This was caused by a nasty divorce.Her mother ran off and got married like 3 more times,leaving my daughter in custody of her grandparents.I tried for custody twice,bankrupting myself in the process.I finally gave up and left her alone,as she was brainwashed into believing all these bad things about me.I miss her terrible.I have seen her picture on the internet,as she is now president of the young republicans club.I have read articles she has written online,and she is scary smart.Like Ann Coulter.This makes me even more scared to contact her.Helpppppp
2007-01-21 01:31:41 · 16 answers · asked by packerman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't wait another moment!! Contact her now. You may never have tomorrow.
2007-01-21 01:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give life a chance. Hey, you are her dad and you have done everything within your power and means and were rejected by her mother and that family. Write or call and I am sure she will meet with you (her schedule) for lunch and a nice chat and you can tell her what you told us. It will be a great day for both of you. If she is educated she will understand. You must be proud of her... Try not to bash her mother in the process...that wouldn't be cool but get your point across how much you both lost in the divorce process. Don't fear taking some blame for the results either...she'll appreciate your honesty. It takes two and she's a smart gal and that is all in the past. You are looking for a new beginning. Good luck to both of you.
2007-01-21 02:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be best for you to send her a letter. This way, #1 you know she got it; and #2, you can tell her eeything you need to tell her without getting interrupted or leaving something out. She probably has a lot of resentment towards you because she probably has no idea how hard you fought for her in the beginning.
If you get it all down on paper, at least she will be able to read that. After that, it is up to her. Ask her to write back or call. She's old enough to think rationally and make that decision.
Good luck.
2007-01-21 02:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by Jax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are her father. At the very least, you have to sit down with her and explain what happened in the past. I am sure that if you are gentle and patient in your approach that the past can be forgiven and forgotten. Don't let the last 22 years deprive you of all the joy of being her dad and her kids' grandfather for the rest of your life. Besides, fortune favors the bold. In other words, if you never try to get in touch with her, you will never know what could have happened.
2007-01-21 01:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by Nightmare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. Been in this same situation with my daughter who is now 17. I would try to establish some form of contact, perhaps a certified letter or 2 addressed to her only, tell her how you feel and just be open and honest about everything.
Praise her on her accomplishments, tell her how impressed you are, and you might even mention how nervous you are bout contacting her. She may take quite awhile to respond, but eventually she may write you back or even want to meet you.
2007-01-21 01:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Send her a letter, put in it a request to get to know her more. Tell her all the times and all the money you have expended trying to get to see her. Tell her if she believes the lies told about you, that you will not bother her any more but be proud of her accomplishments from a distance like you have been in the past. Send a GOOD photo of yourself and your house and family. Let her know you are happy! Don't clobber her with regrets! No whining!
2007-01-21 01:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by delux_version 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your time has come, be patient, do like the others said, pray first and ask the Lord to guide you as you write your letter. Maybe even send a beautiful card just to break the ice. It's all going to work out, just pray and God Bless You!
2007-01-21 01:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by Emerald Jones 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all you need to examine the reasons of why you were not given custody... you need to have some one in your family or a friend that you trust, to contact you daughter to see if she wants to see you ... then take it fron there..
it sounds like that you know where she is,,, if so sit down write her a letter from the heart. once you can make contact with her , things will happen for the good,,, once this is done,,, you make sure that she knows that you fought to get her...
the question i have is you never mebtion about paying child support.. and vistation rights... why/
2007-01-21 01:41:59 · answer #8 · answered by RED WHITE AND BLUE 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
drop her a letter. saying hello and you never stopped loving her, maybe even let her know that you tried fighting for her. You never know she might want to hear your side. You can say that when/if she's ready you'd like to see her face to face but you don't want to push her. You never know she may be as curious about you. Open the door for her....
2007-01-21 01:45:36 · answer #9 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should most definitely pray pray pray bout!! If you feel like you have nothing else to do, then you need to pray. Put the situation in Jesus' hands and let him work it out for you. First and far most, stop worrying about it. Obviously, you can not do anything in your power about it, so let GOD work it out for you!
2007-01-21 01:38:33 · answer #10 · answered by cutelady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to send her a letter.....that would give her a chance to digest what you say without the emotion of seeing you face to face. Be patient and hope she contacts you
2007-01-21 01:35:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋