Everytime I look into the mirror I feel like destroying it. I think I'm so ugly even if people tell me I'm pretty, I just block them out. Is this normal for girls in Junior High or do I nee help
2007-01-21 02:49:00 · 15 answers · asked by A nobody 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
no, not at all, you seem to be abnormal. Girls feel happy and boast around at compliments and you feel the other way round, so obviously, I would call it abnormal. Consult a psychiatrist.
2007-01-21 03:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by keentoknow 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You lack self esteem. Why do you look so poorly upon yourself? If people see you in a good light you know the problem lies within you.
It's understandable to feel afraid and insecure. Someone once said "act the way you want to be and soon you'll be the way you act".
Start being that person you would like to be. You have to learn that you are who you are and there is no one in this world like you. Other people like you for you. So hey, where is the problem! You don't know how to act or behave? How do you WANT to see yourself with your friends. Practice it or envision it in your head, then just muster up the courage and do it.
You will always have people that like you and those that don't. Even the most beautiful of celebrities have people who don't like them and think they are "dogs" etc. That's just life.
Everyone shares the same insecurities you do but you just have to learn to trust in people, especially those who like you and open up a little. Don't focus so much on yourself but on having a good time when you are out and amongst your friends. As they say "lighten up" and have fun.
2007-01-21 11:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it is normal for girls in junior high to be overly concerned about thier apperiance. but i also thing that this is a health issue and you need to fix it either by yourself or with help. You need to remember that you are beuiful, wether or not you are physically atractive, or mentally shining. And its not the outside that counts, its the inside. and mabye if people tell you that you are pretty, mavye you should take thier word for it. If some many people are thinking it, how can it not be true?
2007-01-21 11:06:12 · answer #3 · answered by Alysse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax and stop being so dramatic. Looks are just one small part of life, you are enhancing your fear of rejection when you look in the mirror. Don't be so airheaded. But it is normal for young girls to feel they are ugly. It's just a phase that you will overcome when you realize being pretty or being ugly is relative, and you only need to accept yourself as you are. If you are unhappy with yourself, you will have a very crappy life. So get over it and love yourself you little girl
2007-01-21 11:08:03 · answer #4 · answered by LumiereLady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is totaly normal...i feel like this all the time...i went to see a counceler for similar things and she tough me many things including emotion therepy to love yourself..but even that couldnt work .. sometimes people arnt happy with the way they look, but you cannot really change it can you? so there is no point getting upset about it...just remember looks arnt everything...i know its corny and cliche but it really is true...be a fun, outgoing person and people wont care what you look like and you wont either....friend dont generaly lie so im sure you are very pretty...but remember your only in junior high you have a lot of changing to do yet....hope that helps xxx
2007-01-21 11:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by chance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not say outright, that you have Depression. It is not uncommon for younge girls and guys, in fact, to think they are ugly when they are not.
Though it is normal and common, it is not healthy and can result in other problems too. Look for help. Talk to friends and family, whichever you're more comfortable with.
You needs to gain some self confindence. Getting involved in things that require you being around alot of people can really help to do this. Get involved in sports, educational groups, and clubs.
2007-01-21 10:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by ladyinblue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
right now u r in a very very difficult stage of ur life..junior high u just developing and discovering yourself.. who u are?! who is intrested in you!?! all the stuff and ideas come along during this time!
listen to me girl..u dont need to someone to tell you that u r prettty... NO ONE should tell you.. u should tell yourself that! believe in yourself.. cuz if u dont and u keep up that negative energy most people around u will feel negative too.. and believe me guys dont like that.. they like a girl who believes in herself! so u take care of urself... be healthy.. take care of ur skin.. try to always dress nice.. sometimes when u attempt in doing such things like dressing.. hair cuts..light makeup..and put the smile on ur face it will make u feel better from the inside and eventually will feel good about urself!
2007-01-21 10:57:05 · answer #7 · answered by Pixie dust 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Beauty inside is better than beauty outside. Get connected with God and gain eternal value. God loves you, and you are precious to Him, no matter how you look outside. He only look inside of you.
In the Beginning God created heavens and earth.
God gives us air to breathe and sunshine to enjoy.
God gives us water to drink and food to eat.
God gives us a wonderful body and sound mind, to live.
God loves us, and we are precious to Him.
Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation.
Jesus’ love is boundless and everlasting.
We have the hope of Heaven through Jesus.
Life therefore has fantastic and glorious future!
(Please must visit: www.spiritlessons.com)
2007-01-21 11:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by tmthyh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you want to destroy the mirror because something about you makes you insecure about yourself and to prevent looking at the problem directly you have thought about the problem...when u look in the mirror you r looking at the thing you r insecure about...many teens your age r insecure about themselves..it can be dangerous wen the girl goes to the extreme to fix the issue...try looking in the mirror everyday as often as you can and think about every single thing you love about yourself ..repeat them over and over again and believe it or not ..you will accept the repsonses you told yourself....you will start to love who u r and stop want ing to destroy the mirror now...you will actually love looking at yourself in the mirror..if you think u need help..talk about the problem with your mom and she'll be there to support you....hope this helps
2007-01-21 10:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by FashionRocks 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize there are two kinds of beauty. Inner beauty and outer beauty. Superficial people only accept outer beauty but the lasting beauty is always on the inside. Superficial people have to make it by looking good cause they have nothing inside to work with.
2007-01-21 10:59:42 · answer #10 · answered by numb nuts 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it is very normal, particularly at your age, an extreme case would be body dismorphic disorder which many anorexic people show, where no matter how thin they get they see themselves as fat, try no to obsess over it, it will get better over time
2007-01-21 11:20:57 · answer #11 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋