should I lose my virginity before marriage, at age of 30?

Question

I am 30 yr old. pretty, sweet, and professional.
I met this guy one week ago, the same age as me, several months older, he seems very nice, we had lots of fun together.
That night we went his home and were on his bed, cuddled a lot, french kissed a lot.But I still felt that I was not ready for sex yet.
He was also being very patient and nice, saying that we will only do that when I am ready.
But I am confused, shall I have sex with him? or since I waited so long, maybe I should wait a bit longer, and just make love after marriage?
Thanks for answering.

Answer 1

It really depends on how you feel. Don't feel pressured to lose it, you'll still be desirable, especially if you have those qualities you have named. And it is true, that guys respect a virgin more I believe, as someone who has the strength of will to hold onto her beliefs.

If you really like this man, and feel comfortable and self assured, then consider it. But if you merely want to get rid of your virginity to be rid of it, then ponder very closely if he is the best one to be with.

Think it over. And if he really likes you, he'll wait until you feel ready, and respect your wishes.

Good luck!

Answer 2

A lot of guys are nice in the beginning, but change with time. If you've only known him for a week, it's too early to start thinking about marriage. As far as sex goes, make sure first that he doesn't have any sexually transmitted diseases. That can be taken care of in any city clinic at no charge to him. After that is done and provided that he is clean, I see no reason to wait until marriage to enjoy sex with someone. As for marriage, you should take the long route and get to know him first. That process should start with seeing each other for at least 4 months, before you move in together and see how you mesh together in a day to day life. Only after at least a year of that, should you start thinking about marriage.

Answer 3

Besides the fact that it'd be great if you'd wait until after marriage, since you've already waited this long ... you've only known the guy for a week. Even if you do decide to have sex with him, don't you think you should know him enough to be intimate first? You don't even know this man yet. Give it a few months, unless you're just thinking about having sex as opposed to sex within a committed and intimate relationship.

Answer 4

The choice is up to you. Virgins until marriage are hard to find these days. Plus, after only one week into a relationship is not a good go ahead signal for having sex.

If you are not ready to have sex, then DON'T. Be sure the relationship is secure before agreeing to do anything.

Answer 5

do you really wanna marry a guy and later find out he's had 10 partners and sucks in bed or would you at least wanna test the waters to see what you prefer. A lot of girls say they are gonna wait until they are married i did and thank god i didn't i have the best husband in the world who is great in bed but a few of my other partners sucked. I would only do it if your comfortable oh and remember you only live once so make the most of it, i would have sex with him, if after 30yrs you're not ready when will you be?

Answer 6

go for it girl. lifes to short not to expierence everything. waiting for marriage is cool when your a teenager or early 20s. cause u can find someone doin the same thing you are. however at your age the men will be expierenced. the idea of a virgin might not be as appealing as it is when your 21. casue at that point we want someone who can blow are minds on what she can do. so find a guy friend even this guy. and learn. trust me when u do finally get married sex is an important thing in it. and u want to be able to make ur man happy. practice makes perfact when it comes to sex. good luck

Answer 7

Hey Carrie dont listen to the people who tell you to loose it. You waited so long that tells me that you are a person who respect yourself. So dont loose it. guys just want to try different girls and this guy might be the same way. If he truly loves you then he will wait after the marriage
Keep that special thing for someone special who will be with you for rest of your life. good luck

Answer 8

I think you should do what ever you are comfortable doing...
If you want to still wait for marriage then wait! and kudos for you for waiting this long! and it seems like you have a guy who doesn't mind waiting for you, if you decide to lose it when you're ready. but don't just do it, to do it or because he wants to, you need to do what you want. hope that helped alittle :)

ps. really you should give yourself at pat on the back for being a virgin that long! it's really hard now days to do that :P

Answer 9

This is really confusing.

Meet guy a week ago and almost ready to hit the sheets
But still feel not ready
Confused, do it now or make love after marriage

My question is this: WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOUR ORIGINAL PLAN?

Answer 10

Don't be "PUSHED"(Forced) to do anything that you are uncomfortable with, PERIOD!!!
For 30Yrs. now, you have kept your most "Treasured- Possession"(Your Virginity)!
Why give it to some "Boob" who is only a few months older than you? In return, what is this "Twit"(guy) going to "Share" with you?
NOTHING!! Except for the "bragging-rights" that he got you FIRST, to everyone that he knows, or talks with, so these other "Idiots" can try to get into your panties, as well!
You have "Saved-It" all of your Life, for your future Husband!
Save-It Still, so you can "Share ALL of YOURSELF" with your Husband! You will realize that doing this will be yours and His "Greatest-Gift of All!"
Your First should be the best Memory of "Sex" that you have, and with some one that you TRUELY LOVE, like your Husband!
Think with your Brain; Not your other "Parts!"
You will be Happier, in the long-run!
Good Luck!!!