I just lost my mother last month and at first my boyfriend and i were having problems and they got worst for a couple of days. But anyway there is this guy that i have been talking too but we dont have sex but we slept together for two nights straight. I dont like him like a sex buddy just someone to be with untill my boyfriend comes home. My question is since it is just harmless is it considered cheating even though we are not having sex.
2007-01-21 02:44:54 · 7 answers · asked by babygyrlellison 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you know.....thats a very good question.....hmm......you dotn say where your b/f is you just say until he comes home...so im guessing he's eve away at college, in the service, or travels for work....so keep that in mind as you read this.....Im sorry about the loss of your mother thats hard for any one to deal with the loss of any parent of family member , but you have a right to greive and feel the way you do right now , you are needing that "closeness" of some one who understands what your going through and how you need that extra "TLC" but...im not sure if your if your trying to make up for the emptyness your feeling cuase you miss your b/f when hes not there to hold you!!! every human being needs to feel affection in some shape or form, wether it be emotionally, mentally, spiritually, or physically, its nautral to want to feel needed and accepted and complete in that kind of situation, even though you dont see this other guy in sexual way, the fact that we are not any different from the animal kingdom in that we have there ablilites, an instincts, the only difference, is we have brains, and minds and concoious's that we know right from wrong, thats the way GOD or the creator or who ever your spiritual belives made us, which means, some times, we make mistakes and human nature takes over which means your hormones and the other guy could get outta control and you may end up in "intimacey" in a way neither of you eve imainged or thought possible!! and the fact you have slept with him 2 nites straight ....even though you 2 didn't have sex ! the posibility exists and the conditions and circumastances all say that its possible that it could "happen" some day which im sure you dont want for your b/f to find out about that !!!!! that would be horriable and make the situaiton worse!!! if you truly care about your b/f and are not wanting to hurt him or lose him.....then i'd reconsider the sleeping arangements, you can still spend time with this other guy if he's a friend , just sleep in different rooms or parts of the house like you the bed, and let him take the couch or guest room!! that way there is no room for mistakes to happen!!! and think about how your b/f would feel , and how he mite react to finding you in a situaiton like that ....you know what if your friend sleeps over at your place, and your b/f comes home and walks in your room and sees you two like that, what do you think he would, say, think, or feel?! even if he knows the guy is just friend still the issue of trust will come up!!! and no man or woman wants to share there significant other if they truly love them or care about them, then agian every one is different and has different values and morals and would say there is nothing wrong with that type of behavior!!! I hope this helps and makes sense!!!! its like your skateing on thin ice, or danceing too close to the fire watch out you might get burned or the ice may break!!! good luck!!!!!!
2007-01-21 03:12:32 · answer #1 · answered by southernspring2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let me ask you this- How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? You found out your boyfriend was doing something like this? Ok, thank you..you just answered your own question.
Also, sorry to hear bout your loss, but it still doens't make it ok to do this.
2007-01-21 10:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, sorry to hear about the loss of your mother!
Secondly, YES! You're turning to someone other than your boyfriend.
2007-01-21 10:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by Serendipity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i had a friend like that when i was a teen he was my best buddy and our relationship was just that we were best friends, some people would say differently but they were just ignorant i guess, we were friends and that was it.
2007-01-21 10:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is cheating. Sex will just come naturally. You will not know when?/
2007-01-21 10:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by memonikos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since the question says love triangle, i am gonna say that you are cheating, and iam sure that this is just a question to see how reliable your lie is
2007-01-21 10:49:31 · answer #6 · answered by And i heard as it were a thunder 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes don't do that you will ruin your relationship with your boyfriend...and you don't even love that guy....
find some girlfriend talk to her be with yourself...just imagin how would you fell if your boyfriend is sleeping with anothergirl but they are not having sex....don't do that..
2007-01-21 10:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋