how do i convince the parents to let me get a lip ring?

Question

so, i've wanted a lip ring for a long time.
i am a year younger than the age to get one without consent
(you have to be 16, no?)
i've researched about them, and all that you have to do to keep them clean, what to look for when they're being pierced, etc...
so it's not like i have no idea what i'm talking about

SO HERE'S THE PROBLEM:
my parents are the type of people that want to know what's going on in my life, my likes/dislikes, but when i tell them, they usually judge me...hypocrites.
anyways, i want to tell them i want a lipring, and i'm willing to pay for it.

so, please don't just say "tell them." because that's a cop-out.
hopefully someone has answers!

thanks!

*reply

so i understand where a lot of you are coming from.
thanks for the answers, but i have to say one thing.
i'm not a punk rebel. i dont want tattoos. i think they're disgusting. or other piercings.
just one.
i like to express myself in different ways tan other people. i'm not following a trend. this is something i've thought long and hard over.
and i don't hate my parents, like some kids want to disregard their parents rules and do whatever. no. i'm not like that.
so, before you go and make any more comments about how my parents love me, and they want the best, and how can i be so stupid???....just consider what i said.

Answer 1

Here's what you do, Get a fake one. When they see it they will freak out and punish you or whatever. You can then see if they are gonna go crazy and A) take it off and show them it was fake or B) do the time for the crime and then later get a real one. That way you can determine if your punishment is worth the piercing.

Answer 2

Talk to them explain to them why you feel you need or would like a lip ring. If they judge you or say lip rings are gross etc etc. Explain to them how important it is. Know the price and show them to there face that you have the money show them the money and say i will pay for this. And legal age to get a piercing is 18 not 16...sorry to say. I have 3 piercings i had to wait until i was 18 to get them. You could always do what i did and maybe respect there wishes and wait...it's not that bad. And you might not end up liking you're piercing after awhile. The first thing i ever got pierced was my eyebrow and after awhile i got sick of it...hope that helped

Answer 3

Please read the whole thing...... I tell a secret at the end.

I am glad that you have done your homework..... but.... you are very young and there is a reason why there is an age limit. They don't want kids making decitions that will effect them for the rest of there life.
I work at a dentist office.... i have a very lovely girl come in one day with a lip ring.... It had chipped all of her bottom teeth So we fixed it.... The next time she came in she had gone to a concert and the crowd had gotten alittle frisky and her lip ring got ripped out. This resulted in plastic surgury and a scar that she will have for the rest of her life.
A boy that came to the office got one too.... Then he got out of college and it was time to get a "REAL" job he couldn't get one in his field without talking it out. Now he have a nice scar from his too.

Where i live you can't even get a job bagging groceries at the local price chopper with a lip ring.

Look past what you want to do now and look at what you want to do in the future.... I haven't seen a whole lot of lawyer with lip rings..... teacher are not alowed to have them. What do you want to do later on it life....


Your parents are old enough to know that there is a whole lot more to life than the teen years.

IF you are a girl.... get a belly button ring insted. You can hide it when you need to and if it scares its not the first thing people see.

I had one. and I have four tattoos.... all in places I can cover up for my job.
I am not a sell out.... I am employed

Answer 4

my dear, legal age is a state-by-state thing.

Think about having dialogue with your parents. Be prepared to explain exactly why you want to pierce your lip.
I personally would think long and hard about something like this. You may have a hole in your lip for the rest of your life; do you really want that?

Personally if one of my teens (I have three) wanted to pierce their lip it would depend on what else was going on in thier lives. Right now, they have a LOT of stress and I would be inclined to agree; it's a "pick your battles" kind of thing. Personally though the permanant nature of piercings is a bit concerning, a piercing per say is pretty minor. "tell them", my dear, is NOT a cop out. Your attitude toward that suggestion, is a cop out. Communication is always the best option.
Take a deep breath; start by telling them something good about your life; about your hopes and dreams for the future; and ask them about thier life. Then, when everyone is having a love-fest, broach the subject.
best wishes!

Answer 5

I should begin by saying you aren't going to like everything I have to say.

The age requirement depends on where you live. It could be anywhere from 15 to 18, although it's almost always 18 for anything other than ear piercing.

Why are you here? The reasons have to be your own if you want to sell the idea to your parents. When you tell them why you want to do it and you're giving them someone else's reasons, they can probably tell. What you accomplish with that is you'll either push them closer to wearing out or make them angry and firmer in their resistance. Either way you'll not only make them think less of you, you'll have given them the worst reason for it--because they should.

If you want to convince them you have to do it with your own reasoning, which means you need to figure out why you want a lip ring in a way you can communicate that makes sense. Start by learning the definition of hypocrite. Then re-read the part where you called them that. Then learn the definition for 'irony.' This would be called "self-examination" if you'd done it yourself, but it's necessary if you want to convince them, and I've just shown you how to do it. Once you've figured out how to communicate your position, you have to be willing to listen to theirs, because until you are they're right to treat you like a kid. This is NOT preparing for what they're going to say and having a pat answer ready-that's going to get you as far as using someone else's reasons to convinve them. It's listening to them and understanding that they may have a point.

The thing is that you and they both need to realize that you're growing up (if you're smart and lucky it's something you'll never really stop doing), that you have to make choices for yourself, that they won't always be the right ones but you'll learn from your mistakes and they can't protect you from that. (That last part by the way is what they're trying to do when you see them as judgemental.) You have to convince them you understand that, and you can't do it without understanding it.

Cheers and good luck

Answer 6

Being carried away by passing fancies is part of process of growing up. Parents sound hypocrical or snobbish when they give sound advice to the enthusiastic youngsters.

Instead of asking them or TELLING them, just show them a specimen photograph of the kind of ornament you have set your heart on and see their reactions.Fashions turn full circle. When I was a child, My grandfather wanted to gift me a diamond pair of ear rings,cute and very costly. Since the current fashion was to discard all such flashy ornaments, my parents refused to accept the gift. Now the ear rings are back in demand! So. who knows? Your parents may as well surprise you with a permission or even buy and gift it to you. In that case you can save on the cost also!
Otherwise wait till you are legally in the position to decide things for yourself, and utilise your savings to acquire the ornament.

By the way, I recommend that you pay some attention to the ma'm working with a Dentist who has given her comments above.

Answer 7

i know we did some crazy things back in the 70's, but all this body piercing and tattooing has gone a bit too far. that is my opinion. do you ever think 40-50 years down the road? what the heck are you gonna look like with all these holes in your body and all these stupid drawings on your body? I'll tell you, you will look ridiculous. don't do something because someone else is doing it. be an individual. stand out among the crowd, don't blend in.

Answer 8

Your parents sound fine - they are just looking out for your best interests, and they have a pretty good idea of what's good for you and what isn't - even better than you do, sometimes. They have seen more of the world than you have, and understand that simple things can lead to more complex problems. If you haven't figured it out already, I'm a parent, too.

Answer 9

how historic are you? k such a lot individuals are freaked out approximately frame adjustments, firstly piercings and tattoo's are not the one frame adjustments, death your hair, getting a hair reduce, frame constructing, developing or shaving facial hair, and and so on those are all frame adjustments. Its whatever you do/difference approximately your self to make you believe lovely and exhibit who you're! This is a sensitive area chiefly with mom and dad now not information! You have got to inform them how this is not frame mutilation and its a frame amendment! Its now not everlasting and you'll take if out if it does not appear the way in which you concept it might! You have got to sit down down together with your mother inform her the dangers of it and the way that is so principal to you and supply her time to consider, and inform her this can be a amendment that might aid you must individuals who you're and this is not mutilating your self! Good good fortune :) theres whatever to consider approximately, its a playground demonstration, There are the individuals which are born into this global and they're what society is, they're accredited into society with ease they constitute it given that they appear like society, then there is the individuals which are society rejects, they do not are compatible in with society, both they difference there frame by way of plastic surgical procedure, hair dye, and so on to check out and are compatible in with it! Or there are the ones individuals that fully grasp there a society reject and take delivery of it and cross to the "external" and categorical them self's by way of frame adjustments and such and such a lot individuals name them the "freaks" of society, there now not freaks they do not desire to be a person there now not! Hope that kinda helped you give an explanation for it!

Answer 10

i have the same problem, with my parents, but i cant get by them, and unless your parents are the type to let you do alot of what you want, then you have a better chance of then saying yes..

But explain to them how its done, that you will pay for it, and if they ask "well what if you dont like it in a couple of years, what will tou do then" tell them the truth.