ok heres the situation...we were together almost 5 years...were young also..im 22 shes 19..but we broke up like 2 months ago cus she said she wanted to be single and see what it was like cus i was her first real boyfriend..well immediately after we break up like the next day shes hanging out with this new guy..well i find out today that she had sex with him which makes me think hes the reason we broke up and i really im sick to my stomach about this...she said she couldnt get back with me during the 2 months cus she thought i couldnt handle the fact that she slept with someone else..i was her first by the way..but im trying to deal with this because i want to be with her...im willing to try to look past this but im having such a hard time...and then she dropped a bomb on me..turns out this guy is her neighbor..he lives downstairs..if we got back together it would be a long distance relationship..she lives in so cal im in nor cal..i dont know what to do
2007-01-21 00:18:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she said she would get back together with me if i could get over all that crap...but i mean how am i supposed to get over the fact that she had sex with this guy and is probably the main reason we broke up in the first place and now if we got back together he lives right down the stairs...i would only see her every 2 weeks and im just worried about this other guy...i really just found out about this 10 minutes ago and im tripping so bad about this..i dont know what to do..i love her so much and have been completely miserable these last 2 months...but im just scared i wont be able to accept the fact she slept with this guy and hes her neighbor
2007-01-21 00:21:59 · update #1
we wernt together when she had sex with him...
2007-01-21 00:26:09 · update #2
well she says that after we broke up she had sex with him once..she said after that she realized she made a mistake and wanted to be with me again but felt it was too late because she had sex with him..
2007-01-21 00:30:19 · update #3
No--if she cheated on you the first time, she will again. She's just looking for a BBD (Bigger and Better Deal) But ,would like to have you on the hook just in case she can't find one---play you like a fish.
2007-01-21 00:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by redrepair 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 22 years old; whats the hurry. An EX is an Ex for a reason. Plus; long distance relationships are very difficult.And trust issues make it worse. Move on.
2007-01-21 00:26:00 · answer #2 · answered by David V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well now tat once she has already slept with her neighbour who stays jus downstairs it will not take a long time for them to sleep again in your absence. u r gonna be only once in 2 weeks wit her who knows what will happen in between this time gap. and even tat guy is not too far. so now everytime ur mind will definitely think wats goin on between these two people especially in ur absence. so this is really gonna make your life even more miserable rather than now u broke up with her. even if she says tat she will be faithful to you only and needs u only still that guy will never leave her he can do anything with her now tat she has slept with him. i strongly suggest u forget this girl give yourself sometime think over other activities and when u feel tat u r totally out of her thoughts find someone who really wants to be with you and for you.
2007-01-21 00:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by ROCK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, listen to the answers below...everbody is telling you to forget her...but no one is listening to YOUR desires!!
I'd say that if you feel so much for her, give it another go!! These people probably have a relationship...so they don't know what it feels like to miss what's gone.
Sounds to me SHE was PLAYED by the guy downstairs....so as not to feel humiliated she wants to show that she is a valid person who can get guys...she's using you. Can you handle that?? If you luv her then be happy w/ her...don't twist your heart up so soon in life. There is more coming down the line..unbreak your heart...see her as soon as possible....and be happy for a bit! That's all we have really....very short time to live this life....make it livable.
2007-01-21 00:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the love of...
If you are OK with her sleeping with the neighbor guy while you are far away take her back. If not, don't. After you let her cheat on you and take her back she knows she will be able to do it again.
Otherwise try to find a woman you can trust.
2007-01-21 00:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by dullorb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would normally say forgive and forget but under the circumstances you describe I would say "no way" would I trust her. You are both still young and need to be out with other friends. There is more to life than sex.
2007-01-21 00:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by blue2blnde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO thats why she is your ex. Relationships are kinda like glass once broke very hard to put back together. Move on find somone else.
2007-01-21 00:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by XC220 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, well my bf had tha same problem. My advice is wht he told me about it.
He said that he had to move on with his life bcuz it tore him up so much that he thought he cld never go back to his ex. he keep thinking bout wht she did and it played in his mind ovr and ovr and ovr again. he finally jst completely broke up with her and had nuthing to do with her at all. yea it hurt him 4 awhile and there were times he jst wntd her back but he stayed strong.
and he found me now we r gonna get married soon.
there are plenty of fish in tha sea and ur pick has to come frm tha heart i knw u luv her but she did wht she did and u will never 4get that evr! so i think u shld move on with ur life and u never knw wht u will find it might jst b tha best 4 u!!
good luck hope this helped
2007-01-21 00:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO don't get back with her. You live too far away from her to make it work. You'd always have to worry if she's cheating on you. She has no respect or love for you if she's sleeping with her neighbor. It will hurt like hell but don't go back with her.
2007-01-21 00:25:23 · answer #9 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, i would not think of being together with her anymore. and Second, there is a little chance for you to maintain your relationship. Third, there will always be another guy and the problem is that your gf is not loyal to you.
2007-01-21 00:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by Delphi p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋