I vowed to always be a virgin but now I'm thinking of starting a family when I get older.I don't know if I'm trying to kid myself or if I really want one.But I can't brake my promise to myself. Do you think I'm going crazy?What should I do?
2007-01-21 01:47:19 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think that your crazy at all, wanting to have a family is a natural thing. I do like the fact that you said " " I'm thinking of starting a family when I get older " make sure that your set in a good career, so when you do have a child your not worrying about not being able to support your little bundle of joy.
It's hard to deny your motherly instincts which might be the reason why your feeling this way. If your friends have kids and you see how it is having a baby and holding the little one, that could very well trigger that off in your mind. Do it when your ready, & good luck.
Diablõ @};-
2007-01-21 01:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by Diablõ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not crazy, do not make any decisions without serious thought......talk to someone such as a nun that can relate to what you plan for yourself, they might be able to offer some insight on this. If you do end up changing your mind and deciding that you want to have a family then this is not breaking a promise to yourself, this is doing what you are meant to do. many times we grow up with a set idea of what we think our path is suppose to be, but then something causes it to change and we find out that we are right where we are suppose to be. good luck with your decision and don't be too hard on yourself.
2007-01-21 09:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by irish eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you vow to yourself to be a virgin until you find someone you love and then get married, you can have a family afterwards, that way you satisfy both of your desires. I dont think your crazy, i think that you place a lot of importance on the things you want for yourself and have more respect for your body then most females out their, congratulations!
2007-01-21 09:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by SN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmmmmm I was a virgin once a long time ago then got married found out she was crazy now I'm a 40 year old virgin again... sex less in Philly . Marriage is overrated Jesus wasn't married by any judge or priest ..
2007-01-21 09:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by Mudd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a virgin is a personal choice as you know. So having children and getting married to raise a family is a choice. So make a choice and stick with it. You can't undo the choice of being a virgin so make sure that is what you want. Although..............why would you want to be one except for religious reasons???
2007-01-21 09:51:17 · answer #5 · answered by spinster wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it is in our "Nature"(Gene's) to want to "Carry-On" our Species! All Animals and Life itself want to continue, by "bearing-offspring!"
You are still young, and "raising a family" is "a difficult job" even with all of its "rewards!"
When the time comes, and you decide to "raise a family," you will either have to do 1 of 2 things, to have your family! The 1st is; Loose your Virginity, and "Conceive" so you have "A Natural Birth!" 2nd is; Adopt!
Adoption is a long process, but it does have its rewards, if you are excepted!
"Natural-Birth" is also very "rewarding" for both Men and Women, that is supposed to "Bond" us together so we can "Raise" our "Offspring"(Children) to be better than we are, and to "Carry-On" after we are Gone, so they can "Raise" their family to do the same thing- "Carry-On!"
YOU ARE NOT CRAZY for having thoughts about Life, and Family!
In time, with a little more age under your belt, these decisions will be a little easier for you to understand and also "Choose" how you want to spend your Life, and if you can "Raise" a Family(Children), and "The Method" you choose to do it by; "Natural-Birth or Adoption."
Be Patient! You have plenty of time, and the rest of your Life, to choose, how and what kind of Family you will have and raise!
Good Luck!!!
2007-01-21 10:07:30 · answer #6 · answered by 1moe4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean you have vowed to be a virgin.Do you want to be a nun?If you want to have children I sugget that you first fall in love get married and then think about having children.How old are you?
2007-01-21 09:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Honey,
Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is Mystery. Today is a gift that's why we call it PRESENT.
Promising and keeping promises is something. Getting older and seeing things through another window is another. Your promise to yourself was totally based on the views you had at the time. So why not having another promise based on the PRESENT viewpoints?
As for marriage, i tell u to go for that if your answer to my following questions is all YES:
- ready to share your heart?
- ready to get nothing in return?
- ready to sacrifce?
- ready ro get nothing in return?
- ready to search for a 70% man? (there is no 100%)
- ready to change yourself to 30%?
- ready to give orgasm to another?
- ready to long for one single orgasm in a month?
- ready to be a part of one whole?
- ready to endure the other void part?
Wish u luck!
R.A.F
2007-01-21 10:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by midnightman3333 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you ? if you are still a teenager, don't worry about it now..stick to you rules and wait till you grow up more. If you older, well you might want to take a good look at yourself and evaluate what you really want in life.. Good luck to you.
2007-01-21 09:52:29 · answer #9 · answered by lynda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you promise yourself something like that?(not being rude, just a serious ?) is it your religious beliefs?...hmm well i think you should wait until you find the right person and then if you feel the time is right, start a family! why live alone?...its all in personal favor. =)
2007-01-21 09:50:51 · answer #10 · answered by Ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋