Ok heres the thing, my girl is very good in bed. She likes being a little rough, likes to be dominated and manhandled. Now I had never done that and its different to me, Im not used to it but I dont mind doing it to her. My question is this: why do females like this? She likes being choked, held down and basically dominated and Im affraid that I might hurt her, Im not too rough but its kinda scary.
2007-01-20 23:39:56 · 17 answers · asked by joeyschmoeytx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I like this to. One thing is that some women like to feel that they are be embraced and cuddled with. Then you have the ones like me. Anything that you think that would hurt a little; spanking, choking, pulling hair, scratching. These are the women that like to be handle roughly. It is just a style they like. We like it because it is different and make everything feel different. We like to feel incharge and when we are being bad we like to be punished. In definition it is a woman who plays the dominant role in a sado-masochistic sexual relationship or encounter. She is just a freak honey. There is nothing wrong with that. Also the choking is good to do but make sure that she is still able to breath regularly. Have FUN!
2007-01-20 23:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by fxysxysrkly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all females like this. As a matter of fact, few do. Everyone is different as to what they like and dislike. I have never understood the choking and domination thing. But, whatever two people do with each other behind closed doors and as long as they both agree on it, then it should be OK. I don't blame you for being scared though. When you are playing like that there is room for error and someone could really get hurt. It is playing with fire. You are sleeping with her so why are you not asking her why she likes this? I would be interested in knowing myself. I can't imagine a man choking me during sex. It would not be a turn on to me at all.
2007-01-20 23:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by sunny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why some women like it but they do. If you are concerned about hurting her, you might want to discuss using a safe word in order to know when to stop if things get out of hand. The main idea is one person will say the word to the other so the other knows when to quit. I have a friend who is a dominatrix and that is what she does. Not just a word like stop, but something totally obvious to the both of you because it just would not normally be spoken during love making. Ex: Soup. Sounds weird, but it may make you feel a little more comfortable about the situation if you know there is a way to put a little control to it.
2007-01-20 23:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a "paraphillia" or however you spell it. Lots of women have a rape fantasy, not to be confused with a desire to be raped. Maybe while masturbating but the actual excperience with an unapproved partner would still be traumatic. I believe I have a rape fetish and enjoy the same things as you do (as well as other things, like slow, sleepy, soft, romantic sex) because the FIRST things I found as a child (parents porn) were all s&m related. I was very young 4-5 and some psychologist believe the FIRST couple of things you see as a youth is what forms as a desire, that's just a theory though. The first things I found were a photo of a woman tied up and gagged spread eagle and another photo of one woman beating another woman while a master/masked man watched.
2016-05-24 04:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um. Well, I like to be dominated as far as hair-pulling and giving him complete control. But choking!? Dude, I have no idea.
My suggestion would be to set limits - have a code word like 'monkey'. if you are hurting her or getting too rough, she can say 'monkey' and everything ends.
2007-01-20 23:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mintygoodness1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not alot of girls are like that. I love to be dominated but not like that. So you should know the limit but just make sure you dont hurt her.
2007-01-20 23:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by xhellsxlilxangelx 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Different strokes for different folks.
Don't ever forget that a huge % (like 90%) of orgasm is psychological
or that the choking can get dangerous real fast!
2007-01-20 23:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by jetero41 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, my husband is sort of the same way....but he knows I don't like that kind of thing, and I just go along with it. I feel so stupid "talking dirty"...that's what he likes the most. I too don't understand what turns him on with that smut. I enjoy normal, regular caressing, touching, quiet, kissing sex. Actually, I try to avoid sex with him for that very reason. I am soon going to a counselor for various things, and that is one of them...he will eventually sit in on a session...it will involve him.
2007-01-20 23:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some women do some don't. I would rather be in control but sometimes it just feels good having the man in control. I guess it just makes you feel weak and powerless which can sometimes be a big turn on.
2007-01-20 23:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by Deleted 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be careful, especially if your not familiar with this type of sex. she may like it but it has to be a mutual thing. some gals are into pain and torture, it gives them a thrill and high. remember different strokes 4 different folks.....be careful.
2007-01-20 23:46:34 · answer #10 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋