my daughter asked me to help her go back to her husband andthen when they got to rifle colo she called her ex boy friend to come pick her up.WEll i cried for half a day till i found out she ws here and okay.Then her husband brought her kids by for me to see and her to say good bye to and they got into a fight and he was arresrted and spent the night in jail. then while this was going on the cop called an abulance and the ran an ekg and was saying seet hese spikes your are having a heart attack and we need to get you to a hospital. well i dint go because five off my grandkids were her and crying and ascared. so yeaterday after dropping of the rental i had her and her ex picked me up and i tried apoligizing to him. i told him i only said what she told me to.She told him i forced her to go back. all i want is for her to be happy.anyway i came home and cleared allher stuff out and needless to say more jaw pain and chest pain how do i make it clear i wont live long if she keeps it up.
2007-01-21 00:14:10 · 5 answers · asked by furby_lost 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the problem is i was raised to always be there for youre kids but feel she has gone to far and dont know how to change it or the fact its gonna get me in the end
2007-01-21 00:22:53 · update #1
You need to start worrying about yourself FIRST, to heck with the kids and grand kids, otherwise you aren't going to be around to help them with life.
Get yourself to a doctor and start taking care of YOU FIRST, get in better health and don't worry about your kids and grand kids for awhile. Young people usually do okay they are resilient in most things and bounce back pretty good.
Just take care of yourself first so you can be there for them in the future. If you don't you won't be here to help anyone.
2007-01-21 01:21:31 · answer #1 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her what is going on with your heart. When she finds out that the way she has been acting is gonna kill you she might understand, and change for the better. I think it might have been a bad thing to go back to her ex-husband. That might be most of the problem.
2007-01-21 00:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea luvs u...maybe...lol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a child hurts you emotionally enough to give you chest pains, it's time to sever the relationship till she grows up. Have nothing to do with her for this entire time! Get yourself health! You will not do as well as a martyr as you can do right here where it counts! Her kids may need you more than she, so be there for them.
2007-01-21 00:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to see an Cardiologist, jaw pain is a classical symptom for a women in having a heart attack
2007-01-21 00:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by MJ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop the enabling behavior. Being there also means giving her the space she needs to grow and HELP HERSELF.
If you can't detach, just let us know when you'll be on Jerry Springer - sounds like lots of drama going on there.
2007-01-21 01:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋