You go to a nice establishment for dinner, and everyone inside is dressed nice (the sign on the building reads "proper attire please") the people inside are pleasant and enjoying a very nice meal, then in comes a person with a backwards ballcap on, bluejeans hanging off his @ss ( he must share them with his fat brother I guess), behaving like a jerk-off? I have seen this. The sign on the building is not a suggestion - it is a kick in the crotch to the family who opened the establishment for someone to disrespect policy like this.
2007-01-21 01:44:59 · 26 answers · asked by paisan_7 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
His choice of clothing is not the issue. His disrespecting the policy is. He was asked to leave, I know the people who worked HARD to make this establishment. I will bet they would have seated the young guy if he did not make a big scene. (I did not realize it is "racist" to observe and respect policies by the way)
2007-01-21 03:51:38 · update #1
that angers me when I'm eating at a McDonald's... much less a nice establishment.
to the woman below me who called the questioner a racist: you are the one who sounds like a racist. there was never once the implication of color... you're the one who assumes it's about a minority or person of color. that is the perfect definition of "prejudice." pre-judging
2007-01-21 01:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by The Indigo Cobra 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I will go for the middle of the road. I dont dress upscale, because I dont want TO BE upsacle. However, if an establishment posts a rule saying that a certain attire is expected, than such are the rules. Yet, I cant expect everyone to have the same idea of what modesty is. I don't dress with my pants hanging down, but I certainly dont like ties and button-up shirts, either. However, thats probably why I feel dining out is at Cici's Pizza instead of some upscale restraunt in the middle of yuppie suburbia.
2007-01-21 10:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by josh_rittinger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be a good idea if the sign specified what kind of attire and that would most likely mean formal ware only. Then some people don't know what that means. But in that case, I reckon I would ignore the persons hoping they didn't make a scene. The establishment most likely only posts "proper attire please" as some guys prefer to wear slacks and sport jackets without ties and women with business suits, slacks, or dresses. Fortunately most people follow the proper attire rules. And if I owned a restaurant as such, no prejudice imposed, I would want patrons to observe my wishes because it is nice to dine in those establishments on occasion.
2007-01-21 10:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by mc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sure that angers me. However, I share my anger with the staff. Someone needs to step and ask the person to leave or not enter in the first place. I have been to places in the past where people have been turned aware due to lack of 'proper attire'. Even at Churchill Downs in Louisville, KY there is a dress code to enter certain areas of the race track (collared shirts, no shorts, no hats, etc.). There is a nightspot in downtown Louisville that comprises several bars/restaurants that has the same type of dress code.
The key is in the enforcement of the policy. There are idiots everywhere who will be ignorant of the rules---and they will continue to be until they are called out. Your frustration should lie with the staff who should never have let this person enter in the first place!
2007-01-21 09:55:46 · answer #4 · answered by Thoroughbred 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My old boss is that guy. He used to go out to nice restaurants dressed in a filthy sweatshirt, completely ripped jeans that exposed tons of leg hair and sneakers with flapping soles. He rarely bathed so his skin was filthy as well. He always said things like 'f**k them, it's a free country' and 'I'm paying them so I can wear whatever I want'. He was never asked to leave but that may have been because he was usually with a larger party of people, all who were dressed appropriately. He and his girlfriend would always fight about it and he would tell her that she was 'shallow and a phony' for dressing up for a meal.
I think it's completely rude. Most restaurants that encourage proper attire are usually a bit more on the expensive side. I don't want to have to look at a guy dressed like he just crawled out of a dumpster when I'm paying good money for a particular dining environment. It's completely rude.
2007-01-21 09:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by Pico 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the customer is dressed improperly, it is up to the management to explain the policy and ask the offender to leave.
However, people's idea of proper attire differs.
2007-01-21 12:43:12 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy Lou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that certain rules should be adhered to as long as they are fair and reasonable. Yes, sometimes I do get a little upset with the attitudes and some of the dress styles of today. But in order to live in this world you have to just ignore certain things. This is especially true when the situation doesn't belong to you and nobody is being harmed in anyway.
2007-01-21 10:20:04 · answer #7 · answered by smackyoudown2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it does. I really don't understand why people feel the need to be so rude and disrespectful these days. It's hard to go out and have a nice quiet evening anymore, almost impossible.
2007-01-21 09:50:15 · answer #8 · answered by Texas Pineknot 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most really nice places will not let someone in that isn't dressed properly. Some fine restaurants even provide sports jackets for someone who comes in with a group and isn't dressed formal enough.
Lots of slobs these days though, and sloppy, baggy, old and dirty looking have become fashionable to some people.
Look at the jeans they sell now. who would pay for jeans that look dirty and worn out? Only an idiot!! The weathered look is one thing, but worn out, ripped and dirty looking??? Come on!
2007-01-21 09:51:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
well the clothing,no it doesn't really anger me.we shouldn't judge someone from his clothes.i mean clothes don't make a man/woman(person).the person chooses the way he dresses.i mean,if you do have the money to eat at such a dinner,then you must have money to buy clothes.i mean think about it.
but ''behaving like a jerk-off'',well that's quite annoying,i have to agree.not only that,i hate it when they are showing of too.
2007-01-21 10:10:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋