I am 28 (soon to be 29 in a few months). I have three kids and I am divorce for 6 months. I am in love with a man that is 42. He treat me like a queen and I really in joy his company. He gets a long with my family and i get along with his. He is ready to take our realationship to a new level. I want to but I get so many rude comments that I am woindering if it worth it. They say things like " that her sugar daddy" and "she is only after his money" None of those are true but I am tired of the stares and comments. Any thoughts would be appericated!!!
2007-01-21 02:04:08 · 28 answers · asked by mom_nya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow why even worry about what other people are saying. What matters the most are the THREE kids, what they say about your new man. If they like them, they get along great. Your happy, he is happy. Why worry about them saying anything...There usually haters anyways......
2007-01-21 02:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by mixedgurl19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say those things because they do not care about your well-being, and are simply JEALOUS. Honestly. This sounds like it is an ideal relationship for you (and at just the perfect time!) Don't let anyone other than the two of you affect what you've got going together. If the comments bother you, just remember that a romance is made of TWO people only. Anyone else should mind their own business! Trust me, if the tables were turned and the people talking crap were in YOUR shoes, they'd do exactly what you should do.....ignore the comments and follow your heart. Life's too short not to, right? Good luck!
2007-01-21 02:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by kimmunism 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married to aman that is 49 and honestly he looks much older I on the other hand am almost 35 and look a little bit younger,I have gotten the comments and the stares as well,but honestly I wouldnt trade it for the world because now i have all of those things people dream about,security,compassion,and love,that is the most important thing how you are being treated not what other people think and further more I tell mine that he is my sugar daddy,we think it is funny! one pitfall is sex it does get less than with someone younger,but if you care about someone than you can work thru things like that.
2007-01-21 02:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never control what other people think or say, so I wouldn't bother getting into arguments with those who have such kind, thougtful comments. It appears that they can't accept the fact that your relationship with him might be HIS ideal as well -- a ready made family of four. I know plenty of divorced dads who (unlike the stereotype) are not only willing to have a family but ready to accept not just the mother but her kids, if they'll accept him as well.
Where is it that you experience these comments? Some people 'give' themselves permission to act this way because of the environment you are entering. If they want to stare, LET them. If they want to comment, give them enough rope to hang themselves. Ultimately, whatever bitterness or envy on their part will manifest itself in front of your man -- and if he is a good man, he'll simply say that he loves you and nothing else (including what they say) matters.
2007-01-21 02:13:58 · answer #4 · answered by CarinaPapa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are allowing narrow minded and small minded people to dictate your happiness. Please understand that their input is worth less than nothing. If he makes you feel like a queen, that should be the source of your joy. No one can please everyone, so stop trying. I've been married to a 20 years my senior wife, we parted, but not because of age differences. Don't let other people take away your happiness, focus on your loved one instead.
2007-01-21 02:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by amysatinpants 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, then you should go for it. People will always be rude towards many kinds of couples: old-young, black-white, and same sex. Those seem the favorites for people to pick on. Also your age isn't THAT far apart, if you are both mature adults then there isn't a big difference. Hope that helped.
2007-01-21 02:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by cleo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i was in love with this guy who was 11 yrs older than me and you know what we used to get the same sort of thing, "is that your dad" or something else that was dumb and you know what happened i ignored all those idiots and guess what we're married now. Who cares what other people say they're not in the relationship with you they are just jealous that you have something they don't.
Good Luck!!!
2007-01-21 02:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why let what others think, dictate how you lead your life? If you know your intentions are good, you really like this guy, he's good with your kids, and you feel he really likes you, then NOBODY else's opinion should matter.
Live your life for you, not for anyone else...that's the only way you can truly be happy.
Good luck!
2007-01-21 02:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what other people think 29 and 43 is not that big of a gap. If you are happy and he is happy. Then go for it, everyone else can just kiss your a**
2007-01-21 02:07:58 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly H 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to join the tide and say you have to do what is right for you. No matter who you see, somebody will have a comment... who cares? Ignore it and think about your own feelings. He sounds like a gem. You say you love him. Go for it. :)
2007-01-21 02:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by Debbie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋