Granted I look like I'm only 16 (I'm actually 20) but still, I dont get it. I'm 5'8" (mostly legs), slender/athletic build, blonde with dark brown eyes, and recently started modeling. (I don't consider myself extremely attractive, but I think I'm kinda pretty.) I'm really into cars (majoring in automotive design.) but the guys never really talk to me. And when it comes to dating- I'm usually not considered... (I dont think... I'm typically ignored, or asked asked about the status of my roomates.)
Does this mean I have a really bad personality or am doing something wrong?
2007-01-21 02:43:45 · 23 answers · asked by Nikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey it means that if you all 'that' guys back off because they lack the self-confidence to even try & think they can be with you!
2007-01-21 02:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing of the sort. You seem a really sweet person from what I've read. It may be that you give off an aura of inviolability, that guys are afraid of your prettiness and self confidence. Maybe you should try to flirt a little, try and consciously flirt rather than wait for another to make the first move.
Try asking a guy out instead, or even starting conversations when you wouldn't normally. There's nothing wrong with you, but your inner self esteem might have taken a blow at rejection causing you to feel less desirable- and thus appearing to be so.
Whatever happens, I hope it all goes right for you
2007-01-21 02:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by Alexandria 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys may be intimidated by you. This happens with guys and hot chicks. Or, they may think that since you are attractive, you are already taken and they wouldn't stand a chance. Or it could be that you are totally arrogant or a royal b*tch and no guy wants to deal with that, no matter how hot the chick is. Also, you may come across as being desperate. No guy wants a desperate chick. They are the ones that fall in love on the first date and start talking about marriage, kids, etc. It's hard to really pinpoint it w/out knowing you, but hopefully I have been of some help.
2007-01-21 02:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well all I know is that this isn't a bad sign at all. You do not wear the 24-7 7-11 flag. If you're looking to draw more attention I would suggest treating them as u want to be treated. You need not even lower yourself to dressing in any particular way, it's a personality thing. Guys need to feel attractive to really act attractively!
2007-01-21 02:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jeska J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not just about being pretty. If you look around at who has the boyfriends - often is isn't the prettiest girl - and not all guys are just intimidated, but even if they ARE - and you want a relationship - YOU are the one who probably has to change. You can't change anyone but yourself, after all.
I am older now, but found myself with the same problems. I even had to have a guy friend of mine get me a date to the prom because no one asked me. After much soul searching, I figured out that it was me and my attitude that put guys off. My mom was divorced and hated men and even though I really wanted a guy in my life, her attitudes rubbed off on me. I started reading books by Dr. Phil, Christian Carter - on line dating advice; and as I learned more about how guys' brain's work things started to happen for me. It is not just about being pretty. Hang in there - you are young...but if you are having this experience now - make changes now instead of waiting until you are in your 20's or 30's. Good luck!
2007-01-21 03:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by shannonfromthecoast 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Pretty is as pretty does. Change slowly for the better. Practice being a good listener. If you are at a bar and one guy sees you snub or laugh at another guy trying to talk to you - you have just reduced your chances with everyone who saw it.
If a guy wants to sit down, you send him on his way, and then put a big L on your head behind his back...he won't see you, but everyone else in the room will.
that doesn't mean you do that, and I'm not accusing you. I just mean that if one sees another strike out, it makes the next more cautious. It also doesn't mean you have to say yes to anyone...it does mean that there are kind ways to say no.
2007-01-21 02:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by Mature Witch 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is because you are shallow, Paris. Or is this Brittany? Or maybe Nicole?
Good looks are a dime a dozen and the good looking ones have all the same parts as the ugly ones and once someone has tried out your parts it is deja vu!
Get some culture, babe. Learn the meaning of the word, "quality." Stop associating with guys who notice you are good looking, that is a shallow observation. Plastic surgery can make any person good looking but they are still the same disgusting piece of human trash under the surface. The human body is living flesh that decays upon death. It is worthless except for being able to talk, think, learn, experience, create, love/like/ignore/hate, etc. It is all those things that make one interesting and important.
Living is work and good works is life. Wanna get a life? Then work at it.
2007-01-21 03:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most guys don't need/want a really good looking girlfriend. Most of them are really bit**y, and can't be trusted. Most guys think that the really good looking girls are already taken so why chance being shot down. Most guys think that the really good looking girls are gold diggers. Most guys think that the really good looking girls are not down to earth, and are stuck on themselves. Most guys don't want a girl that is being checked out or hit on by all the other guys. I know I raised 4 daughters.........and although I consider them beautiful mainly because they are my daughters, others consider them beautiful as well. Getting a date was always tough, all because of what i mentioned above. But my girls aren't that way, I raised them to respect others as well as themselves. The only advice I could give to them was.......be good, be nice, to everyone. Show other that you are a good/nice person ( not an easy person), talk to people even if they don't talk to you first( attractive guys as well as not so attractive guys), be respectful.......no matter who they are. While modeling is good lots of guys see that as a sign of conceit. Just be yourself, show others that your down to earth, don't act better than others, don't go tossing around your intelligence. Someone will spot you as not only beautiful outside but beautiful inside as well. Show them that you have high moral values. Show them that there is more to you then just a pretty package.
2007-01-21 03:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, if your too pretty, it can be intimidating. most would assume you have either a boyfriend, really high standards yourself, or a stuck up snob.
it may depend on how you dress or look at other people. maybe you have some rumor about you that you don't know about.
as far as cars go, it depends on how you dress. if you dress like a guy, and play with cars - people may think your a lesbian. if you dress all barbie like, people will think your a flake. if you dress in a geek way, something more casual, less make up, less leg showing - you might attract takers.
also looking young at this age might not be good. since people will steer clear if they think your under age.
2007-01-21 02:48:45 · answer #9 · answered by mike s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The description you give - I can just picture it. Your being attractive - sorry to say it - is actually working against you.
But you can use your assets (pun intended) to your advantage and come on more feminine. Join clubs/hang out in places where people with your type of interest congregate.
Looks like guys think "......it is actually is a liability to have a pretty girl........." They probably think you are high maintenance. Guys are insecure, you know. Too attractive girls actually keeps them away........They are not ignoring you. They secretly wish they could make friends with you but they do not know how you will react.
2007-01-21 02:57:08 · answer #10 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋