we've been dating for almost 3 months, we had a complete sexual relationship with a complete committment, but now he tells me that his feelings are changed and he's no longer feeling the passion and love... when i asked: when did this feeling come? he told me not too long, maybe a couple of weeks ago. i was totally shocked and feeling down, and never felt like living anymore but, does it deserve a chance? i mean he was extremely busy lately and maybe his work and busy life confused his feelings towards me, i've already sent him an sms telling him that i'll be away for a while then we'll see what will happen... shall i go ahead and act like a friend(cuz deep inside i'm dying to have him back) or shall i just stay away for a while and give him a chance? if yes then what are we at the time? still committed? or not? or what shall i do? i'm completely desperate..
2007-01-20 23:49:17 · 9 answers · asked by F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump the Bastard, when something like this happens it is because he has his eye or another part of his body on someone else. They tell you that they "still want to be friends" in order to put off a confrontation. Then when you catch him with another women and get all fired up; he just goes "hey, we are just friends--why are you getting upset"--then you end up apologizing
2007-01-21 00:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by redrepair 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has all been handled very well and maturely so far. I'm impressed. I think it may have been a mistake diving into a sexual relationship within 3 months (probably from day 2 or 3). You're meant to start at the shallow end, and let things deepen.
2007-01-21 07:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by rage997_666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you, i'd just dump him. but if you really want him back, then dont give up. i mean sometimes people just rush their decisions and regret for life. and i wouldn't want you to regret after losing him. so, if you still want him back, here's what i think you should do:
its obvious that his feelings for you have lessened. but it doesn't mean its completely gone. i think he just needs some time to settle himself, cos as you said, he's been pretty busy lately. and maybe he thinks its too stressful to have a girlfriend right now. so just leave him alone for a while, dont bother him too much. send a message once in a while to ask if he's doing okay. and when his problems at work are all settled, he'd start to realize how lonely it is without you. so for now, just keep distance and try not to give him stress. he'd go back to you sooner or later.
2007-01-21 08:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by kill.me.slowly. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its like he has achieved what he wanted.okay he is busy in his work but why only now he is busy he was not before (those three months)when he was doing all this with you. only now his feelings have changed after doing evrything with you. it does not sound like a mature relationship . it only sounds like he got what he wanted and now tat he wants to move on to the next and keep you aside as a stock may be if he needs it again from you he can come back to you at anytime saying tat he is still your friend and if he comes back again he will do all tat he wants and eventually dump you. so before it gets too late you dump him and find someone . who will be always thre for you even before and after having sex. if the behaviour changes after all this then definitely he is not the rite guy.
2007-01-21 09:12:43 · answer #4 · answered by ROCK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I will assume you are a beautiful person. Why let the ugliness of his lack of commitment affect you. He clearly is one of conquest. Don't hang around as one of his trophy humps. Find you a real man that can love you back.
2007-01-21 07:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that friends is out of the question..as it never works out that way anyways. Make him think that you are finished with him. If he comes back..which I am sure he will...then you know it is meant to be.
2007-01-21 07:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You agree on his terms
2007-01-21 08:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by hedonic penchant for graffiti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's his way of saying sayonara to you baby.he's already got what he wanted from you anyway.what else can you do?you already gave him your cup of life.move on.
2007-01-21 07:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by Eds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i donno but dont act like that cuz if u evaluate boys they would think they are so important!and act like u dont care about him (but B careful not loosing him )then he likes to get closer to you.
2007-01-21 08:08:17 · answer #9 · answered by delara v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋