tell me im not the only one?

Question

im starting to feel really sad as i am 23 and still havent had a boyfriend im getting to the stage that im worried i wont be able to have a relationship or cope with one if i dont experience it soon. I also have trouble talking to guys i like and i think its ruining my chances

Answer 1

try to open up and talk to guys, maybe not even one you really like, just an ok one, that way you wont be too nervous

Answer 2

your not the only one. i got into my first relationship at 22. you should not worry about this, i also know many women who are 23-25 and never been in a relationship. course you feel lonely and sad at times and wish you had someone to hold right now, but believe me that your time will come, and to make that time come closer why not talk to guys and widen your friend circle because thats the best way of meeting guys, and you never know, one day you will find someone.

and not having experience with a guy does not mean you'll have trouble talking to one. but if you are normally shy talking to guys then you should talk more to guys, regardless if their your type or not, just getting some practice will help alot. generally for a girl to get a bloke is easier then for a guy to get a girl. its the way it is. so you always have a chance, just make yourself noticable to the guys out there and be yourself.

good luck

Answer 3

Is your problem looks or fear?
If it looks there is always something that can be done to make you attractive to the opposite sex.
If you are fearful of talking to the opposite sex ask yourself what you are so afraid of? Usually rejection right? Well if you are 23 and have not had a boyfriend yet I would say you are experiencing a lot of rejection, both from boys and yourself.

Put yourself out there, take interest in common public activities.
This is an old answer but the most important thing to do is be yourself. Talk to these guys like you are talking to your Friends, parents, pets etc. If they like you they will respond, if they don't like you then it was never going to happen anyway so don't worry about it.

Answer 4

You're not the only one! Pllleeaaassee don't fall prey to that common 20-something singles syndrome where you date the first person you encounter because you're lonely. If you have trouble talking to guys, try to meet in groups. I always had good luck going out with a group of friends. That way, there are lots of people to keep the conversation moving, and it's safer with more people around, too. Also, you could try meeting someone online- i met my fiance on cupid. Just be cautious- if you find someone you'd like to meet in person, make sure the first few dates are in a public place, and make sure your friends know where you'll be.

Answer 5

No. You are not the only one. You may the one and only. Get it.?

Girls your age should (operative word *should*) not have trouble attracting guys. I am sure you are attractive. If not, with all the items available today you certainly can make yourself look attractive. Spend a couple of bucks on yourself. Talk to a fashion /beauty consultant at your favorite dept. store. It is free and that's what they do.

23 is young. You have lots of time. You just are not looking in all the right places. For starters, Try: http://www.doulike.com It is free. It has photos and descriptions.

I know a few of my friends got married this way.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Well, it might help to stop thinking in terms of 'boyfriend' and start thinking instead in terms of 'boy/friend'. Relating to someone (boy or girl) as a friend first is the best basis for developing something deeper.
Also, remember......if you are 23 years old and still heart-and-body pure you are practically ONE OF A KIND and any good man would be proud to know you. It's their loss if they don't want to put forth the effort to develop a friendship with you.

Answer 7

If you take mr right of your head you will meet some one, life is about taking risk and be safe at the same time, and when you talk to guys buy attention as we guys will know if the women intersting or not, be your self and do not push your chances a way, have more confedent on your self, be one of the go getter ok

Answer 8

Dont think like that as your only very young and have plenty of time to find a bloke. Make sure you are going out and having fun and meeting new people, confidence with talking to them will come with experience. Just think what have you got to lose? Good luck hun xx

Answer 9

me too ,it's horrible and i can't exactly tell anyone .
i work in the south of ireland in the army and live in the north .
i am very reserved and don't make friends easily.
most of the guys think i'm a male ****.if they knew the truth ,i'v kissed two girls both times i didn't like it. at least they don't know that. i'm 22, 23 in july the one thing i wanted was to find a girl i can trust and who will like me for me .
i joined match.com in november 2006 i never thought i would join a chat site it's seemed so lame but it's really not .
i actually was close to tears because of it today .
i don't drink or smoke
i don't like clubs or bars and feel worse if i go to them .
ur not the only one.
and i'm really self conscious about the way i talk ,look and come across i want them to like me.
it sucks, i know this dosen't help and wish i could help you as well as myself but

YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE

Answer 10

You're not the only one, trust me, there are plenty of people in your shoes. You're shy, nothing wrong with that, but you need to find a way to step outside your comfort zone and allow yourself to be open to meeting people.
Go out and find a group of people with similar interests, something you'll enjoy, that will give you an opportunity to meet people with similar interests, that way, you open doors to finding and meeting others in a setting you find comfortable. And the perfect guy may be feeling the same way you do, shy and uncomfortable talking to girls, if you put yourself in a group setting, it's easier to start up a conversation, and who knows, you may find exactly who you're looking for.
Take a chance girl, love could be waiting for you to come to it!!

Answer 11

I think everyone becomes ready for a relationship at different times. Don't be so hard on yourself. Just get yourself out there, go to partys, or get involved in church activities. Go out with friends, meet their friends. If you have any guy friends you trust, get their input, mabe they have someone in mind to set you up with. You can also join a dating site. I hear match.com is a great one. It will give you alot of practice talking to guys who view your profile. You will build your confidence and before you know it you will be a dating maniac. : ) Oh ....and coping with a relationship is hard for everyone, you just have to get in there and do your best.