2007-01-21 01:12:39 · 19 answers · asked by Rebel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My sons father passed away 4 years ago today also. You don't say anything, just let him talk. Be there for him. And when it's time, lighten the mood. Go somewhere with him. Just be his friend. But most importantly, be there in person, not through IM.
2007-01-21 01:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes just listening can be a big help. Everyone is different and you will have to take your clues from the other person. If they want to talk about it, let them know you are there for them.
It's been many years since my father passed, I still feel bad on the anniversary of his death. Sometimes it helps if I go out and do something to take my mind off it. Other times I feel better talking about him.
Knowing that I have family and friends who genuinely love and care for me helps the most. Just knowing that they are there for me is all I need.
Nothing will take away the memory or the sadness, but being there for them when they need you is the best anyone can ask for. Good luck and God bless you for your concern.
2007-01-21 01:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad died a year ago, and it really sucks. There isn't really one thing that you can do or say, just be there for them and if they want to talk about their dad, listen. I go to my dads grave every Sunday, some times a friend will go with me it helps to have a person there with me that will put an arm around my shoulder and give me a little hug. We( me and dad) were very close, and there is not a day that goes by that I don't think of him, no matter how old you are it hurts to lose one of your parents.
2007-01-21 03:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get him to think about some of the lighter moments that he remembers with his dad. My dad died 20 years ago and it seems like yesterday. I miss him so much, but I always enjoy thinking about good times and his wonderful manner. If your friend can, have him tell you about some funny thing that happened with his dad, or about how kind his dad was. He'll realize that these moments are what keeps his dad alive in his memory and although some of these stories may make him cry, it will make his dad seem closer to him.
You're a good friend.
2007-01-21 01:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by Liza 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well having been (and sometimes still) being the person remembering Dad...My friends were just there and let me cry or talk about him. One friend said to me, "I wish I had met your Dad. He sounds like a special guy." There's no one right thing to do or say, just be there for him. Go with your heart.
2007-01-21 01:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by Pandora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you know the dad well enough to tell funny stories about him? I mean, maybe some funny things he did or said? Or how about some really nice things the dad might have done? It's hard to know what to say. Maybe just listen and be there for that someone.
2007-01-21 01:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by TexasRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't say much, let him do the talking and let him be the guild. you can ask him if there is anything you can do to help, does he want to go somewhere do something? play it by ear, but let him decide what he needs or wants..........sometimes all people need is for someone to listen without saying they know how they feel or telling them to cheer up, part of the process is being able to feel bad and talk through their feelings, other times they don't want to talk at all. just be there for what he needs and wants.
2007-01-21 01:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by irish eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing you can really say except that you are sorry for the loss and just let them know that you are a true friend and are there for them listen to them when they want to talk do not interrupt just be there that's what really matters that someone is there who will listen. reminisce about the good times with the father if you knew him. just be there that's what he really needs.
2007-01-21 01:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to him or her that they should rememder all the good times they had with thier father and forget all of the bad times. I would also say to him or her that they should stop thinking of that death of thier father.
Im sorry if my answer did not help but hope you feel better.
2007-01-21 01:30:22 · answer #9 · answered by GUrlie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say nothing unless he starts a conversation with me. At times like this, our presence, not what we say, is more important. If he knew that you're there, always there, his sadness would lessen and he'd be able to share some of his pain with you.
2007-01-21 01:21:23 · answer #10 · answered by Samarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋