I've known this guy 4 months and seen him 4 times.He lives a long way from me.It was love at first sight for me;I've tried to end it 3 times before because he is married with 2 teenage daughters.After the 1st meeting I was in love + a few days later he told me he was married-before anything physical happened.That was too late, I was already in love with him.He's said he's staying with his wife because of all the usual reasons-kids,money and she's been ill.I understand this because my husband and I were going to stay together for our children but split 6 months ago.
I've had a date with someone else, he wants to take me out again but I want to end it with the married guy 1st.I'll never forget him, the thought of not seeing him again does upset me a lot.Plus he doesn't feel the same way about me.He says things like I miss you and can't wait to see you again.I've told him nothing about the way I feel-I'm very casual with him.
I can't tell him why I want it to end-that I love him .
2007-01-21 02:39:17 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wake up. He's using you. Ditch him quick.
2007-01-21 02:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by Humpy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you, he would have chosen you. but first, there are some problems. He has children and a wife. If you guys get together, you'll be the one who'll break the family. Second, he is beeing unfaithful with his wife. What abut if he does the same thing to you later on? Reconsider this and look for someone else. 4 months and seen him 4 times only is not enough to know a person better. Look for a man who's single or already divorced. Just tell him straigh about what you think. There's nothing better than the truth. Anyway, you can just ignore him and dump him...Good luck
2007-01-21 02:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by LadyXSakura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you will not want to hear this, but you are NOT in love with him only in Lust. Love is far more meaningful than what you have with this married man.
Since what you are doing is wrong, hurtful and immoral, there is really no need to say anything to him. Just stop seeing him and move on to someone whom is not married with children. You deserve better than that. Don't demean yourself for someone whom does not respect you. I guarantee the married guy will find another honey to disrespect so don't worry about hurting his feelings.
Hopefully this other guy is single and will show you how a "real" man treats a lady. Respect yourself and others will follow.
2007-01-21 03:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by #1 auntie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How you meet them is how you lose them...he's done it to her, he'll do it to you. And how can anybody worth anything betray his children like that?
You and his wife sound both victims in this situation (not just his children). He doesn't know how to treat a girlfriend/wife/kids so he doesnt deserve them.
He's having his cake and eating for it and your falling for it. Ignore the lines he might use on you. Don't give him the privelege of ANOTHER woman's love when he doesn't deserve it. Don't make excuses for him. No woman deserves to be second best.
I don't mean this rudely, but until you sort yourself out and develop some standards, I think you should take a step back from dating altogether. I've seen it a hundred times before and if you don't you'll keep getting hurt, worse and worse each time.
2007-01-21 03:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hear ya!! This is hard be its not. Tell him want you told all of us. that's the way you should end this. Read the same thing you wrote here today under your details. He should understand, because he wants you to understand his life and position. But don't forget happen in your marriage, do what to be some of the cause in someone else's failed marriage? Be careful don't get to in love. If he is cheating on his wife he will cheat on you if he ever becomes your husband.
2007-01-21 02:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by Ms.Midwest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from married men.
If all women did this the rats wouldn't be able to have their cake and eat it.
It isn't only his wife who will be hurt if he gets found out but his kids as well. Not to mention you.
Find a man of your own not someone elses.
2007-01-21 02:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by mummylove 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He obviously doesnt have a lot of repect for women if he can cheat and lie to his wife like that, so do you really wanna get caught up with sum1 like that, i know its too late as you say you love him but if you walk now then it will stop the feelings getting any deeper and it wont be as hard. It will take time for u to get over him but you will find sum1 else who you feel the same for. xx
2007-01-21 02:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kimmy xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be honest about your feelings for him. Let him know, but don't pursue this relationship any further. He has already told you he won't leave his wife, so where do you expect to take your relationship with him? Yeah it will hurt but move on, you'll be much happier in the future. You want to be someones wife or girlfriend, you don't want to be the mistress do you?
2007-01-21 02:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
R U serious? He is MARRIED! Take a hike already! I dont mean to be so blunt but do u really wanna be a homewrecker? No doubt this dope has a part in this ridiculous relationship. Its time to grow up and find a single man........good luck
2007-01-21 02:46:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a really bad situation and I can't tell you something cos I'm just 18 years old! however, my parents split, when I was younger (about 3 years old), and my dad when to live with another woman! i obviously hated her, but now they are together and I'm extremely happy!...look for another man, not married!
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