Okay, well now. My girlfriend-who I love very much-got kind of mad at me. It's because of a few things, we were going to go to a school dance, and for some reason the school won't let her come just because she goes to a different school. So there was some bad news to give her. And the next day my mom and dad would not let me go with her and her friends to the mall and movies...so there was some more bad news. And this was like the 3rd time that our plans have been ruined because of my mom and dad randomly telling me I couldn't do anything.
So now...she says that she doesn't get excited or happy whenever I am around cause she thinks I'll have more bad news. And my mom was pretty rude to her and it lead to her talking to her friends about breaking up with me...which I don't want to happen! But she decided against it...which i am glad. This has just been a bad week. But she feels it might get worse..
I dont know what I'd ever do without her...so please...help me with a little advice?
2007-01-21 01:34:29 · 12 answers · asked by destroyerofchaos 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, thanks everyone. And um, about that person thinkign I am in middle school. um, I'm 17. A junior in Highschool...yeah.lol
2007-01-21 01:50:38 · update #1
Okay...I'll try some of this. I already sent her an email explaining exactly how I feel about all of this...So yeah...I hope this all gets worked out...she means the world to me. Thank you everyone.
2007-01-21 03:31:20 · update #2
I think you should tell her all this and also try to explain that how much she means to you, tell her we can not be together all the times it happens sometime like that.
and as for your mom you need to talk to her maybe its hard for her to let you go just explain how much she means to you and if she really loves you she should love her to because that makes you happy.
and as for the plans its so simple eother your your parents exclude you from their plans or she should be with you next time.
2007-01-21 01:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by yossarian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There seem to be forces beyond your control that are shunning her. The school is wrong to shun her from the dance and I'd take her anyway. What can they do? Refuse to let her in? I doubt that will happened but if it does call the police...otherwise refuse to go under those circumstances and tell them.
It would seem your mother does not like this gal. Sounds like you and mom need to have a talk. I can understand your g/f feelings like she is being treated like a second class citizen and by the adult world of all people! Not your fault and not her fault. This is just lesson number one in how "Life is not fair." We all learn that sooner or later and it is a pretty bitter pill to swallow but my advice is to ask these people for a good reason as to why they are shunning her. I'm sure 98 percent are biased, prejudediced and just plain wrong. Be polite, sincere and firm in your questions. At least your g/f will know you stood up for her rights. Good luck.
2007-01-21 09:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let her know exactly how you feel. Sounds like you had no control over the dance or the going to the mall and hanging out. Maybe also you could ask your Mother and Father to compromise. What WILL they allow you to do with this girl? She should understand though that it is not your fault. Maybe she can come by your house or oyu could meet at the park for a while. You could also try speaking with your school principal about the dance and see what you might have to do so she can go to your dance unless it is just policy.
Good Luck!
'-)
2007-01-21 09:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe you should explain to her how you feel about her and tell her that you can't really help what your parents are doing.Maybe you should show your parents that they can trust you and they might just start letting you go places wit her,and about the school dance there is not anything you can do because they would not let her come,But you didn't have to go plan something for her to come to your house and spend some time!
2007-01-21 09:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by My boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you are sorry for this hard week, but that you do love her , that you don't know what you would do without her...and that you would try to make the next week a lot better!
Good Luck!
2007-01-21 09:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by Need Help! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk a few things with her. tell your mum that your girl means everything to you. tell your mum also that she should've been an open-minded mum who should really support you. about the school dance, i think that was like, the lamest school of all [sorry]. i went to my bf's school's dance a few times but the students there are soo great. take my advice.
2007-01-21 09:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, truly... tell her all what you've just told us.
And no, do NOT say it face to face...
Cuz instead of listening, without feeling it, she'll start thinking of what happened and what to reply with.
My idea, write her AN EMAIL, tell her what you've just told us, in your simple, honest, way...
Explain what is happening to you, and why you still want to be with her.
Good luck, hope all turns out fine!
2007-01-21 09:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by Serendipity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help to know how old you are.I am assuming that you are in middle school and if that is the case you are too young to have a girlfriend.
2007-01-21 09:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell her how much you care for her and tell her that this is just a bad week and to bear with you or let her read this that you wrote and she will see how much you care
2007-01-21 09:43:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your parents: there's probably a reason for not letting you go...
maybe they have something against your girlfriend- OR maybe you haven't cleaned you room for awhile and their not letting you do anything until you do!
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:-O
2007-01-21 09:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by Hαír Pεace Šmûrƒ Pεαce 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋