i have a crush on this guy since june last yr and we've been exchanging a few mails every now and then..it's like an on and off basis cause he's a really busy guy..he's working in the military now and it's been a month since we last exchanged mails..since the day i told him i'll be going to london,he didn't reply my mail since then and i miss him and wanna keep in touch with him so i've decided to send him a mail telling me i wanna keep in contact with him and i'll leave him with my number,asking me to give me a ring or drop me a msg when he's free..do you think i'm doing the right thing or will he think i'm irritating? any better suggestions??
2007-01-21 01:18:37 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not understanding what London has to do with your story. Is he in London?
Regardless my suggestion is Honesty if the best Policy.
Ask him to give you a call or ask for his number and tell him there's something you'd like his advice on. Then let him know how you feel. You will have an answer right then and there as opposed to having to wait and drive yourself nuts trying to figure out what he is thinking. Don't worry about being irritating. you worry about being honest with him and that's the Best you can do. If he finds that to be irritating then you deserve better anyways. Any man or woman that finds another person irritating because they fancy them is not worth the effort. Give him the benefit of the doubt though. He may feel the same way you do.
The only thing you have to fear is fear itself!
Good Luck!
'-)
2007-01-21 01:28:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As he is in the military and may not have access to e-mail or even get snail mail on a regular basis, depending on his stationed and security clearance, you are doing the right thing by just letting him know you want to be in contact with him or drop you a line when you get a chance.
When my brother was in the Army and had a high security clearance due to being a Russian linguist, he was not allowed to use personal e-mail at all and to limit his correspondence and sometimes it took a month or more for him to get a letter that was sent.
2007-01-21 09:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're fine-as a guy, we tend to like clear messages with no subtety or read between the lines stuff-face it, we're not that way inclined (read:we're idiots). If in crisis over it, TELL him, and leave it at that. If he has the same interest and intentions that you do, he will respond in kind, and if not, he may wish to go solo for a bit or a time longer-at least you'll know and and won't be as you say pestering him! one clear email inviting a continuing friendship is not at all irritating, it is a real compliment when you think about it!
Hope this helped!
Shane
2007-01-21 09:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by frosty_taz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... if you wanna make sure that you dont sound irritating, you can just mail him and say.. that you are leaving for London. And that to keep in touch he can call you on the no.. and ofcourse msg you too.
Just make it sound, really casual rather than desperate.
2007-01-21 09:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by Sakshi C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are. And you said it was on and off. It's just off for a little bit, probably. And if you guys are a mostly online thing anyway, it could be London, England, or London, Kentucky, and it would be the same, especially if he gets deployed (you didn't say where he was). Be patient.
2007-01-21 09:30:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just send him an e-mail letting him know you want to keep in touch and leave your information and then it is up to him. Good luck!
2007-01-21 09:22:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you were.. You need to know where your friendship stands. It might be he is super busy, or he might be hiding something, you are not going to know till you ask and get some answers even if it's not what you want to hear, atleast you will have closure. good luck.
2007-01-21 09:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by lynda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are on the right track. He is probably going to be incredibly busy and unreachable at times, but I am sure he would really appreciate and enjoy hearing from you.
2007-01-21 09:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how big a crush? like a slight infatuation you think he's a nice guy, or you'd like to jump his bones and find yourself saying your first name followed by his last name?
there comes a point where you have to either shitt or get off the pot.
2007-01-21 09:21:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. Time to find out how far it can go. You will regret it if you don;t at least try. But also don't lock yourself up with him till you know there is something there..
2007-01-21 09:22:06 · answer #10 · answered by cyborg_2099 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋