. as a replace, in case you play a activity connect a mixed league, that way you could spend it sluggish interior the agency of others, which incorporate women, without the pressures of courting.
2016-10-31 22:05:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until the divorce is over and then make your move. If you move in too quickly she may not respond the way you want. She might not like you that way any way, so prepare for that too in case. Good luck.
2007-01-21 03:28:50 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not very clear.Who is going through the divorce you or her??Secondly nobody can start a new relationship until the old one is completely disolved.
2007-01-21 03:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋