folks, i've picked the wrong man twice in a row. i said no to marraige and got dumped. now alone with no family i sit. this time i will try a online dating service. i need tips on how you passed the time until the next love arrived in your life. you know what i have to do today? just this. it's sad but true. i'm bathing in pity today.
2007-01-21 02:04:31 · 10 answers · asked by skylinerose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey,I was just reading up stuff off the net to pass time,but I could'nt help to make a response to your question,sometimes life just drop you to the crappiest bottom of it doesnt it!!?? I've recently just moved on from the frist guy I ever turely loved,he dumped me right about 3.5 months ago. I really lost myself at that time,I realized how much I actually changed myself into just for loving this person.I cried everyday,and the silly me thought sleeping with him after the break up would pull him back to me again.
Some times the most horrilbe things happens to us when we dont expect it at all,after the break up,I was desperately looking for ways to get over him,I partied hard,made out with whomever,shopped like crazy and did a whole lot of other things to rebound.but after all I was still sad,I still couldnt control the tears rushing out of me after the end of the day.
So I told myself one last time,I gotta make a move,not to do any more things because I got dumped,but to do everything in my life because I care about MYSELF. I sat myself down,really dealt with my issues,faced the fact that i was hurt,i was in pain,and figured out what i've gained from all this,and what i've lost that how I could regain those feelings,thoughts and hopes.
it isnt easy!really! but sometimes there really isnt any fast track to it i guess,you just gotta wait till the day ends,and wait till the week ends,then the month,time passing by and one day you wake up realize your world has changed and your ready to move on with life.
I often remember what someone said to me,"you only lost a person who doesnt love you anymore,and he lost the very person who loves him so much." remember,you didnt lose much,may be its time you should re-value(is that even a word?lol)yourself for what you really worth for!!the ones who get dumped are usually the ones who'll do better in their next relationships!!because we all learn so much!
at this time take care of yourself,you can only recieve your next love when you are ready for it,if you're bathing in pity any longer,you'd never be ready!also,take a good time enjoy some time by your own,you would find out more about yourself and want you really want and turely can give to another.
love takes lotsa energy,now is the prefect time for you to regain that power!
I wish you all well,keep walking,the road is still long way to go.
2007-01-21 02:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by Yeshe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Rose, sorry to hear about your situation. BUT, I CAN HELP. Sure, eveyone has to grieve a while over a lost love, and it's not a good idea to cut short that period. I think the body has to rejuvenate itself somehow.
1. Groom immaculately
2. Dress nicely
3. Study or work harder than ever
4. Spend an hour a day in the library
5. Spend an hour a day at the gym
6. Honor your parents
7. Get involved in a worthy function
8. Volunteer a few hours a week for a worthy cause
9. Help someone every day
10.Go to Church
11.Take group dance lessons
Good Luck
2007-01-21 02:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor little lady, I feel for you just reading,
I know what I say will not sound right to you with what you are going through now but I will say it anyway.
At times like these it feels like the knot in your stomach will never go away and that your heart feels like it is hollow, though they will both heal in time it is hard to look ahead while you are still looking back on the love you have lost and this constant looking back makes it harder to see opportunities in front of you.
I have ben the lover and the fool in my time, I have made mistakes too big to want to remember and have also been dumped in some horrible ways, but I always managed to move on after a while, self pity is easily gained but hard to shake off and the only way that I could do it was to change it to thoughts of anger towards the person who had left me or been left behind. This may sound cruel but it is my heart and I have to look after it the best way I can, anyone else has the same right to feel the same way towards me and I would not blame them for one second.
If you need tips on how to pass the time until Romeo once again callls at your bedroom window, I can only offer sad advice I am afraid, for me I used to become a hermit for a while just going to work and back, drinking ny myself and listening to sad ballads to avoid letting others see the way I felt.
Believe it or not though this actually helped to strengthen my heart and soul cause after the second time I knew I could do it again and so got over things and started to move again quicker.
I don't know if this has helped you at all but I felt compelled to say something of my advice even if it would just help to take your mind off things for a minute.
I hope you can smile again real soon cause I'm sure it is a beautiful smile so try not to waste it dwelling on things that have been, get out there amongst it and battle on with the game of life.
All the best and take care :)
2007-01-21 02:23:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a rough break up a couple months ago and here are a few things that I've learned: Lonliness is not a lack of campanionship, but a lack of connectedness. What/ who are you connected to? I learned that I was lonely because I was not very good company. I got more involved in my church, drumming, writing... Also, I gave into my smoking demon and tysrated back up. I also stopped working out for a while. I admire my ex for doing the opposite. He picked himself up, worked out more, met some good friends, and worked through his heartache. You'll be okay. Take it one day at a time. :)
2007-01-21 02:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr.Right will come along I'm sorry that you got dumped twice , and the self pity thing i totally under stand but just wait , try not to think of it to much i know easier said than done but don't worry
2007-01-21 02:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your in the same boat as I am! I got off the pity pot though, and eventhough I don't have anyone I find things to do for me. If you get real bored, email me and I will tell you my dating horror stories LOL@! That will make you feel better.....
2007-01-21 02:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by fman440 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only reason you recognize them is by using the fact it grow to be created by way of yet another human. i don't have God and yet I nevertheless stay by way of those words, I kill maximum folk with kindness,, I smile at my enemies and walk faraway from beside the point themes. with or devoid of god there might nevertheless be good human beings doing good issues and undesirable human beings doing undesirable issues and that i've got met people who believed in God and that they have got been extra evil then i might desire to ever understand...all of it stems all the way down to you. in case you prefer to be that way then you definately will, its will skill.
2016-10-07 12:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what i do all the time. and work. ever since i broke up with my ex, i have no friends or anything. but it will happen when it does, whenever that is.
2007-01-21 02:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the selfpitying part. It will lead you nowhere.Get up and enjoy life.Life is too short for brooding.
2007-01-21 02:10:18 · answer #9 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well maybe they picked the wrong girl, you ever thought about that? it's a two-way street girl
2007-01-21 02:13:08 · answer #10 · answered by Double J - Jonni Jigolo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋