I'm a muslim guy, age 23, not a realigious person but believe in god... i've been seing this scottish christian girl who goes to the same university as i do.....for almost a year.....we just broke up n now she is a totally different person....she speaks to me as if she has no respect for me.....she always wanned to be friends if we ever broke up but i said no, then again when i thought hard about it, i said yes to her....but she's just too cold n shallow....i mean no matter how nice i try to be with her she treats me even worse....what is the best thing for me to do at this point of time? i'm crushed....she's got no sympathy for me n treats me really bad....what am i supposed to do....i love her too much.
2007-01-21 01:00:27 · 10 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she is hurt and now your ex
2007-01-21 01:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by sml 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aha, the last sentence in your Q says it all, "...I love her too much........"
But you have self respect. When you are not wanted then it is a one sided love. In life, my friend, be prepared for disappointments. Chalk this one up for experience. There is nothing you can do. If you are spurned in love, just lump it.
Time is the best healer of all.
You do not even need to take parting shot by telling her what you think or telling her that her behaviour is unacceptable. It will get you no where.
Look, this world is big. Give yourself time. There is someone one else that you will do with all over again. Just retract your claws and move on.
2007-01-21 01:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey-I'm just 27 and been there in exactly same as you just over the past year-it's scary really how similar, but my experience has been to simply let her go-tough as that is. You want to be the nice guy, and that is good-it speaks volumes for your character, but if you recognise as I did the selfishness in her, and if you were even remotely aware of her shallowness DURING your relationship, then she is not the person you want to be around, that makes you feel less than you are. It's tough when you want something to be perfect, but i do believe that love blinds us to certain "aspects" of our partners, and in this case, you built up one such immunity to this quality of hers. Take a step back and reassess what you want from this relationship as it is now, and if you are ever going to get it-you'll know what to do,
Hope this helps!
Shane
2007-01-21 01:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by frosty_taz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like shes pretty hurt, if she didn't care she would just act like you didn't exist.Honestly I would just stay out of her way for a few months.Let her have time to her self to mourn your guys relationship.Then after that if you want to be friends you can try.Becareful though exes don't make very good long term friends.It can be a very messed up friendship
2007-01-21 01:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by brat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you love someone who disrespects you so much?
If it were me, I would tell her that I thought about it and decided that I cannot be friends with her and will not be talking to her anymore. Then I would cut off all contact with her, get to work on improving myself, and let myself heal from the relationship.
Then I would find the cutest, sweetest, hottest girl to go out with and be grateful that it didn't work out with the other girl.
2007-01-21 01:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by beach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be your self. look at it this way. You found out that this wasn't the lady for you early interior the recreation. it relatively is marvelous. understand what you choose for in a courting and stick with your concepts. in the previous you additionally can attempt any courting, you could understand your self o.k.. of direction, your faith will remember, it relatively is area of who you're. in case you recognize what and who you're, the rest is elementary. you could no longer look for sympathy, you're no longer a sufferer, you're a astounding guy. go searching once you choose for what you're and what you're searching for for.
2016-10-31 21:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to learn is how to let go. Get some counseling, that's what I had to do. I met with my pastor, and that helped me more than words can say. You are unique, and have yourself to take care of. She sounds selfish and very shallow, just as you described. Please take my advise and talk to someone in your faith you can trust. It will help you heal. And...what I always say, and is very true: "Time takes care of EVERYTHING"
2007-01-21 01:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is hurting to! She loves you but maybe she is acticting this way over sadness.
2007-01-21 01:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by hypergal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i no this will be hard to do but keep being kind to her, show her that you are still the better person, if she still persist jus keep your distance, or jus avoid all together.
2007-01-21 01:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by Carolyn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not give her the time of day she does not respect you move on and let her torture someone else
2007-01-21 01:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋