Im athletic, participate in clubs and help out in my community all the time, yet at school guys steer away from me. all my friends, including some guys say its because im too confident. how can i get guys to like me for me, and not judge me?
2007-01-21 03:22:44 · 17 answers · asked by Kiery 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Kimberly!
I've never heard of anyone telling another that they are "too confident", but, if it's true, in some men's eyes, I'd say it's Bcuz they feel uneasy and want the "Upperhand" in a relationship, or some guys who are manipulators know they can't get anywhere with a confident woman, and it makes sense!
I wasn't a confident person for most of my life, BUT, I'm getting there and learning along the way!
Kim, just be yourself! That's my advice! The right people will gravitate towards you, because, I believe the good guys admire confident women, and you WILL stand OUT, believe me!
Believe in yourself and don't worry about the loser-guys who say different. I'd be PROUD of your confidence! It's a GREAT tool and I hope to "get there" fully someday!
1 last thing, go ahead and let others Judge you!
It doesn't matter what they think, anyway!
You are all who matters! You will be fine!!!!
(I just wanted to tell ya that!)
2007-01-21 03:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys sometimes feel threatened by a confident, successful woman, which leaves you with two choices.
(1) Do you want the sort of guy who needs his women submissive, and shy?
(2) If you do, then you'll have to tone down the confidence. Try dropping something, or wearing girly clothes, or failing to lift a box. it'll make them feel superior.
Personally I'd just wait for a guy masculine enough not to feel threatened
Good luck!
2007-01-21 03:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by Alexandria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you havent found the right guy yet, dont change, believe it or not as guys get older the most attractive thing in a woman is confidence
2007-01-21 03:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe and just maybe u intimidate them with ur confidence now unless u want to have a deeper conversation with someone keep the confidence but if u meet someone ud like to talk to more relax let ur guard down abit dont sound so smart and know it all unless they really ask for it by being xtra dumb be you
2007-01-21 03:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by ladyluck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some men are turned away to more of the independant types because they feel less instinctively stronger or dominant in your presence. If you act like you want something from him he may show he's got a little something for you! Never underestimate the power of a little ego-strokage.
2007-01-21 03:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jeska J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open your eyes up more, and lower your chin and nose... They once said this about me.
Keep the confidence in your head, but let your body speak that you are modest, kind and nice, and don't feel you are above anyone else.
It is good to have confidence. Not always best to rub it off on anyone and everyone.
2007-01-21 03:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't worry you will probably get the best guy in the end
Man is frightened by a clever woman but a clever man understands, you will probably end up marrying a very powerfull man
You will win believe me
granddad
You may email me janetwithjim@hotmail.com
2007-01-21 03:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by edward b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you comparing with school guys.
Go out, you will be able to meet nice gentlemen. there you will see people who are more confident than you.
2007-01-21 03:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by Kewl guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love confidence. I also love intelligence, so if you have that in addition to your competitive streak, then I'd almost surely like you.
2007-01-21 03:27:40 · answer #9 · answered by Philip Kiriakis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by being true to your self.....maybe relax more....make more time for fun social things , you will either be accepted or not....so don't try changing who you are if you are happy with you...just don't take things so serious and show how much fun you can be to be around
2007-01-21 03:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by robboknight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋