Lately, my life has been like the movie, Little Black Book. I found out my boyfriend's email password and couldn't help but check it out. I found that he has a personals profile. He doesn't subscribe to the site, he just has the free profile. He seems to just view profiles. He sent one email from it a year ago when we first started dating. I also saw some emails from old girlfriends/hookups- but those were from before we got together. The ad is what's bothering me....we've been talking long-term but it seems he's checking out options, should I stay with him?
2007-01-21 02:57:40 · 15 answers · asked by CSL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Damn your nosy. Stay out of his business! He should leave you!
2007-01-21 03:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by jengels2002 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Haha. The whole password thing is funny. My sister has tried that before.
Well, I wouldn't tell him you found his password, but it looks like in a way (even though you shouldn't be going through his personal email), you benefit from this and found out something you needed to know.
If he wants to go long-term with you but is searching other options, don't be so quick to disregard that. Maybe let that be a red flag going up.
If he asks about going long-term again, but something in your gut tells you not to (and you really are bothered by this personals profile), then listen to that gut feeling. You may feel like you love him, but you can't always rule with your heart, use your head, too. Just say, "I don't think I'm ready for this yet...I want to keep my options open...maybe we should date other people first, and if that doesn't work out, then maybe it's meant to be..."
I think you know what to do.
2007-01-21 11:20:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all shame on you for invading his privacy.I bet it would be a different story if he invaded yours.And secondly why do you care about anything that happened before he was with you that was in the past leave it there.I think that you have crossed a line.Trust is everything in a relationship without trust you have nothing.Your boyfriend has done nothing wrong You are the one with the problem I think the real question is should your boyfriend leave you.I am sorry to be so blunt but that is the truth like it or not.I believe you have a past as well everybody does.
2007-01-21 11:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. First of all, you don't need to be prying around in his business. I bet you even check his voicemails and text messages. Psycho!!!! Sounds like he is not doing anything wrong. Everything you saw was from before you two got together, so lay off the guy. But you do need to do him a huge favor and dump his a**. You sound like a very jealous and untrusting female and you will have a very hard time keeping a guy unless you can change.
2007-01-21 11:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say he's looking for someone else as he hasn't subscribed, he's probably just looking for the laugh. maybe you should admit you saw his profile and ask him why he made one,but if the last time he sent an email was a year ago you probably have nothing to worry about.
2007-01-21 11:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by murnip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a pretty clean slate to me, its issues going going back a year ago!
He is a good boy.
Heck, if you checked out my internet explorations wow!.
I am a happy married guy and I love my wife, I would not want to get tossed out because.....
Guys are a curious species!
You have to get over the ad, after all its how you met right?
Sounds like a bit of insecurity.
But hey look, put yourself in other shoes a bit. I mean if he went into your purse would you like it?. If he checked out your telephone directory would like? It would feel kind of personal among other things right?
You are not married yet, and it sounds like the past.
If there is something he is doing which you do not like, simply point it out, and see if he is willing to change what he does. Don't toss him for such a petty thing. In fact you could even ask what was it he did.
2007-01-21 11:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by Sunny2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he's got an ad out about himself doesn't mean that he doesn't care about you. He seems to be being loyal towards you and hasn't overstepped his boundaries of your boyfriend. Plenty of people have that sort of thing out to just meet friends and not life partners so I think if you really trust him and care about him that much then you should let his computer life go. If it really starts to bother you maybe you could ask him about it but then you have to wonder if you want to risk getting in a fight over you somewhat invading his privacy. Good luck.
2007-01-21 11:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by Mystic-scorpio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are planning to break up with him, I wouldn't talk to him about it. Because after you do, if you stay together, everything will be awkward and you guys will be unhappy. I think you should stay with him, unless it seems like he is distracted from you. If he is distracted, it could meean he is ready to break up. Then you should pull the Trump card and ask him about it. But do you have any proof that he is chatting with girls? Maybe he just keeps it updated in case. If that is the case, he is probably feeling insecure about your relationship, and you should do things that make him feel like you still love him.
2007-01-21 11:05:11 · answer #8 · answered by ▐▀▀▼▀▀▌ ► Pogo ◄ ▐▄▄▲▄▄▌ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you break up with him you should defintely try to calm your self down so you can have less stress on yourself.Nextly look at the problem if it seems that it is possibly something he would do then you question him on it and tell him.
2007-01-21 11:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by MyEsHa_So_SeCkSi - 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
granddad
How can I answer this question
The man is the hunter the women the hunted
He is looking to see if there is anything better
Its upto you to keep him but he mat still go if someone else is more attractice to him.
Speak to your mum she knows beter than you
or you can email me janetwithjim@yahoo.com
2007-01-21 11:24:57 · answer #10 · answered by edward b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him about what it is.
he might have not even been there since before you were dating.
you want his "excuse" before you break up with him.You will make a big mistake by breaking up and left without an answer
2007-01-21 11:02:56 · answer #11 · answered by wind it up 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋