well my grilfriend just broke up with me mainly bacause we don't share the same religion, she also wanted our relationship to be "cristian" (that means no sex, right?). Well we talk a lot about this stuff and we agree a LOT, but she said our relation is driving her away from God and she dosen't feel good about it. I've tried to talk to some people about it and I'm still unable to cope with the imense stupility of it all. Yahoo awnsers seems pretty stupid so i figured: "what a hell let me give it a shot". I'm a catholic and i do believe and respect the bible. Still, it seems wrong.
2007-01-21 00:58:46 · 8 answers · asked by Emiliano M. 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Well it's probably best you got out now,nothing like basing your whole life and every action on ancient myths and superstitions. Finding people to love and share our lives with is the most important of all of our decisions in life,and she wants her religion to decide that one for her too. And your better off anyway,anyone who is that devout usually has a horrible sex life anyway,or at least once they have all the children they want. I got lucky and had little religion enter my upbringing,just got to be a human. As to the first part of your question you really wouldn't want to be with someone of a different religion,it would always be an issue such as in the raising of children.Religion is about dominance and control anyway,that's why religious differences in households never seem to get solved,how do you back down when you have the "truth" on your side?
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2007-01-21 01:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might sound crazy but, if you are in a relationship for the long haul, it's never going to work unless faith is the center-piece of the relationship.
Your (ex) girlfriend seems to be aware of this. In spite of the many similarities between Catholicism and non-Catholic Christianity, the sad fact is that there are certain doctrinal hurtles some people simply can't get past; veneration of saints, honor of Mary, some of the Holy Sacraments, to name a few.
It's not that interfaith relationships are always doomed to fail. It's just that they are often more complicated that a relationship between two people of the same denomination - especially when it comes to raising children. Under those circumstances, the obvious uesiton is who's denomination do you raise the children under? AND WHY?
See the can of worms that opens when you really get to thinking about this sort of thing?
I'll tell you, at the time I was dating and getting married, I could have cared less what denomination my girlfriend/finacee/wife was from. It wasn't until afterwards that I began to really care about my Catholic faith. Fortunately, my wife is also Catholic. There could have been HUGE problems if she was anything but.
When my children reach dating age, I am strongly, very very strongly, going to recommend they date fellow Catholics - so that they avoid the very problems you are encountering, unfortunately.
You're right, it 'is' worth a shot. Perhaps and your girlfriend could spend more time discussing each other's denomination. She might discover you two have a lot more in common than she realized. See what happens, and good luck.
2007-01-24 03:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by Daver 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm going to share with you a similiar experience that I had with a girl.
She claimed to be a "christian" and instead of going to a public school,of which in my opinion a public school is a "real" school she went to a christian school and because I wasn't a christian she broke up with me but a month later I found out that she got pregnant by another guy of which I believe she was cheating on me the whole time I was dating her.
Correct me if I'm wrong but is pre-martial sex against the christian belief?
You are a catholic and I'm a strong believer in christianity but I'm not a christian simply because I have been in situations where a "christian" kicks you when you're down and wants to throw stones at you and they want to crucify you over the least little thing that you say or do that goes against their belief and also they seem to want to concern their self more about politics in Washington DC,what movies comes out of Hollywood and what is going on in the world today more than they dwell in the word.
I say this like I have said many times before that let those believe and disbelive what they want to believe and disbelieve and also live and let live and let God be the judge over who is right and who is wrong.
2007-01-21 01:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would agree with the no sex before marriage - catholics are very hung up on this usually - its surprising to read that a protestant is taking this one seriously - because usually most protestants have tried it before marriage.
I'm ex-protestant & my spouse is a lapsed catholic. we send our kids to catholic school, but do NOT take them to church. I would probably have not married the spouse if he had been a religious catholic, so I can understand where your g/f is coming from.
Protestants do have this huge aversion to worshipping statues/idols and it seems that the Virgin Mary is a big barrier in your relationship. Protestants say we can pray to God directly.
Catholics insist that you cant - you MUST pray to the saints and to Mary to intercede for you. Especially when one of the commandements does say "thou shalt put no other gods before me" and yet (from the protestants POV) catholics pray to Mary, and not to God.
2007-01-21 01:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People from different religions can date but it can be complicated. Relationships are work no matter what is your faith. Pray about this situation. I do not even like the word religion. I follow Jesus. I attend currently non-denominational Christian church. I do not think your problem is about the religion...something else is going on.
2007-01-21 01:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by SeeTheLight 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bible say that people who date outside their religion are "unevenly yoked". light with dark. it's more difficult for a household to have unity if you don't believe the same things. a jew and a catholic, now 1/2 of the kids will celebrate xmas and the other half Hanukkah?
solomon had many wives who didn't serve his god and he was turned away from true worship.
2007-01-21 01:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by Debt Free! 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-07 12:05:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just didn't like your spelling.
Yes, a "Christian" relationship means no sex.
If you think Yahoo! Answers is stupid, why are you here?
A woman is a reflection of her man, do you really want her to become more and more like you? Eek....
The first answerer gave the best answer.
2007-01-21 01:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋