How could someone have an orgasm if the guy has a small penis?

Question

Some people say size shouldn't matter but i have been unable to have one so any help would be helpful.

Answer 1

You are one funny girl!!! Your problem is that you have everything wrong. May be you’ve been watching too many porn movies or listening too much to other people. You need to use common sense and separate what society thinks is normal or real and what \really is real. Quite often there’s a big difference.

Now, do yourself a favor and think really hard about what I’m about to say…YOU DO NOT NEED A PENIS TO SATISFY WOMEN!!! If a penis is so indispensable when it comes to pleasing women, how is it that lesbians, who don‘t even have penises, can satisfy other women? I've talked to a lot of girls who swear that a skilled lesbian can satisfy them in ways that most guys, even with big penises, can only dream of. Oh and please, put aside the misconception that lesbians always use dildos and vibrators. Which is not true at all. I know some lesbians and bi females that have never owned nor used one. That's something that women do in porn movies because those movies are targeting men. I’m not saying that some don’t use them, but ask any lesbian that use them and they’ll tell you that they can live without them.

I think that everyone puts too much emphasis on size. Adding to the pressure that men already have to perform in bed so that he’ll be perceived as manly men. Men don’t want to be perceived as less manly than others and less capable of pleasing women. In a similar way that women don‘t want to be perceived as been less pleasurable than others. But in the case of women, it’s the opposite than men‘s. Small vaginas are better than large ones. The smaller and tighter a girl is, the better and more pleasurable she is! To some people and cultures, a tight vagina represents youthfulness, while a loose one represents old age and/or too much use. May be you are the one with the problem, have you stopped to think about that?

Just like men don’t like to amid that we have small ones, women don’t like to amid that they have large and loose ones. Have you ever heard a girl bragging about being big and loose? Which I find ironic, because women keep telling us that we shouldn’t worry so much about our size and yet, women are very sensitive about how pleasurable they feel to men. Tell a girl that she feels really loose and watch her reaction. Trust me, is not one of joy!

The reason they don’t understand us is because they are not made as much fun of and society does not put so much pressure on them to perform in bed, as it does on men. For the most part, all a girl needs to do is to lay there and let the guy do all the work. If a girl feels loose, then she blames it on his "small" penis. I have a friend that has a 7 ½” penis (according to him and one of his exgirlfriends) and one day he told me that his new girlfriend felt loose. When they broke up, she told people that he had a small penis. I guess 7 1/2" wasn't enough for her. It’s always the fault of the guy, isn't it? Go figure!

Stop worrying so much about his size and worry about educating yourself and your boyfriend in what it takes to really please women. Read books, magazines, ask your doctor, seek the help of a sex therapist, explore each other’s bodies, etc.

I myself have a small penis (4 ½”) and for the past few months, I’ve spent a lot of time listening to women. After talking to a lot of them, including lesbians and bisexuals (I live close to West Hollywood, which in case you don‘t know, it‘s a gay community), I now have a better understanding of what women really want in bed. I’m going to use my own analogy to illustrate how sex between men and women should be. Again, this is based on my conversations with women.

I compare sex with a nice romantic dinner. Our penis, regardless of size, is NOT the main dish on the table. Kissing, hugging, caressing…in other words, lot’s of affection is the appetizer. A full body massage with soft kisses all over her body is a great appetizer. Then comes the main dish, which is a combination of masturbation and oral sex (on her). Once she’s had enough (once she‘s pleased), then your penis becomes the dessert (and the main dish for us guys). Then comes the toppings (whip cream, nuts, etc.) on the desert. The toppings are the kisses, the holding and caressing that comes after sex while laying in bed together.

Unfortunately, most guys, specially “big” guys think that a couple of minutes of kissing, masturbation and/or oral sex is the appetizer, and their penis is the main dish and the dissert all rapped into one. Some guys think that the appetizer is the girl going down on them and not the other way around.

Take some responsibility for your own pleasure and spend some time to teach your boyfriend how you like your food cooked and served. The only way to achieve that is through communication. Put yourself in his shoes. If you felt loose and big to him, would prefer for him to communicate his feelings to you or would you prefer him to dump you for someone “tighter“? By him communicating with you, it gives you both an opportunity to look for answers together. Like consulting a doctor, doing pelvic floor exercises (such as quick vaginal contractions, contractions and hold, vaginal weights, etc.). Together, you may find solutions, other wise, all you are doing is running away from your own responsibility. Think about it!

Answer 2

I LOVE smaller penises. I think they're so adorable and VERY sexy. I love deep throating all the way to the balls (and licking the balls at the same time) you can have so much fun with a smaller penis. I hate larger cocks!! They're "ok" but not as fun. I enjoy seeing the man happy too and I think men with smaller penises enjoy blow jobs because we can do so much more with them. Everyone is different but that's what I like. Also I never have an orgasm from penis penetration anyway and I'm fine with that. I only have orgasms with great oral Sex with lots of focus on the clit. Or a man that's really into my boobs. I can have an orgasm from good Bob suckling too. By

Overall Sex is very mental and also you have to be turned on by the person not just the body part.

Answer 3

Small Dick Orgasm

Answer 4

well most of us don't have orgasm .. a lot of times we fake it big or small. it is not the size it is all about the motion in the ocean. don't feel bad just keep making him think he has a big one.. maybe you should try four play before sex it might work or bring in some toys

Answer 5

stop focusing on the size of his penis, already in your mine you are saying he has a small penis, take the focus off of the small penis, it is all in the mine. Maybe you can have more foreplay, add some goodies, things that will help take your mine away from the size of his penis, to what it can do, how good it can make you feel, tell him to talk to you, all these things will help arouse you, so by time he is ready to actually penetrate, you will be so hot and ready, that small penis will make you have many orgasm, cause you want him to, you are not focusing on the small penis. Do not focus on the negative things, reverse that energy on the positive things. Talk to him gentle and kind let him know what you want and need.

Answer 6

The clitoris must be stimulated in order to achieve orgasm. You may ask your partner to do this or you can do this while he's doing his thing.

frankly i would have your partner practice doing it more with you as he gains experience you shouldn't have a problem achieving orgasm. However, if this doesn't work, i'd perhaps find someone who has larger equipment.

Answer 7

Well one thing the smal penis is a factor. If you can't get off then you are not going to be happy. Meaning that he needs to be gone.
It maybe mean but he will be able to sastify someone better than he can you. You relationship will go down the hole because you are going to get frustrated. If you don't want to leave him then go to a sex store and get the pump and tell him to have fun. There is no other option. Also another thing that you can do is to make him go down on you. Tell him do this until you go and then have sex. The sex will be unhandleable when you have already gotten off. Have FUN!

Answer 8

foreplay has a lot to the orgasm possibilities.

Answer 9

size doesnt matter but it is the guy's job to make u orgasm
i have experience 2 different people who i have sex with, my boyfriend and my ex-boyfriend
my ex-boyfriend who i lost my virgin to, we have sex many times but i cant seem to orgasm even his pen-is is longer and bigger than my boyfriend now.
my boyfriend now, he really know how to move it so i orgasm all the time we do it.

Answer 10

Size doesn't matter in this case. Its just a case of someone not doing their job. You don't need a ballbat sized weapon to get the job done. Try new things.

Answer 11

I would suggest starting with your doctor Honey, not us. We're your last ditch and you can see by some of the answers, no one is going to take you serious.
You may have an actual physical problem that would take little to fix. It could be psychological. Start with the doctor.